We all want to be the best possible parents we can be. We want to implement structure without stifling their decision making. We want to be an excellent example of an adult to our children while at the same time wanting them to think we are halfway “cool.” How in the world do we go about having all of these attributes at once?
Flip through to read four ways you can be a cool parent.
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Never play the "because I said so" card. Communicate!
Never say "because I said so!" It is important to give children a valid excuse as to why they cannot do something. With a better explanation from you, they may begin to see and understand why they cannot do something. It is also important to let your child argue their point as to why they should be able to do something. This way a collaborative decision can be made that will make your child feel more involved in decision-making. It's also important not to make the excuse, "when you're older you will understand." Give them real reasons!
Never compare your child to the way you were growing up. Different times make different people and your child is not you. Comparing them to how you were may make your child feel limited as to what they can do.
Be a role model. Kids will do more of what you do than what you say.
Children act on what their parents say and do. So, when around your children, say only what you would want them to say and act how you would want them to act. Children want someone to look up to and they know what is appropriate and what is not. If you act as a responsible role model for your children, they will be proud of that.
Focus on yourself from time to time.
When you are happy it is likely to rub off on your children. Children are already emotional enough. They want someone who’s stable and positive who can responsibly react to their emotional break downs.
Get enough sleep, eat right - the effects will show in the temperament you have with your kids.
Children can handle problems. They're smarter than you think.
As a parent, you do not always have to be involved in your children's problems. They are their own people and it is important for them to learn decision making on their own in certain situations. This is how they will develop socially.
If they do come to you for help, for instance on their math homework, talk them through the problem step by step instead of just giving them an answer. This will help them learn how to solve problems on their own and they will appreciate your help and advice.