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If you ask any popular search engine, caring, maintaining, and growing an African-American baby’s hair is a mystery. You’ll get a menagerie of articles outlining general maintenance, but not very many online outlets directly address the delicate strands that make up a normal African-American child’s head of hair, or what it is you’re supposed to do exactly to keep those delicate strands healthy and prime for growth.

I went for months without really knowing what exactly I was dealing with on top of my little girl’s head. I knew her texture was different from mine. Her hair was softer, and curled into these perfect little spirals when wet – Nothing like my full head of tight, exquisite, “ziggly” coils.

Related Content: Brown Baby Hair Diaries – An African American Baby’s Hair Journey

I trucked along, throwing braids in her hair here and ponytails in her hair there – sometimes even snapping a comb through her delicate tresses.  It wasn’t until she began to show signs of breakage did I begin to do some hard core research on African-American hair and what exactly made it tick. What I learned led me on an amazing journey of hair discovery and personal growth.

Before you can begin to take care of your little brown baby’s hair properly and prime it for growth, there are two things you must understand. One: moisture is the key to EVERYTHING. African American’s hair, in general, WILL NOT grow without it; but we’ll get to that later. The second thing (and this is only my opinion based on experience) is that you must have a basic understanding of your child’s particular hair type. Without this knowledge, you’ll be hard-pressed to find a hair care regimen that will make your baby’s hair grow.

Related Content: 8 Tips, Tricks, and Cheats to Help You Care for Your African American Baby’s Hair

What works on your cotton soft, wavy tresses may not work on your baby’s head of constantly dry, zig-zag-like “curls”. Knowing, or at least having a general idea of, how each hair type reacts to certain products is a must.

Below you’ll find a texture “typing” system that the majority of “curlys” live by. It was designed by the super-fabulous celebrity hair stylist Andre Walker (This is the guy who does OPRAH’s hair.) and adapted by, one of my all time favorite natural hair websites,[I’m excluding the Type 2 curlys in this list; so if you’d like more information on looser hair types, head here.]

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Click here for detailed descriptions of the above hair types (with recommended hair products for each type)
along with other African American child hair care resources!

Click here for part 2 in the “How to Grow” series! 


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  1. Jasmine
    March 29, 2015 at 1:10 am — Reply

    Hey…. I wanted to know is it a good thing to wash a baby hair so young. My daughter Is 11 months and i wash her hair several times already. I heard it scrip your natural hair oils. A lot of babies don’t benefit trying a lot of products especially being a baby idk what u think???

  2. Beatrice
    March 26, 2015 at 9:21 pm — Reply

    Hi! I need you help! My daughter is 1 and her hair still has not growing! I have tried everything, but nothing worked! Her hair is also really dry! I’m in need of a good shampoo , conditioner and hair dressing for her !!! Please help!!! I need help!

    • March 28, 2015 at 11:36 pm — Reply

      Hi Beatrice,

      First, have you checked with her pediatrician to make sure there are no underlying issues like a vitamin deficiency or a skin issue? Once you’ve got the a-okay from them consider these few questions:
      Are you misting her hair every other day with water from a spray bottle and then sealing that moisture in with an oil or a butter?
      Does your little girl wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase EVERY night?
      Does she get in enough water and green veggies each day?
      Do you deep condition weekly or bi-weekly?
      Are the shampoos you use sulfate free, or are you co-washing?
      Do you avoid brushes and small-tooth combs and only finger detangle her hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner?

      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be some fantastic places to start in regards to getting her hair to retain moisture. Moisture is what she needs in order for her hair to grow. That moisture and hydration will only come from water (inside and out) along with regular conditioning.

      You don’t need a huge arsenal of products. Healthy hair growth is actually only 20% about the products you choose and 80% how you physically treat her hair. There really are no perfect “universal” products that I can suggest that will be guaranteed to make your daughter’s hair grow. A lot of it is going to be about trial and error on your end. With that being said, Shea Moisture has a kids line that a lot of moms tend to love. Start there!

      Good luck! :)

  3. Joanne
    March 25, 2015 at 12:32 am — Reply

    my daughter had a very soft and black hair when she was born , but when she became a year and half year old and as her head grow bigger , her new hair came out much less soft and less black ( so now she has the soft hair she was born with + the new mor dry hair ) , so my question is there a way to improve her hair so all of it will be as black and soft as when she was born ?
    she is now two and half year old

    • March 26, 2015 at 8:37 am — Reply


      There’s not really any way to “go back” to that newborn hair. (If there was, I would’ve done it too! lol) Her hair was that way in the beginning given all of the good “juices and berries” that were floating around in your stomach while she was in there. After a few washes, most babies “true” hair texture will begin to reaveal itself with a few stubborn newborn strands latched on to the ends. It’s time to embrace it and learn the best ways to take care of her unique hair type. Eventually, those newborn ends will need to be trimmed away in order to allow her new her to “breathe”, grow healthy, and thrive.

  4. Chante
    March 24, 2015 at 1:36 am — Reply

    Lol now the form won’t open after purchasing the hair analysis

    • March 24, 2015 at 1:51 am — Reply

      I responded to your email. I’ve got a new site and a new system I’m adjusting to. Again, I appreciate your patience. I’m a one woman show over here. lol. Everything should be up and running now. If you click the link in your email, mow it will direct you straight to the form. I’ve also sent the link to you in your email.

  5. Chante
    March 24, 2015 at 12:18 am — Reply

    I tried buying the hair analysis, but when I go to checkout it freezes.

    • March 24, 2015 at 12:28 am — Reply

      Hey Chante,
      Sorry about that. Checkout is working just fine now.
      Yeah, that hair grease is probably not doing you very much good. If it has petrolatum, petroleum, or mineral oil within the first five ingredients, I’d go ahead and get rid of that. The olive oil and coconut oil sound great, but if you’re not spritzing her hair with water or using a water based leave in first before applying them, you’re not doing her hair any good.
      If she got bumps after the braids were installed there’s a pretty good chance that her braids were installed too tightly.
      If you’re interested in the analysis, try it again. For accurate results, just make sure that her hair is clean (preferably freshly washed) before you do the analysis. You may want to wait until you’ve taken down her braids.

  6. Chanté
    March 23, 2015 at 11:55 pm — Reply

    Can you please help me? I feel like my 2 year old’s hair isn’t growing. I need a hair regime that is going to work. I’ll pay you. Can you please please help me? I oil it daily with olive oil and coconut oil mixed. I also use doctor miracles leave in conditioner every morning. I grease it 3 times a week with BB hair grease. It’s currently in braids, but I’ve noticed she has small bumps now.

  7. Jenna
    March 23, 2015 at 12:11 am — Reply

    Hi –what do you think of Marc’s Hair grease? My daughter 11 months only have hair in the middle. None on the sides or back. In the beginning I was enjoying the fact I noticed hair growth. When she was 8 months I let someone braid her hair which fell out & left a big patch due to tightness I believe. Now it seems like her hair is at stand still & not growing. I wash it & spray with water…. Also Itry pproducts like Carol Daughter…. Not a fan of jamacican Castro Oil not a proven fact for hair growth…now I’m using Jamaican organic extra virgin coconut oil….PS I cannot braid not sure how I would protective style it also what can I do about the patch that came out from tight braids

    Thanks need advice

    • March 23, 2015 at 11:28 pm — Reply

      Hi Jenna,
      I can’t say that I know anything about Marc’s hair grease specifically; but if it has petrolatum, petroleum, or mineral oil within the first five ingredients, I’d skip it.
      Are you spritzing her hair with water and THEN sealing with an oil like extra virgin olive oil, or coconut oil? Do you have her sleeping on a satin pillowcase or blanket at night? Those two things right there will help you tremendously with her hair growth.

      As far as protective styles, I’d say it’s time for you to hit up Youtube and just spend some time looking at tutorials for natural hair styles. Protective styles are a huge key when it comes down to getting natural hair to grow. You’ll need to find one that you can do and perfect it. (2-strand box twists are SUPER easy.) Practice will, of course, make perfect.

      For a more personalized assessment of your daughter’s hair, check out my natural hair analysis. :)

      Good luck!

  8. Elma Jean Jackson
    March 22, 2015 at 11:34 pm — Reply

    Hello My name is Jean!! My daughter is 7yrs old. She started out with a thick head of hair, that would take me a least and hour or so to comb. I made the terrible mistake of perming it to manage it. After two years now, she has breakage, and hair loss. I am now trying the ORS brand of products to help with treating the damage of my mistake. I’ve only being using it for about a couple of weeks. But it doesn’t keep her hair moisturized enough, as she wears her hair down. I’m not sure of what is a good moisturizer for her hair after styling. And what else can I do to help promote hair growth and a good moisturizer for her hair as well. Should I do a protective style for a while to give her hair a rest? HELP!!!

    • March 23, 2015 at 11:48 pm — Reply

      Hi Elma,

      Protective styles and a lot of regular conditioning are going to be key if you’re transitioning her hair out of that relaxer. I’d actually keep her hair in a protective style more often than not. If you haven’t been trimming away that relaxed hair regularly, that line where her natural hair and relaxed her meets is VERY sensitive and can snap without much force. Condition her hair weekly. There is no perfect product for all hair types so finding the right moisturizer for her is going to be a bit of trial and error. If the ORS doesn’t seem to be working, try it for another week or so, and then move on. Shea Moisture products are a line that a lot of naturals live by.

      For a more personalized assessment of your daughter’s hair, check out my natural hair analysis.

      Good luck! :)

  9. LeKehia
    March 20, 2015 at 3:01 pm — Reply

    Hi I was curious as to what age should you start doing your LO hair my daughter is almost four months old and I use water and organic coconut oil in her hair is it too soon to be trying to twist it? This is my first girl and I have no clue on what to do. Should I just let it be and continue with the water and coconut oil?

  10. shandrell
    March 17, 2015 at 11:02 am — Reply

    hi kesha
    i read most of the comments on here and find them very helpful and i have some questions. i have a 11m old daughter and her hair is always dry and the front of her hair is long but the back is short, and i cant get it to grow as long as the front. so i brought some BB castor oil and some blue magic with coconut oil. and was wonder will that work for her dryness and help grow long and thick. and is it okay for me to use those both at the same time or to not use those products at all? and i also wanted to know where can i buy these natural products or what website can i order off of. and also what other products or methods can i do that will also help my daughters hair be healthy, long thick and moisturized

    • shandrell
      March 17, 2015 at 12:12 pm — Reply

      and i also wanted to know is there a type of brand that i would need to be using for oils like coconut oil, olive oil, and Jamaican black castor oil or the aloe vera juice. and where to buy from or order from?

    • March 18, 2015 at 11:23 pm — Reply

      Hi Shandrell,
      To answer your question, no – I wouldn’t use both of those at the same time. Those are some serious oils that if not used properly can end up doing you more harm than good. If anything, stick with the BB castor oil and lose the Blue Magic. Your best bet though is to stick with water and coconut oil for your moisturize for now until you get used to what certain ingredients do.

      Natural products like coconut oil, and extra virgin olive oil can be found at your local Walmart. Aloe vera juice can be found at any Farmer’s Market or Whole Foods. ALL of the products can be ordered on No specific brands work better than another when you’re talking about natural products. If it’s organic, it’s all pretty much made the same.

      Always remember to spritz first and then seal with an oil. Oils are sealers. They should only be used after you’ve applied water or a water-based leave-in conditioner.

      Hope that helps! :)

  11. Jenna Smith
    March 12, 2015 at 2:35 pm — Reply

    Hey my name is Jenna and I have a 13 month old daughter and her hair still hasn’t grown since she had cradle cap when she was 5 months. I’ve tried pink oil moisturizer and also doo gro. I think her cradle cap has came back because her scalp is starting to get dry and flaky spots again. Her and my son, who is 3yrs old has the same type of hair. His hair is currently to the middle of his back and continues to grow but no result on hers. Please can you help!

