This is how it starts…
A friend of ours was doing some training for one of those money management insurance companies. The husband and I agreed to listen to one of her presentations. – Anything to help a friend. The gentleman that was leading her presentation asked me what I did for a living. I stuttered for a moment.
“That’s an interesting question.” I told him.
“I’m a freelance graphic artist and a writer – a mommy blogger actually.”
His brow furrowed.
“What exactly does that consist of?”
It was funny that he was asking me this… I was still trying to figure that out myself.
After signing up for our brand new insurance policy (we’re suckers), I started thinking about what it was I actually did.
Back in July of 2011, when I stopped working full time and started on this journey, I was clueless as to what I was getting myself into. I began writing to simply have something to do. I wanted to have a way for family and friends to share in my joy of raising twins – a glorified online scrapbook if you will. Little did I know that there was a name for this. I had inadvertently started a Mommy Blog.
Um… I Have An Addiction
It’s a little known fact that Mommy Blogging has become big business. It’s spread like wildfire and become quite a cultural force to be reckoned with. According to Emarketer, 3.9 million women with children write blogs in the U.S. By 2014, that number will jump to 4.4 million.
Heather Armstrong, who was recently crowned “Queen of the Mommy Bloggers”, stays relatively mum about how much money she actually makes from Mommy Blogging. It’s speculated though that she brings home between 30 to 50,000 dollars per month from her blog Dooce.com. She also boasts upwards of 100,000 hits per day to her site and in 2009 was listed at #26 on Forbes’ Most Influential Women In Media list (25 under Oprah). This woman simply writes about her day, her family… her life, and tons of loyal fans tune in for a play by play.
I was hooked.
Seeing the possibilities, I realized that I could have a voice. I could express my fears and air out my insecurities about parenthood. I could share my thoughts on any and everything knowing that there were potentially people out there who would listen. Blogging has become my secret love…. My obsession. I sit up most nights until 3am (my unofficial bed time) and neurotically go over my blog checking for formatting issues and missed grammatical errors. I want it to be perfect. I actually woke up from a dead sleep at 5am with the idea for this post.
No Need For An Intervention… I’d Like to Think That My Addiction Makes People Smile…
The reality though is that fame and fortune like Ms. Heather Armstrong’s is highly unlikely. It took her years to get to where she is. I’ve been blogging for a little over a year and boast an average of 200 visitors a day. Where are my 100,000 visitors? I want them now. Aesthetically, my blog is top notch compared to the average mommy blog. I know I’m not supposed to say that, but… it is. And I think that I have some pretty good sh*t to say. I’m not narcissistic enough to believe that anyone wants to read about my family 100% of the time so I add useful content. Like who wouldn’t want to know 30+ sure fired ways to piss people off? Where is my Forbes list? I want to be influential!
One thing that I’ve noticed is that most of the top Mommy Bloggers in the game are publicly dealing or have dealt with serious bouts of depression or some personal tragedy. I know people love to relate, but doesn’t anyone want to smile too? I’m not depressed at all. This brings up two serious questions: 1.) can my amusing, “undepressing” (and some times snarky) blog bring readers? And 2.) Is being humorous and laid-back out of style?
I don’t want to imply that things are always peachy here in the We Got Kidz household. The husband and I have occasional “issues” just like any normal couple. He actually just unpacked his bag from the last fight that we had (kidding… sort of), but I don’t want to highlight that. I feel that there is a serious need for more depictions of a fun and positive black families. We like to laugh, and we sincerely hold our family in the highest regard. That’s what I wanted We Got Kidz to convey… but will that prove to be a recipe for success?
Final Step? Acceptance. I Guess Brooding Is the New Black
All I can do is continue to write the interesting content that I pride myself in creating. I hope that there are at least a few people out there who aren’t completely obsessed with watching tragedy and the sucky parts of life.
Every time I see a post that has been shared by one of my readers, or that little blue “like” box has been checked, I gain a little more hope that there are still people out there who simply want to have a quick chuckle and be entertained.