    • March 15, 2015 at 8:10 pm — Reply

      Hi Jenna,

      Okay, first thing’s first. Your son and daughter don’t have the same type of hair. They may have similar textures and density, but their porosity (how their hair absorbs water) is going to be a little different. Once you’ll accept this you’ll realize that your daughter needs a unique hair regimen that’s exclusive to her. Get rid of the pink oil and doo gro as they contain a lot of cheap oils. They may work on your son, but it sounds like your daughter needs something a little different. Try using water and coconut oil for her. Spritz her hair with water from a spray bottle and use coconut oil to seal in that moisture. The coconut oil has natural healing properties and will help with her cradle cap.

      Good luck! :)

  12. Johniqua williams
    March 9, 2015 at 11:02 am — Reply

    Hello my name is johniqua and I have a 8 month old daughter. Every since she had cradle cap her hair is growing back VERY slowly in the front . And It seems like it’s steady braking off in the back making the bald spot bigger . My daughter hair is very soft and thin so I don’t know what to use for her hair so I brought baby don’t be bald triple strength to see if I’ll see some improvement. Do you have any suggestions for me ? Her birthday is in 4 months and I would like for her to have at least mini fro.

    • March 9, 2015 at 12:56 pm — Reply

      Hi Johniqua!

      My first suggestion would be to get rid of the Baby Don’t Be Bald. That’s got a lot of heavy cheap oils in it that, over time, will end up doing more harm than good.

      Try aloe vera juice. Aloe vera juice is great for growth and will help her to retain moisture. You can purchase it from your local farmer’s market or Whole Foods. Mix it half, and half in a spray bottle with water. Spritz her hair with that daily and be sure to seal in that moisture with an oil like extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil, or Jamaican black castor oil. Oils alone won’t do you any good because you’ll most likely be just sealing in dryness. You’ve got to moisturize her hair first with water or a water-based moisturizer and then seal with an oil.

      Is she sleeping on a satin baby blanket or have you tried having her wear a satin scarf to bed? That will help you out a LOT. Cotton bedding can really do a number on natural hair. It pulls out moisture and creates a lot of friction that can pull and tear hair strands. Get a satin baby blanket if you don’t have one already and tuck it into the sides of her crib. Have her sleep on that EVERY night.

      Healthy hair only grows about a half an inch a month. So you’ll need a little patience, a lot of consistency, and I’m sure you’ll see some results.

  13. natasha
    March 3, 2015 at 7:34 pm — Reply

    Hello my name is Natasha I have a two year old daughter her hair is falling out badly I have try lot of things such ass door grow, sulfur8 for children, don’t be bald now I am trying coconut oil her hair stay really dry I need help bad

    • March 4, 2015 at 10:36 pm — Reply


      Giiiirly! I received your message. I’ll go ahead and be straight-up with you and tell you that I really don’t have the time or the resources to do one-on-one phone consultations. I get hundreds of emails every week from frustrated moms just like you; so understand that I do appreciate your frustration… but I just can’t do it. lol. Your daughter’s hair is very unique; and it will only take you continuing to read, research, and try new things for you to figure out what works on her hair.

      First, though, you need to make sure that there’s no medical reason as to why her hair is falling out. If it’s happening all of a sudden, and it’s excessive then she may have some sort of skin/scalp issues that only a doctor can address. Once you rule that out, consider the following:

      Get rid of the Sulfur8 and the Baby Don’t Be Bald. Those two products contain really cheap oils that can do more harm than good in the long run. Keep going with your coconut oil and make sure you’re applying it AFTER you’ve spritzed her hair with water.

      Having hydrated hair that grows healthy is only 20% about the products you choose and 80% about your hair regimen and how you physically treat your baby girl’s hair.

      Let me give you a few questions to think about:

      Are you misting your baby girl’s hair EVERY DAY or EVERY OTHER DAY with water from a spray bottle and then sealing that moisture in with an oil or a butter?
      Does your little girl wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase EVERY night?
      Does she get in enough water and green veggies each day?
      Do you deep condition weekly or bi-weekly?
      Are the shampoos you use sulfate free, or are you co-washing?
      Do you avoid brushes and small-tooth combs and only finger detangle her hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner?
      Do you put your daughter’s hair in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) regularly for at least a week at a time?

      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be some fantastic places to start in regards to getting her hair to stop breaking and retain moisture. Hair only grows when it’s properly hydrated; and that hydration will only come from water (inside and out) along with regular conditioning.

      Consider those things, keep reading, keep researching, be patient; and I’m sure you’ll see some results. :)

  14. Shaunece Darden
    March 3, 2015 at 7:06 pm — Reply

    Hello my name is Shaunece and I have a three year old daughter that that I just have no clue what to do to her hair. She has about 2 1/2 to three inches on top and literally none in the back…i just have no clue what to put on it. I’ve tried just for me hair care products…I’m not sure what’s the best style to let her wear it in or the products to use. I made the mistake of putting a texturize on it thinking it would help it grow. It didn’t. Please if you have any advice for me it will help. I’m willing to put the effort and work into it. Whatever her hair needs I’m willing to try.

    • March 4, 2015 at 10:41 pm — Reply

      Hi Shaunece,

      A young woman before you seemed to be having very similar issues, so I’ll repeat some of the things I told her:

      Having hydrated hair that grows healthy is only 20% about the products you choose and 80% about your hair regimen and how you physically treat your baby girl’s hair.

      Let me give you a few questions to think about:

      Are you misting your baby girl’s hair EVERY DAY or EVERY OTHER DAY with water from a spray bottle and then sealing that moisture in with an oil or a butter?
      Does your little girl wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase EVERY night?
      Does she get in enough water and green veggies each day?
      Do you deep condition weekly or bi-weekly?
      Are the shampoos you use sulfate free, or are you co-washing?
      Do you avoid brushes and small-tooth combs and only finger detangle her hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner?
      Do you put your daughter’s hair in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) regularly for at least a week at a time?

      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be some fantastic places to start in regards to getting her hair to stop breaking and retain moisture. Hair only grows when it’s properly hydrated; and that hydration will only come from water (inside and out) along with regular conditioning.

      If she’s had a texturizer then you’re going to REALLY have to be careful with her hair. Condition frequently and do some sort of protein treatment monthly. You’ll have to trim away the processed hair as her hair grows.

  15. March 1, 2015 at 11:42 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha, I really appreciate your blog here. I have a 18 month old daughter with about 3 inches on top and nothing anywhere else. It didn’t fall out..She has just never had it. I am wondering if theres anything I can do to make her hair grow on the sides and in the back. All she ever wears is an afro because I don’t know what else to do with what little she has. Also the hair on top is 4c and dry all the time. I do the LOC method and within hours its dry. I really want her to have some hair soon but I dont know if this is genetics, a baby stage she will grow out of or something I can control.
    Please help us.

    • March 2, 2015 at 4:07 pm — Reply

      Hi Ayana,

      Thank you so much for the love on the blog.

      My first question would be, have you spoken with your daughter’s pediatrician or a dermatologist? They may be able to give you some insight into what’s going on. If you HAVE spoken with a doctor and they’ve told you that her hair and scalp are fine, then I wouldn’t sweat it. At this point just concentrate on keeping her hair moisturized. If the LOC method alone isn’t working then you need to start implementing a regular deep conditioning into her hair regimen. 4c hair types need a LOT of moisture. I have 4c hair and have found that my hair needs a good deep conditioning once a week in order for it to grow and remain healthy. Here’s an article that I wrote on some all natural deep conditioning treatments that may help:

      You also need to make sure that she’s getting in the recommended amount of water for her age group each day. Healthy hair growth starts from the inside out. She should also be wearing a satin bonnet or sleeping on a satin pillowcase or blanket EVERY night. Cotton bedding creates a lot of extra friction which probably isn’t helping her hair growth situation. Try using Jamaican Black castor oil in your LOC method. That type of oil promotes hair growth.

  16. Nachae
    February 28, 2015 at 11:04 pm — Reply

    Hi I have a 2 year old daughter
    With spiral curled hair I just wanted to know what to use to keep moisture in her hair

    • March 1, 2015 at 9:58 am — Reply

      Hi Nachae,
      Just use a spritz of water and seal with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Deep condition every other week; and make sure that she gets in enough water each day. Healthy, moisturized hair starts from the inside out.
      Hope that helps!

  17. Monique
    February 25, 2015 at 8:43 pm — Reply

    Hi first let me say that reading all the comments and tips are very helpful. I have started some of these tips and hopeful I will see some results with my daughters hair. My daughter is 3 years old and I struggle with her hair being dry. It seems to grow well in the top to mid part of her head, but the back and sides are short. I keep her hair in two strand twists. The issue is finding a natural product that will work for her. She has a lot of allergies (food), nuts being one of those. Everything seems to have coconut oil, almond oil, etc. I am currently use Cream of nature products for her. What oil, moisturizer, or conditioner can you recommend?

    • March 1, 2015 at 10:18 am — Reply

      Hi Monique,
      So glad that you’re able to get some things from the comments. You’ve got a tough situation. I’m not a medically trained professional so I don’t want to make recommendations for fear of aggravating her allergies.
      I did google “natural hair products for allergic” and a lot of great articles came up that may actually help you; so keep researching, and keep reading. There’s information out there. :)
      Good luck!

  18. Tiera
    February 24, 2015 at 9:41 am — Reply

    Hi I have a 19 month old daughter. Her hair is spirally when wet. I use Shea moisture products on her hair. I wash and condition her on Sunday’s. I daily add just for me moisturizer and a mixture of water and oil to her hair. It just seems to always be so dry. How can I make her hair retain moisture?

    • February 24, 2015 at 11:38 pm — Reply

      Hi Tiera,
      Your baby girl is now old enough for some good deep conditioning treatments. She may have low porosity hair which generally requires weekly deep conditioning involving heat. Here’s an article on some all natural deep conditioning treatments that may help:
      You also should make sure that she’s getting in her daily recommended amount of water each day. Moisturized hair that’s healthy and grows starts from the inside out. She should also be wearing a satin bonnet or sleeping on a satin pillowcase nightly. If she isn’t, that may help out her dryness as well. And if all of that fails, it may simply be your products. The chronic dryness could be the products letting you know that they’re just not working.

      Good luck!


  19. Chante
    February 23, 2015 at 6:48 pm — Reply

    Hi! I’m a mother of a beautiful 2 year old little girl. She was born with a head full of hair, but unfortunately lost it all due to cradle cap. I’ve been told by everyone how to take care of her hair, but I’m completely clueless! I oil it daily with organic coconut oil, wash it every 6 weeks, and I 2 strand twist it nightly or every other night and put a satin cap on top. I also use Shea moisture coconut and hibiscus in the morning. During the day she wears an Afro. The back is still bald so I was trying to let that grow in before actually styling it. The top is getting longer along with the sides and everyone is telling me I need to do her hair lol. I don’t want to brush it because Im afraid it will come out and I don’t want to use heavy products like grease! Her hair is fine like mine as well. Help me please!!!!!!

    • February 24, 2015 at 11:52 pm — Reply

      Hi Chante,
      Do you spritz her hair with water before you apply your oils or leave-ins? By just using oils and creams without water, you could just be sealing dryness into her hair. You’re right to stay away from the brush. Use your fingers and a wide tooth comb (if necessary) to detangle her hair. And you’re also right to stay away from those thick gooey hair greases. Just concentrate on spritzing and sealing: Spritz hair with water from a spray bottle first, and then seal that water in with an oil like your coconut oil. Always apply water first, and THEN your product; and make sure you’re applying from root to ends concentrating most of your efforts on her ends.

      Hope that helps! :)

  20. OLEVIA
    February 22, 2015 at 2:30 pm — Reply


    • February 22, 2015 at 4:51 pm — Reply

      Hi Olevia,

      Unfortunately, there’s no going back from a relaxer. If you want to transition her hair back to it’s natural state, you’re in for a long journey of regular moisturizing and conditioning and regular trimming until all of the processed hair has been snipped away.

      Start with the basics and make sure she’s getting in enough water each day and wearing a satin scarf or sleeping on a satin pillowcase EVERY night. She’ll need weekly or bi-weekly deep conditioning treatments, and just be sure to keep it moisturized with a spritz of water and an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil to seal.

  21. Carmen
    February 21, 2015 at 11:10 am — Reply

    I don’t know what to do about my babies is very dry and corse I need to Know what I can use on her hair shampoo conditioner grease all products please she is 4 years old I was keepng it braided but it seems to come out more with braids is there anything I can pick up from local beauty supply store and what if I may ask qhat kind of hair styles should I be doing to her hair please help me

  22. Deniese
    February 19, 2015 at 12:58 pm — Reply

    Hello. I love reading all of your comments. I keep my 8 yr old daughters hair in protective styles often. How do you suggest moisturizing and sealing with a style like box braids?

    • February 19, 2015 at 2:51 pm — Reply

      Hi Deniese!
      Box braids are a great protective style that are actually easy to moisturize as you’ve got prime access to the scalp and ends. Spritz with water from a spray bottle lightly and seal with your oil or cream from root to tip concentrating most of your efforts on the ends. It’s best to do this before bed as you can cover her hair with a satin bonnet or scarf right after you’ve moisturized to cut down on frizzies. Here’s an article that I wrote on caring for protective styles that may help:

      Thanks for reading! :)

  23. Breea
    February 8, 2015 at 4:38 am — Reply

    Is Carol’s Daughter products too strong for infant hair —about 10 months. I purchase product already for my daughter

    • Breea
      February 8, 2015 at 4:53 am — Reply

      Also I purchase the regular kind not kids

    • February 9, 2015 at 11:26 pm — Reply

      Hi Breea,

      Carol’s Daughter is a great brand who pride themselves on using all natural ingredients. I don’t see anything wrong with experimenting with one or two of their products on her. I’m using the word “experiment” because in the end, you may find that her hair just doesn’t respond well to the brand. This whole process is about trial and error. But I say go for it! :)

  24. Michelle
    February 5, 2015 at 1:23 am — Reply

    Great site! I wanted to comment on my hair growth experience, maybe it’ll help someone. Years ago I had a nightmare experience with my first relaxer. The stylist over processed my hair and it began to fall out, immediately! I also had watery blisters all over my head. I read and researched and being from the islands I talked to family about ways to care for hair.

    First advice was hair Nutrition. Healthy eating is healthy hair. Hair is protein, eating good protein feeds the hair. And the best protein for hair is Fish. I ate steamed fish once or twice a week. I shampooed only twice a month with pure Castile shampoo. That triggered growth! My Caribbean family swears by Lanolin and Coconut Oil only! Especially for young kids. I slathered on coconut oil first, then a deep heat cap. Then shampooed with Castile, after I would massage a thin layer of Lanolin into my scalp. Lanolin is the natural oil that lubricates Sheep’s wool. It made my hair stronger. I’d hang my head upside down and dry massage my scalp every night. I could feel the warm flow through my scalp. I never use anything with mineral oil or beeswax or extra ingredients that just clog your follicles. I was told to keep my ends trimmed, which was hard at first because it was already short and I wanted it to grow! When your ends are much thinner than the roots, your hair is losing protein and will split up the shaft, so I started trimming. My hair started growing, fast! I continued this routine and got 7 inches new growth in 8 months after the trims. For kids it’s best not to stress the hair or the scalp with a lot of tension, because their growth pattern and texture is in the process of establishing itself. Free, loose (not tight) protective styles are best. Thanks! You do a great job with so much helpful information! And your baby girl is a doll!! :)

    • February 6, 2015 at 12:39 pm — Reply

      Fantastic story Michelle!!! Thank you for sharing this. :) (And thanks for the love on my baby girl!)

  25. Brittani
    February 2, 2015 at 10:56 am — Reply

    I admire every single video you post showing the world basic hair care regimen for your beautiful baby girl. Although you follow a daily routine for her, do you think most of her hair retention come from genetics & hormones?

    • February 3, 2015 at 12:03 am — Reply

      Hi Brittani,

      That’s a fantastic question. And thank you for showing love to my videos and children. :)
      To answer your question honestly, I would have to say yes. My daughter does in fact have an “easier” hair type/porosity that retains moisture easily. With that being said, those genetics wouldn’t mean a thing if I handled her hair improperly. Her hair, just like any other natural hair, requires a regular moisturizing routine and a lot of finesse. Her results can be achieved on any hair type as long as you’ve got a good consistent regimen that you stick with, drink plenty of water (which she loves), and treat the hair gently.

  26. Fee
    January 31, 2015 at 12:27 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha. Thanks for breaking this info into simpler form. I’ve been on quite a few sites for NH and seldom get responses to my concern, so after a while, I simply stopped researching. Saw this article and decided to try again: my daughter is now 10 and I have disastrously damaged her hair. From age 5-9, I kept her hair in cornrow braids (I cannot braid, so I had several people doing her braids) and sometimes kept the style for up to 4-6 weeks. The older she became, I began using synthetic hair with the styles.

    Last year when she turned 10, I allowed her to get twists using human hair thinking that would help it look more natural and help to grow. Since August (when she got the twists). I had her hair maintenanced by the stylist twice. I also bought natural moisturizers for her to use on her head every other day or so. It seemed to be working well until I took down her hair last night – extremely tangled with product build-up and could not detangle without using something to soften it so I blobbed cowash in each section of her head and finally was able to detangle. Afterwards, I shampooed with mixed chicks products (all hair stores were closed to get what i normally use) and was able to get it cleansed. Of course, the real issue is my daughter thought her hair would have more length to it instead of just extremely thick, coily, split ended hair. Needless to say she is quite heartbroken.

    I don’t have the energy (health issues) to return to my natural regimen I used to do with her when she was 5 years old and younger; nor do I have the funds to keep up regular maintenance (unemployed since June) so my one option is to have her hair twisted again and wait until I am able to have enough money to get her hair done again. Very stressful and heartbreaking that I cannot provide this for her like would so love to be able to do.

    This time, I will have to get synthetic twist hair because I cannot afford the human hair on this go round. Is there any advice I can get to help me make my daughter happy in the long run?


    • January 31, 2015 at 3:34 pm — Reply

      Hi Fee,

      Sorry to read of your troubles. First off, don’t stop researching! The answers are out there. If you have an internet connection and a few extra minutes per day keep reading and learning. Back when we were growing up we didn’t have the resources that are available to us today. Take advantage of it!

      Read this article ASAP: This may give you the answer as to why protective styles (braids, twists) aren’t working for your daughter. The reality is that protective styles are the best thing for naturals; so you need to get to the route of why they seem to be damaging her hair. It could be the stylist, or it could be because you’re not conditioning, moisturizing while her twists/braids are in. It could even be as simple as her just not getting in enough water and green veggies each day. Whatever the case, it’s time to get to the route of that before you have her hair done again.

      Wearing the hair naturally doesn’t require a lot of money. You can make a lot of your deep conditioning and moisturizing treatments yourself at home. You just need patience, and a little extra time.

      Hope that helps! :)

  27. Fatima
    January 30, 2015 at 10:03 am — Reply

    Hi Kesha
    Your blog is fabulous and full of helpfull infos. Thanks for that. But at the moment I am kind of lost and I would like your guidance please. I have 4 girls 2, 4, 6 and 7 years. Their hairs are kind of dry and I have never been doing much of moisturize and stuffs like. Only plating basically. I would like you to help please and give me a monday to sunday routine to get their hairs growing. How many times should I wash, moisturize, seal please. You might not be able to give products names ( I would love it if you could lol) but please let me know the ingredients I should look for and those I should avoid in the products. And also the tools like the ideal brush… I already got the water spray and the wide tooth comb. Thanks so much for your help.

    • January 31, 2015 at 3:45 pm — Reply

      Hi Fatima,

      You’re taking the fun out of the whole natural hair journey! lol. I can’t break down daily routines that would be perfect for your girls. There is no “one size fits all” hair routine or hair products.
      Sorry. :(
      Having natural hair is all about trial and error. What works perfectly on one daughter may not work for your other. Hair is unique to the individual. One daughter’s hair may respond well to regular protein treatments and the others hair may not. Another daughter’s hair may do well with products that contain cheap oils and another’s hair may not. With that being said, there ARE some universal truths to natural hair that I can share to get your started:

      – Make sure they get in enough water each day. Healthy hair growth starts from the inside out.
      – Only detangle their hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner. No dry combing or brushing and no small-toothed combs. Finger detangle when you can.
      – They all need to wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase NIGHTLY. Cotton bedding can really do a number on natural hair.
      – Put their hair in protective styles (braids, cornrows, twists) OFTEN. The less you have to manipulate their hair, the better.
      – Spritz and seal! Spritz hair with water. Water is your friend! Seal with an oil or butter after spritzing. This is how to properly moisturize natural hair.
      – Deep condition often. Once a week or once every other week is ideal. (But again, how often may be unique to each child.)

      Hope those tips help. Keep reading and researching! Good luck!

      • Fatima
        January 31, 2015 at 6:16 pm — Reply

        Thanks a lot Kesha
        Am starting the “hair grow” journey now lol. I will certainly let you know how it goes.

  28. British
    January 30, 2015 at 5:53 am — Reply

    Hi Kesha I have a 9 month old daughter. I was wondering how can I start training her hair to grow also what products to use. She only have hair in the middle. I took out some braids I left in her hair for 2 weeks and & hair was shedding when I took braids down it also made her hair thinner, not sure why.? Need help to get it back thick & healthy

    • British
      January 31, 2015 at 1:20 pm — Reply

      To add on I let someone braid her hair. When I took the braids down hair was thinner & broke off. Need help with what to do next. Although she only had hair in the middle it was thick and long.

    • January 31, 2015 at 3:49 pm — Reply

      Hi British!

      Here’s a great article on why the braids damaged your daughter’s hair: This should help you get to the route of what happened.

      Natural hair products are all about trial and error. Hair is so unique that it takes a unique combination of products to create the perfect hair regimen. With that being said, Shea Moisture is a line that a lot of naturals live by. They have a kid’s line that may do well for you.

      Make sure she sleeps on a satin blanket or on a satin pillowcase nightly. That will help with your dryness and breakage.
      You’re on the right track with the braids, (protective styles are VERY important to having healthy natural hair) but there’s an element that you’re missing. Check out that article and see if you can discover the issue.

      • British
        January 31, 2015 at 6:20 pm — Reply

        Thanks for the advice I have natural long hair so I was following the same foot steps for my daughter. I’m going to read the article now. I believe the pulling & tension broke her hair off but again thank you for the quick feed back…..much love

  29. Pratibhs
    January 27, 2015 at 4:09 am — Reply

    Can I use matrix adult serum on baby hairs

    • January 27, 2015 at 11:24 am — Reply

      Hi Pratibhs,
      Let me make sure I understand your question. Are you asking if you can use it on your baby’s hair? Or on your adult edges? (AKA “baby hair”) lol. If you’re asking about putting it on a baby, I’d say no. There are a lot of heavy chemicals in Matrix hair products that I wouldn’t put on a child under three or four.

  30. Laura
    January 25, 2015 at 9:25 pm — Reply

    I have a son with curly hair its too early to cut so what do I use to keep in moisture

    • January 25, 2015 at 10:56 pm — Reply

      Hi Laura,
      Spritz with water and seal with extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil.

  31. Tasha
    January 25, 2015 at 3:25 pm — Reply

    Hello, I have a 1yr old and I used the baby don’t bald and it broke her hair off what can I use to get her hair to grow

    • January 25, 2015 at 11:01 pm — Reply

      Hi Tasha,
      So sorry to read of your daughter’s hair loss. Make sure she sleeps with a satin pillowcase or bonnet every night. Mix 2/3 water and 1/3 aloe vera juice in a spray bottle and spritz her hair with that every other day to moisturize. Seal that moisture in with extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. You can purchase aloe vera juice from your local Farmer’s Market or Whole Foods. Aloe vera juice will help her hair retain moisture and promote hair growth. She’s old enough to drink water so make sure she gets in the recommended amount each day. Healthy hair growth starts from the inside out.

      Hope that helps! :)

  32. Crystal Myers
    January 25, 2015 at 1:55 pm — Reply

    What age can I clip my 2 year old hair ends? My daughter hair is short in the back but long in c the front.. dark and lovely has a new line for kids which have shea butter and coconut oil in it.. I use to use baby don’t bald line.. and I love they moisturizer… help! Trying to grow the back

    • January 25, 2015 at 11:07 pm — Reply

      Hi Crystal,
      There’s no set age regarding clipping ends. If her ends seem ratty, old or damaged, it’s time to clip. If her ends seem fine, then there’s no need to clip. Just be sure to keep them moisturized. A good rule of thumb: if you hear a popping or snapping when combing your daughter’s hair then it’s time to trim.

      Baby Don’t Be Bald isn’t the best thing for hair as it contains a lot of cheap oils like mineral oil and petrolatum. Those can clog the scalp’s pours and stunt hair growth in the long term. To promote growth, use water from a spray bottle to moisturize and a butter or oil to seal in the moisture. Keep her hair well conditioned and moisturized and make sure she gets in the recommended amount of water for her age each day.

      Start with those tips and I’m sure you’ll see some results. :)

      • Crystal Myers
        January 27, 2015 at 11:44 am — Reply

        Thanks lady.. what the best shampoo and conditioner to use for a toddler

        • January 28, 2015 at 12:38 pm — Reply

          Crystal, there’s really no “one size fits all” shampoo and conditioner for toddlers as hair is so unique to the person. With that being said, Shea Moisture has a baby/kid line that I’ve heard good things about. It’s all about trial and error when it comes to this natural hair journey. You mentioned the Dark & Lovely line. As long as it doesn’t contain too many things you can’t pronounce in the ingredients (which is the rule of thumb I go by. If I can’t pronounce it, then I probably don’t want to put it in my child’s hair) you’re good to go. :)

  33. Diamond
    January 22, 2015 at 9:56 am — Reply

    Hello kisha i have a soon to be 3year old daughter she previously suffered frm some type of fungus or sores in her scalp i took her to the er n dey helped clear that bt it had took all of her hair out!! I kant even do her any ponytails its as short as a wen she was only months old… I dont know what products to use to gt her hair to grow back i really nd some help this breaks my heart

    • January 22, 2015 at 10:41 pm — Reply

      Hey Diamond,
      So sorry to hear of your daughter’s scalp issues. To be honest, I don’t know much about hair funguses. I don’t want to suggest something that may aggravate the situation again. My best advice is to keep her scalp clean. Wash weekly or bi-weekly with a sulfate free shampoo or a cleansing conditioner. Use water in a spray bottle and spritz her hair every few days to moisturize. Seal that water in with a light oil like coconut oil. Aloe vera juice can also be added to your spray bottle as it’s great for hair growth. (Just a few tablespoons should do the trick.) Purchase some from your local Whole Foods or Farmer’s Market (or online if you don’t have access to either one of those places.)

      Make sure she sleeps with a satin bonnet or on a satin pillowcase EVERY night, and also make sure she gets in enough water each day. Healthy hair growth starts from the inside out.

      Start with those few tips and after a couple of months, I’m sure you’ll start seeing some results. :)

  34. Kennisha
    January 12, 2015 at 11:04 pm — Reply

    Hello Kesha,

    I have a 4year old who had curly and dry hair. I didnt know what to do with it so I put a Just for me texturizer like 3 times and I see breakage around the edge of her hair and in the back. Can you please help me out?

    • January 12, 2015 at 11:23 pm — Reply

      Hi Kennisha,
      Assuming that you’re trying to transition your daughter’s hair back to natural, you’re going to need to commit to keeping her hair conditioned and moisturized. If her hair was/is chronically dry, you’ll need to do weekly deep conditioning and keep her hair in a protective style (cornrows, braids, twists) in-between. Here’s an article that I wrote on deep conditioning treatments that may help:

      Treat your daughter’s hair like gold while it’s transitioning: only detangle when it’s wet and slick with conditioner, and avoid small tooth combs. The line where her natural hair and the processed hair meets is VERY sensitive and can snap if too much force and tension is used. Also make sure that she sleeps with a satin bonnet or on a satin pillowcase every night and that she gets in enough water each day.

      Start with those tips, and as you see growth, you can gradually trim away the processed hair until it has all been removed.

      Hope that helps! Good luck! :)

  35. Kennisha Sanford
    January 12, 2015 at 11:02 pm — Reply

    I have a 4yr old who hair was very dry is curly. So I didnt know what to do with it so I applied a Just for me texturizer on her hair like 3 times. I see the breakage around the edges of her hair and in the bad. Can you please help me out?

  36. Cymbria
    January 12, 2015 at 2:04 pm — Reply

    Hello Kesha,

    My daughter was born with a Mohawk. She had a thin strip of hair down the middle with absolutely no hair on the sides. She is now four and the top and crown of her hair is growing great. While it is not as long, length is not my main concern, it is thick and seems to be healthy. My concern is that her edges are not really growing. I wash, deep condition and plait her hair every two weeks. Daily I spray her hair with water and a mixture of Vit E oil and Shea Butter oil. Do you have any suggestions as to what I can do to treat her little edges and promote stronger and healthier growing hair? I look forward to hearing from you.

    • January 12, 2015 at 3:43 pm — Reply

      Hi Cymbria!
      Thanks for reading! I would try aloe vera juice. It’s a great natural ingredient that will promote growth. You can purchase it online or at your local Whole Foods or Farmer’s Market. Mix 1/3 aloe vera juice and 2/3 water in a spray bottle. Spritz her edges (along with the rest of her hair) with that first and then seal with your oil.

  37. January 10, 2015 at 12:26 am — Reply

    Hello. My daughter has really short kinky hair. I wash it every two weeks using hair products for natural hair because my oldest daughter is transitioning into natural. Her hair is not growing at all. It is completely at a standstill. I take really good care of it and just cannot understand why there is no progress. I sometimes have to flat iron it just to give it some kind if length. Do you have any suggestions?

    • January 10, 2015 at 3:39 pm — Reply

      Hi Neicy,
      If you’re not seeing any growth then you’re going to have to come to terms with the fact that there’s something in your regimen that’s just not working. The products that work for your older daughter may not work on your younger one. There may be one or two chemicals in those products that her hair just doesn’t respond well to. How old is your daughter? If she’s one or older, you can start doing some natural deep conditioning treatments on her hair every week. That will help tremendously.

      Are you detangling her hair only when it’s wet and slick with conditioner? Does she wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase nightly? If she’s older than one, is she getting in enough water each day? If no was the answer to any of those previous questions, those could be some of the reasons why you’re not seeing any progress. I hate to break the news to you, but the occasional heat probably isn’t helping either? :( Even if you use heat protectants, if her hair isn’t at it’s strongest or healthiest you could be doing a lot of damage. Lose the heat for a while and concentrate on her regimen. Here’s an article that I wrote a little while back that may help you on your way.

      Hope that helps! :)

  38. January 9, 2015 at 10:08 pm — Reply

    hello kasha of we got kids unlike a lot of the moms I have a son hair that im trying to keep healthy he has a good grade of hair im not quite sure what type he has but I have an idea thanks to u I would just like to know does keeping ponytails in his hair help it grow I don’t want to braid it and he cant keep twist in his hair its to fine do u have any ideas? please help thank u

  39. Tiffany
    January 9, 2015 at 12:25 am — Reply


    I am in desperate need of help. My baby is 7 and has extent short hair. It seems like it hasn’t grown in the last 2 years and appears shorter actually. I’ve purchased so many products that I’m starting to confuse myself on what’s best. She has Type 4 hair, extremely dry and very spongy. Any recommendations on shampoo/conditioner and moisturizers. ?

    • January 9, 2015 at 1:25 pm — Reply

      Hi Tiffany,
      I’m sorry to read of your daughter’s hair troubles. The reality is that something is causing your daughter’s hair to break off. Hair never stops growing. The issue is that it’s breaking off faster than it can retain the length. Is she getting in enough water each day? Does she sleep with a satin bonnet or on a satin pillowcase nightly? Are you doing weekly deep conditioning treatments? Do you only detangle her hair when it’s damp or wet and slick with conditioner? If you answered no to any of those questions, start there. The thing about natural hair is that it’s 90% your regular regimen and only 10% about the products you use. I can recommend products all day, but if the hair isn’t being handled properly, you’re only going to continue to see breakage. :(
      Start with the few tips I’ve listed above and I’m sure you’ll start seeing results. :)

      • Tiffany
        January 9, 2015 at 3:31 pm — Reply

        Thanks Kesha! I just recently started the satin pillowcase but I haven’t been doing the deep conditioning. No I don’t just detangle when wet. These are great tips. I think a big issue to was I wasn’t aware I should have been sealing and wetting her hair to moisturize it. What do you recommend I use for deep conditioning? I use shea moisture raw shea butter shampoo and conditioner currently?

        • January 9, 2015 at 5:58 pm — Reply

          Glad you’ll be able to get some use out of my tips! Here’s an article that I wrote on all natural deep conditioning treatments that you can try:
          Shea Moisture is a great line; but I will say that my hair – which is a “straight-from-the-motherland” type 4 – doesn’t take well to many of their products. I couldn’t tell you what it is. If she’s a type 4b/4c, give the Shea Moisture a couple of months, and if she doesn’t seem to retain moisture for more than a day, and you don’t see any growth it’s time to move on to something else. My hair responds well to all natural products/ingredients, so if hers is anything like mine, she’ll do well with the homemade deep conditioners that I recommended.

          • Tiffany
            January 10, 2015 at 12:02 am — Reply

            Thanks so much! I’ll definitely check back in after a few months to let you know how her hair is doing!

  40. Telisa
    January 2, 2015 at 8:54 pm — Reply

    I used everything from baby dnt be bald to to mixing glovers mane in with my grease, because that’s what my mom used on me as a child to help my hair grow but my little one hair just seems to be at a stand still and it seems to have gotten shorter. Please help she’s seven and I really need help for her hair to grow!

    • January 4, 2015 at 11:39 pm — Reply

      Hi Telisa,
      The reality is, the things that our moms did on our hair weren’t exactly the best things for it. (My mom used grease on my hair too, so no judgement. lol) Grease and products like Baby Don’t Be Bald contain a lot of cheap oils like mineral oil and petrolatum. These types of oils can actually do more harm than good by sealing in dryness and repelling moisture. Try moisturizing with first water, and sealing with an oil like coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil. Mix a little aloe vera juice in with your water and you’ll be doing even more to promote hair growth.

      • Telisa
        January 5, 2015 at 9:25 am — Reply

        Hey Kesha, thanx for your response but where can I purchase the aloe Vera juice.

        • January 5, 2015 at 10:53 am — Reply

          You can find aloe vera juice at your local farmer’s market or Whole Foods store. If you’re in a small town and don’t have access to either one of those, you can find it online easily. Amazon carries many brands.

          • Kim
            January 5, 2015 at 11:21 am — Reply

            Good morning. I am currently using the jane Carter’s leave in conditioner followed with coconut oil to seal on my 2 yr old. She has type c with minimum curl (motherland type). Use to be extremely dry but since I started taking ur advice. It is much much better and has grown quite a bit. I would like to try the AVJ. How do I use it? Mix with water, straight or can it be mixed with her leave in? Also, what’s the ratio? Thanks

  41. Pamela Jones
    January 1, 2015 at 6:13 pm — Reply

    I need help with my five year old granddaughter. She has kinky type hair. I press it. It goes right back. I don’t want too put a perm in it. Can you suggest products and hair care that will make her hair grow.

    • January 2, 2015 at 6:56 pm — Reply

      Hi Pamela!
      Does your granddaughter have any damage or breakage? How often do you press her hair? At this point, to keep it moisturized you should be doing weekly, or at least bi-weekly deep conditioning treatments. (here’s an article on that The grease probably isn’t helping her dryness. Greases have petrolatum and a lot of other heavy oils which could actually be sealing out moisture and sealing in dryness. Use water and extra virgin olive oil to moisturize her hair in between conditionings. Make sure she sleeps with a satin bonnet or pillowcase, and that she gets in enough water each day.

      Start with those tips, and I’m sure you’ll see some results. :)

  42. Keyena Haley
    December 31, 2014 at 12:37 am — Reply

    I had a 6 months old in I had try Soft@Precious in Baby don’t be bald neither one helps. What a good product I can use to help her hair growth.

    • Keyena Haley
      December 31, 2014 at 12:52 am — Reply

      Love the website.. what kind of butter or oil can I use to help grow my 6 months old daughter hair. She have a lil fro but bald on both side of her hair in the back. In what kind of shampoo that is not to harsh on her hair.

      • January 2, 2015 at 7:31 pm — Reply

        Hi Keyena!
        Use water first and then seal with coconut oil. If you find that you have to re-moisturize the next day, try bumping up your oil to extra virgin olive oil. You may have to experiment with the oils/butters when and if her “true” texture begins coming in. Try having her sleep on a satin baby blanket to help with the breakage; and Shea Moisture has a great baby line that you may want to look into.

        Hope that helps. :)

    • January 2, 2015 at 7:35 pm — Reply

      Those two products you’ve listed have mineral oil and a lot of other heavy oils that if not applied properly or cleansed out thoroughly can cause build up and dryness. Try something a little lighter like extra virgin olive oil; and be sure to apply it AFTER you’ve shampooed her hair or spritzed it with water.

      • Keyena Haley
        January 22, 2015 at 9:23 pm — Reply

        Thanks you so much for responding bk to me….she now 7 months old in am at a standstill. She have a Mohawk I been using #CurlyKids for her shampoo in kids Shea moisture buttercream. What else can I do to start her hair growing.. In were can I purchase the coconut oil from

        • January 22, 2015 at 10:31 pm — Reply

          No problem Keyena! You can find coconut oil at most grocery stores. Sams club sells the big jugs at a great price. Just make sure it says organic extra virgin on the label.

          As far as growth, are you putting the hair that she does have in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) regularly? Is she sleeping on a satin pillowcase or wearing a satin bonnet nightly? Are you moisturizing at least every few days? Are you detangling/combing gently from tip to root only when her hair is damp and slick with conditioner? If you answered yes to those questions then just relax momma! You’re doing pretty much everything you can. She’s still young. Be patient and before you know it, she’ll have more hair then you’ll know what to do with.

  43. Kimberly
    December 31, 2014 at 12:19 am — Reply

    Hello, I was searching pages for information regarding my daughter’s hair and came across this site. I was just told that my 6 year old little girl needs to get her hair cut into a bob possibly, due to hair breakage from braids. I am devastated and really tried to avoid hearing that news but knew her hair in the back was broken pretty bad, along with her edges. It hurts for me to have to do that because she has such long and thick hair, but moving forward I want to ensure I keep her hair healthy and again. HELP ME PLEASE!!! Thanks!

    • January 2, 2015 at 7:42 pm — Reply

      Hi Kimberly,
      Having her get a cut isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s best to catch the breakage now because it will only get worse if not removed. As far as taking care of her hair moving forward, does she have a relaxer now or is she natural? If she’s natural, be sure to do regular deep conditioning treatments (weekly if you can manage, no less than bi-weekly if you can’t). Moisturize her hair in between conditionings using water and then a light oil like extra virgin olive oil. Make sure she wears a satin bonnet to bed and make sure she gets in enough water each day.

      Hope that helps. :)

      • Kimberly Baltimore
        January 2, 2015 at 9:52 pm — Reply

        Thanks so much for the response. It’s going to take some time getting adjusted to seeing her hair cut so short for such a young age, but at least it will grow back healthy! Thanks again!

  44. kristalliabaker
    December 29, 2014 at 9:21 am — Reply

    My bsby is one and her hair has not grown at all since she was born i have tried everything but it doesnt hold mostiure no matter what i try grease olive oil castrol grease. Please help she loves getting her hair done but it just want grow or do anything

    • December 30, 2014 at 11:36 am — Reply

      Hi! So sorry to read that you’re not seeing growth. The reality is that your baby’s hair is growing. Hair never stops growing; but somewhere within her first year her hair began breaking which is why you’re not seeing any length retention. All of the grease and oils that you’re putting on her hair, are you doing that AFTER you’ve dampened her hair with water? If not, all you’re actually doing is sealing in dryness. Are you applying these greases to your daughter’s scalp? If so, that’s a part of your problem as well. Contrary to what our parents taught us, the scalp needs to breath. Greases clog the hair’s pours and can actually stunt the hair growth process.

      I would suggest getting rid of the grease all together and misting her hair with water instead. After you’ve dampened her hair with water, use either coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil to seal in the moisture. That one change can mean the difference between growth and continued breakage.

  45. ashley
    December 27, 2014 at 2:37 pm — Reply

    I am at my wits end with my daughter’s hair. I have no idea what type hair she has but it is extremely thick and hard to keep moisturized. Unfortunately a family member put a just for me in her hair something I am completely against and her once wavy edges barely grow now. SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!!! TIA

    • December 27, 2014 at 7:36 pm — Reply

      Are you in the process of transitioning her hair back to natural? She’s going to need a lot of extra moisturizing and deep conditioning to make sure the breakage doesn’t get worse. She’s also going to need continuous trims in order to remove the damaged/processed hair. Aloe vera juice mixed with water and spritzed onto the hair regularly can help with regrowth. Make sure you seal her hair afterwards with an oil like coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil. If you haven’t started doing deep conditioning treatments on her hair this would be a great time to start. Deep condition every other week. Have her sleep on a satin pillowcase or wear a satin bonnet on her head NIGHTLY.

      Start with those few tips, and I’m sure you’ll begin seeing some results. :)

      • ashley
        December 27, 2014 at 8:32 pm — Reply

        Yes. She does sleep in a satin bonnet at night and I do have her hair braided on and off every 2 or 3 weeks and then I let it breathe that has helped it quite a lot. What moisturizing and deep conditioning products do you recommend? We currently use African pride olive miracle moisturizer lotion. Thank you so much for you help.

  46. regina
    December 26, 2014 at 12:57 am — Reply

    HI my daughter is 3 and her hair came out bad in 2 different spots, and I’m really trying to figure out what to do to grow it back, she had ringworm in those errors where it is now nothing…… please give me some helpful advice, Thank you

    • December 26, 2014 at 6:22 pm — Reply

      Hi Regina,
      So sorry to read about your daughter’s hair troubles. I’ll be completely honest, I don’t know much about ringworm and how it affects hair re-growth. You may need to see a dermatologist on that one. (Sorry.) I will say that aloe vera juice is great for hair growth, and so is Jamaican Black Castor oil. Try mixing equal parts water and aloe vera juice in a spray bottle, spraying her hair with that daily, and sealing that moisture in with a SMALL amount of castor oil. Try that for a month and see if you see any results. :)

  47. December 25, 2014 at 11:57 pm — Reply

    I stumbled on here looking for help! I have a 4 year old mulatto princess and am not sure if I’m doing anything right. I’m trying to figure out her hair type but not even sure about that… pretty sure it’s type 4 something. It isn’t really curly but more zig zaggy and if I let it air dry after a wash it pulls in real tight and goes straight up. Does anybody know what type that would be?

    • December 26, 2014 at 6:52 pm — Reply

      Hi Laura!
      The reality is, your daughter may have more than one hair type on her head. O_o The typing system is just a guideline, not a steadfast rule. With that being said, given the shrinkage, it sounds like she may be a 4b/4c. This texture type requires tons of deep conditioning (at least once a week) and regular moisturizing. Also remember to always seal your moisture in with an oil. Type 4’s tend to love heavier oils like extra virgin olive oil or shea butter.
      Hope that helps! :)

      • December 27, 2014 at 3:03 pm — Reply

        With type 4 hair, would the co wash method then be good or bad? I always apply oil (been favouring argon lately) afterward. Use a moisturizing conditioner. Have a protein shampoo that I use once a month or so. Also use Cantu Shea butter moisturizer. The thing that I find most difficult is the fact that I am white so I don’t know how to tell the difference between healthy or unhealthy hair for her… snap test results seem good. Bounces back quickly but doesn’t break easily.

        • December 27, 2014 at 7:30 pm — Reply

          Co-washing is good as long as you use a cleansing conditioner that’s specifically made for co-washing. Shea Moisture has a couple of cleansing conditioners on the market. And a lot of black women have trouble determining when their hair is unhealthy; so nationality doesn’t really make much difference in that respect. lol. From what you described, it sounds like your daughter’s hair is just fine. She would probably just benefit from a little more conditioning/moisturizing.

  48. k3ssie
    December 24, 2014 at 11:21 pm — Reply

    My daughter is 2 years old. Her hair is soft and has dandruff. Does not hold any grease. I think she could be between coil and curly. What do you recommend?

    • December 26, 2014 at 6:55 pm — Reply

      Tea tree oil is great for helping dandruff. I don’t recommend grease in general. Grease is something that our moms used on our hair that didn’t really do us much good. Putting hair grease on the scalp clogs pores and stunts growth. Use water from a spray bottle to “moisturize” regularly and seal that in with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Don’t concentrate so much on the scalp. The ends of her hair are what’s most important. :)

  49. Antoinette
    December 22, 2014 at 7:46 pm — Reply

    Hi, my daughter is three years old I was wondering is it necessary to clip her ends or wait til she’s older?she doesn’t have many split ends but I have seen a few,,so what should I do? And I was wondering when doing the deep conditioner,would the same results apply if I just warm it in the microwave, put it on her hair with a cap and let it sad it for 30 minutes?

    • December 22, 2014 at 11:10 pm — Reply

      Hi Antoinette!
      Warming in the microwave is just as effective, and the perfect alternative to using a hair dryer; and yes, if any ends are split, it’s time to do a trim. To avoid split ends in the future be sure to incorporate some sort of protein treatment each month. Raw eggs are great for that. Simply Google a recipe. :)
      Hope that helps! :)

  50. Ciara
    December 19, 2014 at 10:12 pm — Reply

    My daughters hair has breakage her two strand twist seems like they break her hair off I will admit I can’t keep up with a routine regimen, she’s 7 is it a good idea to trim her hair? She has 3C/ 4A hair

    • December 19, 2014 at 11:18 pm — Reply

      Hi Ciara!
      If you don’t have a regular and consistent routine in place regarding your daughter’s hair, that’s probably the primary route of your breakage. There’s not really a way around it unless you have the means to take her to a stylist (who specializes in natural hair) regularly. If your daughter’s ends are damaged then yes, it’s your best, and really your only option to trim them off. Split and damaged ends can travel all the way up the hair shaft and make things worse.
      My best advice is to reevaluate your hair routine and find something consistent that works for you. Once you make it a habit – like moisturizing and sealing her hair at least every other day, having her wear protective styles regularly, and having her sleep with a satin bonnet nightly – you will inevitably see results.

      Hope that helps! :)

  51. Yas
    December 1, 2014 at 3:57 am — Reply

    My 15 month old daughter hair is excessively dry and DOES NOT seem to grow. 5 minutes after, conditioning, putting coconut oil, her hair is back dry. Im assuming the dryness is causing the lack of growth. The only product that keeps it semi looking moisturized is pink lotion. Any help with great moisturizers and stimulating growth? Thx in advance

    • December 1, 2014 at 12:00 pm — Reply

      Are you using water, or a water-based leave-in and THEN sealing with an oil or butter? Contrary to what we’ve been taught growing up, water is going to be your best moisturizer. After you’ve moisturized, then be sure to seal that moisture in with a butter or oil. She will retain her moisture longer if you follow that method. She’s also old enough to begin deep conditioning treatments. Here’s a great article on that: Just remember, after you’ve conditioned, the party isn’t over. You MUST seal with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or your coconut oil after (on her damp/wet hair). That way her hair will retain the moisture for longer.

  52. Monique
    December 1, 2014 at 2:39 am — Reply


    I really need some help, my daughter is 16 months old and she has a head full of thick dry hair, but her hair fell out around the sides/edges and I don’t know what to do. I have been using baby don’t be bald, and it actually grew it but now it’s like she have little curly hair around the sides/edges. Can someone help me on what products that I can use to help grow my baby hair out.

    • December 1, 2014 at 11:52 am — Reply

      You’re the second person within the last few days that has mentioned “Baby Don’t be Bald”. I honestly don’t know much about the product; but just from a quick glance at the ingredients, it’s probably not a product I would suggest. It has mineral oil in it which can clog pores and keep the hair strands from accepting moisture. Products are important, but if you’re not using them properly, then you’re going to continue to see dryness and breakage.

      Are you using water, or a water-based leave-in on your daughter’s hair every other day and sealing that moisture in with an oil or butter from root to tip? Have you started doing deep conditioning treatments on her hair? It really sounds like her hair needs some good hydration starting with a deep conditioning. Don’t forget that when you moisturize, the ends of the hair need the most attention. Putting grease on the scalp is an old tradition that’s been engrained in our heads. The reality is that it’s not a really good practice. Oils and “greases” should only be used for sealing after you’ve applied water or a water-based leave-in.

      • Monique
        December 2, 2014 at 2:39 am — Reply

        Thanks, I realize that I comb her hair one a month I will wash and condition really good and it put it in individual braids and I will oil it every week. I honestly don’t think that is enough for her. Normally babies will lose the back of the hair but she lost around the sides/edges. Today I went out and bought the Mane-n-Tail product line and I will start using that and stop braiding her hair. This is my time to take more care of my daughters hair.

  53. Wawa pickney
    November 30, 2014 at 11:43 pm — Reply

    My son is 6 month he has hair I just wanna grow it. How can i grow it?

    • December 1, 2014 at 11:42 am — Reply

      Moisture, moisture, moisture, and a lot of patience. Your son’s hair will grow as long as you keep it moisturized with water or a water-based leave-in. Make sure you seal your moisture in with an oil like extra virgin olive oil. If you do those couple of things his hair will grow and flourish. :)

  54. Charlotte
    November 30, 2014 at 4:50 pm — Reply

    Hi my daughter is 3 and has fine dry hair i been using baby don’t be bald products but get hair do not seem to be growing. Should i use a deep conditioner on her hair and is baby don’t be bald a good product?

    • December 1, 2014 at 11:40 am — Reply

      Hi Charlotte! Unfortunately, I don’t know a thing about Baby Don’t Be Bald. What I can tell you though is if your daughter’s hair doesn’t seem to be benefiting from it (still dry, no noticeable growth) then it’s time to change it up. The whole natural hair process is about trial and error.

      And yes, this would be a great time to start doing deep conditioning treatments on your baby girl’s hair. I actually wrote an article about it a little while back:
      Hope that helps! :)

  55. Daneisha
    November 24, 2014 at 1:48 am — Reply

    Hi I have a 3 moth old son who has very curly hair but the back is very thin. What can i do/use to get it to thicken?

    • November 24, 2014 at 3:17 pm — Reply

      That thin spot in the back is COMPLETELY normal. The reality is that he may actually go completely bald back there before it has the chance to begin growing in. Since babies sleep so much, there’s a lot of friction going on on the back of the head. Some babies are just more prone to loosing that hair from the friction than others. If you don’t have one already, purchase a satin baby blanket, tuck it into his crib and have him sleep on that from now on. Cotton bedding sucks all of the moisture out of natural hair and creates a lot of that friction. Outside of keeping his hair moisturized with water and sealing the moisture in with an oil like coconut oil, that’s about all you can do for now.

      Hope that helps! :)

      • Daneisha
        November 24, 2014 at 4:33 pm — Reply

        Thanks so much for the reply! I actually just went out and brought coconut oil. Guess i’ll see how it plays out :)

  56. Senora
    November 23, 2014 at 1:16 pm — Reply

    My daughter is 8, at the age of 2 a family member of mines put a perm on her hair…since I’m hair challenged myself I didn’t know how to take care of her hair. At age 6 another family member thought it would be great to put a texturizer on her hair

    • November 23, 2014 at 1:31 pm — Reply

      Hey Senora! What’s your question? Does your daughter have breakage? Damage? Are you trying to transition? Let me know! :)

      • Senora
        November 23, 2014 at 1:44 pm — Reply

        She hasn’t had any chemicals on her hair in about 2 years. What can I do to nurse her hair back to being soft and healthy, and to help her hair to start gorwing. Yes she has breakage, her hair doesn’t hold moisture either.

  57. tabby
    November 22, 2014 at 10:56 pm — Reply

    Hi I have a four month old daughter and I’m just wondering at what age do I start to put protective styles in her hair

    • November 22, 2014 at 11:47 pm — Reply

      Hi Tabby!
      I wouldn’t do too much pulling, braiding, or banding for another few months. 4-month-olds still have soft sensitive scalps and pulling too tightly for extended periods can snap a baby’s hair off right at the root causing permanent hair loss. If her hair is long to a point where you feel like it needs to be protected, use small rubberbands wound loosely. By 6 months, her hair and scalp should be “tough” enough to withstand twists and braids. During the next couple of cold months, hats with silk or satin linings will be your friend. :)

  58. November 20, 2014 at 1:00 pm — Reply

    My baby girl is 2 years old in I been trying to grow her hair she have very thick short dry hair I uses olive oil shampoo in conditions I also users virgin coconut oil on her hair but the next day it look like I didn’t put nothing on it it she sleep with a silky scarf. When she was little she uses to lay on her back her back is very short I don’t know what to do or uses I need help please!

    • November 21, 2014 at 2:03 pm — Reply

      Are you moisturizing with water BEFORE you use the olive oils and coconut oils? Oils and butters, in general, are known as “sealers”; which means that they’re best used to seal in moisture that’s been applied. Moisturize her hair first with a a leave-in conditioner that has water as a first ingredient, or just use water from a spray bottle. THEN seal in that moisture with your coconut or olive oil. You’ll only be sealing in dryness if you use oils alone. Having your baby girl sleep on a satin pillowcase or satin blanket will help with that short dry spot in the back.

      Hope that helps! :)

      • November 23, 2014 at 12:32 pm — Reply

        Thank you so much I’m try that do virgin coconut oil work does it help you’re hair to grow?

        • November 23, 2014 at 1:32 pm — Reply

          No problem! Most hair oils aid in hair growth if used properly. Use a water-based conditioner, or water first on the hair and then use your oil to seal.

  59. Clara
    November 17, 2014 at 8:22 am — Reply

    HI, I have a 5 year old daughter, her hair is really dry (high porosity) and fine. Just looking at it causes breakage. I dread wash days because by the time i’m done, I’m covered from head to toe with broken strands of hair about 5mm short. I do weekly washes and bi-weekly protein deep conditioning, but nothing seems to help. I comb out her hair once a month and finger detangle the rest of the time. I trim her hair 3 times a year. I am at my wits end, do you have any advice for me? Oh she only sleeps in her satin cap sometimes, may I should just buy a satin pillow case.

    • November 17, 2014 at 11:01 am — Reply

      Hi Clara! It sounds like you know you’re stuff, and that you’re pretty much doing everything right. Hmmm. Yes, I’d go ahead and grab that satin pillowcase. That would be easier than the cap with a 5-year-old. Are you finger detangling only when her hair is wet and slick from conditioner/moisturizer? Are you putting her hair in a protective style and having her wear it for a week or longer regularly? There’s a possibility that she could be protein sensitive. Every other week protein treatments sound like a lot when I’ve heard most curlies do it once a month or as needed; so that could be something to explore.

      Weekly washes also sound like a lot (especially with it getting cold out.) I’d extend that to every other week, or even every three weeks if you can stretch it. And it could be the products you’re using. If what you’re using isn’t working and you’re not seeing results, then it’s time to change it up. I’ve learned over the years that being natural is primarily about trial and error.

      Hope some of my suggestions help! :)

    • Tori
      November 21, 2014 at 2:00 pm — Reply

      Just to piggy back on the Kesha’s VERY good advice. I would consider the LOC method. It does wonders for my natural hair for holding moisture and I have high porosity, dense hair. Please do your homework on the best oils for your child’s hair. Every oil does not work with every level of porosity. My 9 yo daughter’s hair has a texturizer that I do approx. every 8-10 weeks. We both use Pompeian 100% Grapeseed oil with vitamin E. It is with the cooking oils!!! LOL but has made a Major difference. Her hair is mid-back length and thickening quickly.
      Also, as a Pharmacist I want to ask you to bring attention to your child’s diet b/c that can play a major role in Hair, skin, and nails. I noticed both me and my daughter’s hair when I decided to take vitamins DAILY and not just when I remembered. She takes 2 chewable vitamins daily AFTER a meal or cup of milk for total absorption. Also increase her water intake if you find she isn’t drinking enough. Hope this helps also!

      • November 21, 2014 at 2:07 pm — Reply

        Great, great, GREAT advice!

        • Clara
          November 21, 2014 at 6:02 pm — Reply

          Thank you ladies for the awesome replies. I will take a look at our diets although she is quite the water drinker. I will scale back on the protein treatments and leave her protective style for longer than a week. I’ll keep you updated on our progress.

  60. princess
    November 13, 2014 at 1:57 pm — Reply

    Help! I have a 6 month old who had a head full of hair and was curly all over. I started using vaseline on one part of her head because she developed a bald spot. I have noticed her hair has started falling out really bad. Her hair is dry and no longer curly. What should i do to stop the hair loss and help the hair she still has left. I am so worried and going crazy. Help Please!

    • November 13, 2014 at 11:29 pm — Reply

      Oh dear! So sorry to read that you’re having issues with your baby girl’s hair. First, I would get rid of that vaseline and not use that again on her hair for a while if ever. Vaseline is heavy on petroleum, and all you’re doing is clogging her hair follicles, stunting the growth, and weighing her hair down. I’m not going to say that it’s the cause of her breakage, but I’m certain that it’s not helping.

      You need to grab a spray bottle and mix it with 1/3 aloe vera juice and 2/3 water. Aloe vera juice can be found at your local Farmer’s Market or Whole Foods. It will promote hair growth and help with the dryness. The route of her hair loss could be for many reasons. Her hair may simply be reverting to it’s “true” state (which normally happens around the age of 6 months). [If the hair loss is REALLY excessive though, you may want to consult her pediatrician just to make sure it’s not something in her diet that’s causing it.]

      Another suggestion would be for you to buy a satin blanket for her to sleep on in her crib. Cotton bedding can really dry out natural hair; and with babies sleeping so much it’s normal for the friction to thin out the back of the hair. THAT’S TOTALLY NORMAL. It happened to my son and, to a lesser extent, my daughter. My son was totally bald in the back by 6 months, and now, both of my kids have full heads of hair.

      So just relax, start with the few things I’ve suggested, and see if (in a month or so) you get any results. :)

  61. coleman
    October 31, 2014 at 12:29 pm — Reply

    my son one and his hair not growing and dry I’m. Trying. To grow it before. His second birthday I’m not sure of the texture but I can use water and grease to soften it up

    • November 1, 2014 at 3:57 pm — Reply

      Hi Coleman! Thanks for reading!

      I don’t know when your son’s birthday is but HEALTHY hair only grows about a half and inch a month; so you’ll have to base your progress on that. If you’re using that type of thick hair grease that our moms used to use on our hair, then I’d recommend something a little lighter. That has a tendency to clog pores and may be why you’re not seeing the growth you want. You’re on the right track with the water. Start with that and then use your favorite leave in conditioner. After that, seal in the moisture with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Try to keep his hair in a protective style like twists or cornrows. That will lock in his moisture, cut down on any breakage, and help his hair grow. Be sure to moisturize while his hair is in the protective style.

      Start with those tips, be consistent, and I’m sure you’ll see some results. :)

      • Kim
        November 5, 2014 at 3:25 pm — Reply

        I just want to thank you for all the information you gave me. My 2 years daughters hair is finally growing. I use the daily water/conditioner and seal it with the evoo. I purchased a satin pillow case and a bonnet. Now she ask for her bonnet at night before she goes to bed!!! It’s so funny.
        It’s so much easier for me to have her hair on the protective styles then I don’t have to do it everyday. Keep up the good work!!

        • November 5, 2014 at 8:53 pm — Reply

          Ah! Kim, you made my night with this comment. I am SO glad you’re seeing results and were able to get some use out of my tips. That is hilarious that she asks for her bonnet. See, little momma knows what the deal is! lol! I appreciate you letting me know about your progress. Again, you made my night. :)

          • Kim
            November 5, 2014 at 9:52 pm — Reply

            Well, u tought me somethings. Her hair is so thick and the back has grown completely in and it’s hanging on her neck. It’s not major dry anymore. All in abt 2 to 3 months. Kudos!!!

  62. Abigail Thomas
    October 22, 2014 at 9:03 am — Reply

    Hey Kesha, what do you mean by trim? If I do box braids, it seems like my edges are being pulled and I think that the box braids cuts my hair instead of growing it :/

    • October 22, 2014 at 9:33 am — Reply

      It sounds like you may have some damaged hair that needs to be trimmed away. If you have ratty or damaged ends, that’s going to keep you from retaining length. There’s no use in hanging on to damaged hair as it won’t do you any good. Head to a stylist whenever you can and have them trim your ends. They may even feel the need to cut away the damaged parts and create a style.

      And box braids, if installed properly, will help your hair grow – not damage it. I did a “big chop” about a year and a half ago cutting my hair down to about an inch. I’ve been wearing box braids or box twists for the better part of the year (taking a week or two off between each install). My hair is now down to my bra strap. Steer clear of the African hair braiders as they put too little hair in each braid which can cause the damage and breaking that you’re speaking of. Find a stylist who does braids, or even a friend. Box braids don’t have to be your protective style of choice. Any style that will keep your ends tucked away and requires little maintenance for a week or more will do. :)

  63. Abigail Thomas
    October 19, 2014 at 11:37 am — Reply

    Hi my name is Abigail. I am 16 years old. My hair is wavy and not so hard to comb out. If I plait my hair, the ends tend to come out. The back of my hair is very short and won’t grow for nothing :( the middle is the tallest and the front is a little taller than the back. I have dry scalp and really itchy hair. I sweat in it a lot. The edges at the sides are very picky, like if I straighten my hair, it doesn’t stay. My hair breaks a lot and keeps getting shorter and shorter. I’m very discouraged and want to know what I should do, where should I go, what do I use. Please help!! I want my hair to grow back. It use to be really long.

    • October 21, 2014 at 5:38 pm — Reply

      Hi Abigail! Sorry you’re having trouble getting your hair to a healthy state. It sounds like it may be time for a little trim. Also, are you doing regular deep conditioning treatments? Once a month you should deep condition your hair using a natural conditioner you create yourself, ( or a conditioner made for your hair type. You should use heat to do the conditioning. (Sit under a hair dryer.) Are you utilizing regular protective styles? ie: cornrows, box braids, or flat twists – any style that you’re able to leave in for at least a week without having to manipulate your hair is considered a protective style. If you go to a stylist and have them incorporate some hair into your braids then you shouldn’t have to worry about them coming out; otherwise, use small rubber-bands to keep the ends secure. That will cut down on the breakage and keep your moisture locked in for longer. Go to your hair store and grab some tea tree oil and massage that into your scalp every other day. That will cut down on your dry scalp. Start with these tips, and I’m sure you’ll see some results. :)

  64. TA
    October 16, 2014 at 1:30 pm — Reply

    My daughter is 9 with natural hair that is down her back. It’s very dry around her forehead and very nappy. I do know what to do. She sweats a lot playing sports. I think it’s breaking around the edges from sweat and trying to comb there.

    • October 16, 2014 at 6:22 pm — Reply

      Protective styles! Pick a great long-term protective style and have your daughter rock that regularly. Be it cornrows or box braids, she needs something very low maintenance that requires low manipulation. If you can’t braid well, find a braider who you can take her to regularly. It will be a worthy investment. Have her wear the protective style for a few weeks, take it down, and then do a wash and deep condition. Give her hair a week off from the protective style and then have another protective style reinstalled. When having her hair braided, don’t be afraid to tell the stylist not to pull her edges too tightly. I would recommend cornrows given that she plays a lot of sports. Be they straight back cornrows or a pattern style, cornrows will keep her edges safe and locked away leaving her scalp exposed for regular moisturizing.

      I appreciate you reading! Hope that helps. :)

  65. Ashley
    October 15, 2014 at 7:55 pm — Reply

    Hello. My daughter is 2 years old, about to be 3 in a couple of weeks. Her hair stays incredibly dry and so when I wash it, I always try to deep condition it; however, the dryness always creeps back within a day or two. Based on your photos above, it looks like she may have the type 4 could hair type (can’t see type 2 and it’s definitely not type 3). Can you provide any regimens and some recommendations for me? I want to give her her first press (bevel at home) when she turns three as we will not be getting a perm. Thank you so much!!!

    • October 15, 2014 at 8:11 pm — Reply

      Hi Ashley! Thank you so much for reading! And way to go for not giving in to that relaxer AKA creamy crack. lol. I didn’t post type 2 because that category usually only encompasses our Caucasian counterparts. Do you use heat to open up the cuticle when you do your deep conditioning? If so, then your issue may be the type of conditioners you’re using. Check out this link for more information about deep conditioning for kids:

      I get your question so much that I’ve designed a hair analysis questionnaire so that I could help moms just like you! For $5 (since it takes me a little while to do the research) you can get a personalized hair regimen for your child along with product recommendations as you’ve requested. If you’re interested, head to this link:

      Good luck on your hair journey! :)

  66. Brittney
    October 8, 2014 at 2:36 am — Reply

    Hello my daughter is one and she has a course dry sandy red colored hair its super dry and is very short and thick I have tried to use hair food it doesn’t work and a moisturizer which works momentarily I wash her hair with carol’s daughter no sulfate shampoo and a coconut milk conditioner do you have any suggestions

    • October 8, 2014 at 12:20 pm — Reply

      Hi Brittney! Thank you so much for reading!

      First, how old is your daughter? Have you started doing any deep conditioning treatments on your daughter’s hair? It sounds like she could benefit from those. ( Also, are you utilizing regular protective styles (if her hair is long enough) and having her wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase at night? Those things can help as well. It sounds like you could possibly benefit from my kids hair assessment. Have a look at this page: and follow through if you’re interested. :)

  67. mae stano
    October 5, 2014 at 7:19 pm — Reply

    Hello my dauggter hair start breaking because I permed it, the hair my horribly damaged sides disappeared. I finally got her hair to grow back sides are growing but the back of her hair will not grow back ponh tails lpok sick in the back . HELL

    • mae stano
      October 5, 2014 at 7:20 pm — Reply

      She is 8

    • October 5, 2014 at 11:16 pm — Reply

      Hi Mae! I appreciate you reading.
      A young lady before you had issues very similar to the ones you’re having with your daughter. I’ll have to suggest the same thing to you that I did to her… You’re probably going to have to get her a haircut. o_O. If the hair on her ends is dry, damaged from perm, and breaking, it needs to be removed. There is no repairing it. Leaving it on in order to try and salvage length is a bad idea as the damaged/split hairs will only continue to creep up the hair shaft and make things worse.

      My suggestion would be to take her to a stylist, cut of the damaged parts, and then start a regimen where you’re moisturizing at least every other day and deep conditioning at least once every couple of weeks.

      I hope that helps! :)

  68. lisa
    October 3, 2014 at 4:01 am — Reply

    Hi my daughter is 9 months old. What hair product can I start her off with. Her hair is easily tangled

    • October 4, 2014 at 11:10 am — Reply

      Hi Lisa! I appreciate you reading! Without knowing your daughter’s particular hair type or texture, I can’t give you exact products… But you’re in luck. I’ve received this question so much that I got the idea to develop a hair assessment that helps me to help parents like you determine exactly what it is your child’s hair needs. If you’re interested, head over to this link to find out more –> :)

  69. Temika Smith
    October 3, 2014 at 3:34 am — Reply

    Hi, my daughters hair is breaking of so bad I stop using perms all together and it is still breaking of I keep it washed deep condition etc… I just don’t know what to do can you please help.

    • October 4, 2014 at 11:03 am — Reply

      Hi Temika! Thanks for reading! So sorry you’re having problems with breakage. Unfortunately it sounds like you may have to take your daughter to a stylist and have some, if not all, of the damaged hair removed. If her hair is split, dry, and breaking, no amount of deep conditioner is going to recover it. (Contrary to what the bottle may say.)

      When you stop using a perm and just let the hair grow naturally without cutting off the permed parts, that’s called transitioning. That part of the hair where the perm and natural hair meet is called the line of demarcation. That line is VERY sensitive, and it doesn’t take much at all for hair to break off right at that point. That’s why you hear about so many women doing the “big chop”. It is VERY hard to transition. Unless you have the time, energy, and knowledge to do what it takes to treat the hair like gold while it’s transitioning, it can prove to be quite difficult, if not impossible, to keep the hair from breaking.

      A good cut for your daughter may be your only option at this point. :(

  70. October 1, 2014 at 12:21 pm — Reply

    I made the mistake of relaxing my daughter hair now it is really course and dry and breaking off please help me to my her hair healthy and growing again.

    • October 1, 2014 at 5:38 pm — Reply

      Hi Candace! Thank you so much for reading! Yes, relaxers can do a pretty good number on hair. Have you stopped putting relaxers in her hair all together? Are you transitioning her back to natural? Have you trimmed the damaged hair? If you’re interested, in order to help you out and assess your child’s hair needs a little better, I’ve developed a hair analysis package. By answering a few simple questions you can receive information on your child’s hair type/texture along with custom product recommendations and information specific to your child’s hair needs. The package is only $5 and completely worth it. If you’re interested, head to the following link:

  71. raquel
    September 29, 2014 at 1:34 am — Reply

    Hi, I’m at a stand still with my daughter’s hair she is 5 and has beautiful hair but I can’t seem to find the right products for growth? Her hair has so much potential but I feel that’s it’s me…is it possible to email a picture of her type of hair to you?

    • September 29, 2014 at 8:45 pm — Reply

      Hi Raquel! First off, thank you so much for reading!
      Okay, so first, the picture thing isn’t going to work. I’ve tried it before, and I can’t really assess a hair type like that. I’m not that good. lol. Even if I did, there would still have to be some trial and error on your part to find the right products.

      If her hair growth seems to be stunted, there could be a few reasons: Are you using a satin cap or satin pillowcase at bedtime? Are you detangling gently with her hair slick and damp from conditioner or moisturizer? Is she getting in enough water daily? Is her hair dry constantly? That could mean she needs a regular conditioning treatment. You’ve got to make some assessments regarding the hair regimen you have in place for her. If her hair isn’t growing, there is a reason.

      Have you tried exploring the hair typing system? For me, that helped out tremendously when it came to finding the right products for my baby girl’s hair. Have you been over to my natural hair kids blog yet? You can find it over at There, you’ll find details on the hair typing system along with product recommendations for each hair type.

      Start there, and let me know if I can help you any other way :)

    • September 29, 2014 at 8:56 pm — Reply

      Raquel, here’s a direct link to the hair typing details: Read through that and see if that helps you determine her hair type a little better. It’s not an exact science but I promise you that it will help you out with your product selections.

    • October 1, 2014 at 5:28 pm — Reply

      Hi Raquel! I wanted to touch base with you regarding something pretty cool that I’ve just put together. I spend so much time answering questions and helping out moms just like you on their natural hair journey. I’ve had numerous people ask to send pictures so that I can help them assess their child’s particular hair type. Because of that I’ve developed a natural hair analysis. By answering a few simple questions you can receive information on your child’s hair type/texture along with custom product recommendations and information specific to your child’s hair needs. The package is only $5 and completely worth it. If you’re interested, head to the following link: :)

  72. Jewel
    September 26, 2014 at 7:02 pm — Reply

    I really dont know her type of hair. I know she has a bald area in the back what do you suggest?

    • September 26, 2014 at 9:21 pm — Reply

      A satin pillowcase (or scarf if she’s older than 4), and daily moisturizing with a spritz of water and sealing with extra virgin olive oil. If she’s under 6 months, then I wouldn’t panic about it. It’s VERY normal for babies to have bald spots due to all of the friction; but satin bedding will help.

    • October 1, 2014 at 5:30 pm — Reply

      Recently I’ve had a ton of moms contact me who seem to be struggling with determining their child’s hair type/texture. Because of that I’ve developed a natural hair analysis. By answering a few simple questions you can receive information on your child’s hair type/texture along with custom product recommendations and information specific to your child’s hair needs. The package is only $5 and completely worth it. If you’re interested, head to the following link:

  73. Tia
    September 25, 2014 at 12:13 pm — Reply

    I’m sorry! One more question… What kind of shampoo do you recommend for a 4month old?

  74. Tia B
    September 24, 2014 at 5:10 pm — Reply

    Hi, I have a 2 month old baby and her hair is dry and coming out in the back! should I get a spray bottle and mix 4 oz (or ½ cup) of aloe vera juice, 6 oz (or ¾ cup) of coconut water, and 2 oz of water and use that daily?

    • Tia B
      September 24, 2014 at 5:14 pm — Reply

      she will be 4 months in a week..
      i’m sorry

    • September 24, 2014 at 5:50 pm — Reply

      Hi Tia!

      That sounds like a great combination! (Very specific. lol.) Aloe Vera juice is great for treating hair loss and promoting growth. That back dry patch is VERY common in babies given that they sleep more and do so mostly on their backs. My son’s hair didn’t grow in in the back until he was about one. It grew in completely, and this was without me really doing too much to it. (Because I knew I wanted to cut it as soon as he was old enough. One head of hair to do was enough for me. lol) So don’t panic too much.

      And you also may want to consider having her sleep on a satin blanket if she’s not already. Cotton bedding pulls hair strands and literally sucks all of the dryness out of hair.

      Hope that helps! :)

      • Tia
        September 24, 2014 at 6:23 pm — Reply

        At 4 months is it to early to use the spray bottle method you recommended?

        • September 24, 2014 at 10:21 pm — Reply

          If her hair is dry, then you’ve got to moisturize it. A little water mixed with some aloe vera juice or a drop of conditioner spritzed on her hair regularly won’t hurt her at all.

          • Tia
            September 25, 2014 at 12:12 pm — Reply

            Thank you!

  75. Jessica
    September 24, 2014 at 11:50 am — Reply

    Hi. My daughter is a month old with a head full of hair. When should I begin to put products and start moisturizing her tresses? I love your blog btw. It’s exactly what I need. I’m clueless on hair.

    Thank you!

    • September 24, 2014 at 3:28 pm — Reply

      Hi Jessica! Thank you so much for the love on the blog! :)

      You probably have a few more months before you have to worry about buying anything fancy for her hair. These should be your easy months. lol. Wash her hair once a week or so and be sure to seal in the moisture after washing with an oil like extra virgin olive oil. That should be it. If you’re noticing a dry patch in the back (which is common) you may want to think about having her sleep on a satin blanket; but other than that, you should rest easy. In a few more months, her hair will probably start to change to it’s “true” state. THAT’s when the fun begins. lol.

  76. September 23, 2014 at 7:42 pm — Reply

    So my little girl is one and hair type 4 and her hair has broken of bad i have tried so many products but i finally found shea moisturizer shampoo tht ive just started using but i cant find a good product to keep her scalp and hair and looking shiny and healthy… any ideas i need some serious help!!!

    • September 23, 2014 at 9:14 pm — Reply

      Hey Alison! I appreciate you stopping by! :)

      It sounds like she may be ready for some deep conditioning treatments. If her hair is chronically dry and dull then her hair is VERY thirsty. I just wrote an article on deep conditioning for kids that you can find here –> Adding a regular deep conditioning to your hair regimen may be just what you need. You can slap products on her hair all day but if her hair isn’t hydrated enough you could just be sealing in dryness.

      You may also want to think about stopping with shampoo all together and just co-washing her hair. Type 4 hair (especially the low porosity kind like hers) dries out quickly and easily. Even the moisturizing types of shampoos like Shea Moisture makes can be stripping her hair of the oils she needs. I’ll be doing a piece on co-washing very soon, but here’s a great article you can take a look at in the mean time:

      Hope this helps! :)

  77. Jayd
    September 8, 2014 at 3:13 am — Reply

    Thanks – I got some good tips from your blog. My daughter has the 3c type hair. what is the best way to comb out this type of hair? with a comb – fine teeth/wide teeth? or a Brush? I've been trying all kinds of things and the best is to comb with a wide tooth comb under running water. Obviously this is challenging and I am still looking for suggestions.

    • September 8, 2014 at 10:29 am — Reply

      Thanks for reading Jayd! The best way to comb and detangle natural hair in general is with a wide tooth comb. To soften the hair, get a spray bottle and put in it a cocktail of water and few drops of your favorite conditioner. Mist her hair lightly with your mixture and detangle and comb her hair section by section. (I usually break my daughter's hair into four sections.) The spray bottle should prove to be way easier than wetting a comb every few seconds. lol. Hope that helps! :)

  78. Destini
    September 2, 2014 at 5:14 pm — Reply

    Hi my 5 yr old has a just former relaxer do I still add water to moisturize

    • September 2, 2014 at 6:54 pm — Reply

      Hey Destini! I appreciate you stopping by. :)I’ll be honest and tell you that I’m not sure about the answer to that question. I’ve done a LOT of research and study on how to care for and maintain natural hair (ie: relaxer free). Just with my previous experience with a relaxer, I would tell you no. Don’t do water. Relaxed hair is already very weak and spraying it with water daily and handling it in that state is probably not the best idea. I’d say use a mild water-based moisturizer only and style as usual. Hope that helps :)

  79. Kim
    August 28, 2014 at 2:26 pm — Reply

    Hello. Thank you for all the information. Do you think that using rubber bands on her 4c (motherland type hair) would be ok? Also, I use moisturizer and seal it with evoo. What kind of butter would you recommend? I don’t even know what it is. Thank you. BTW you have 2 little cuties.

    • August 28, 2014 at 2:50 pm — Reply

      Hi Kim. No problem, and thanks for reading! Rubber bands are perfectly okay as long as they're not wound too tight. Hair butters come in different forms. They're generally of a very thick (sometimes solid) consistency and work great for 4-c's who want to lock in that moisturizer and EVOO for longer moisture retention. I use regular African shea butter. It's yellow and solid. It has a very low melt point, so what you do is break off a piece and rub it between your palms until it melts. Then apply that to the hair after you've moisturized and done your EVOO. Hope that helps! :)
      And thank you for the love on my babies! :)

      • Kim
        August 28, 2014 at 3:08 pm — Reply

        Thanks! Also, where can a butter be purchased from? I use evoo that I purchased from the organic section of my grocery store and it says great for cooking, etc…. Is that the correct one or should I be using one that’s specifically for hair?

        • August 28, 2014 at 3:31 pm — Reply

          Most hair stores (the ones targeted to African Americans) carry shea butter. My Walmart carries shea butter actually. (But I live on an "ethnic" side of town. lol) And as long as your EVOO is cold pressed (which I believe means certifiably organic) you're good to go. The ones that aren't cold pressed may have certain additives designed for cooking that may not be best for hair.

  80. Kizzy
    August 28, 2014 at 1:41 pm — Reply

    Hi there… I have been reading post from your website and will begin to pay more attention to my 2 1/2 year old daughter. Her hair is almost the same as your daughters just basing from the pictures. Do you wash her hair every week or just co-wash.
    Her hair is extremely dry and I am not noticing a growth. I try not to do her hair every night, however I will definitely invest in the satin pillowcase.
    Is there is a shampoo that you recommend.

    • August 28, 2014 at 2:46 pm — Reply

      Hi Kizzy. Thanks for reading!! :) I probably only wash my daughter's hair with shampoo once per month. I co-wash every week in the summer and every other week in the winter.

      If you're daughter's hair is extra dry, then you may have to start committing to a nighttime routine of moisturizing with a spray bottle cocktail of water and conditioner. Then seal that in with EVOO (extra virgin olive oil.) Twist her hair in loose twists (if it's not already braided or twisted) and get that satin pillowcase or head scarf asap. Shea Moisture has a few great shampoos that my daughter's hair absolutely loves. Check out the Shea Moisture line and find a shampoo from them that fits your needs with your daughter's hair.

      Hope that helps! :)

  81. Jessanelle
    August 25, 2014 at 1:06 pm — Reply

    Also do you have a product similar to cara b moisturizer that you recommend I continue to use that is fragrance free? I don’t know if it has fragrance or not but I noticed that he itches his hair . I’m not sure if it’s from the cara b product but just incase . One more question I really apologize for all my questions lol but when I do wash his hair should I do two washes, one wash or does it just depend on the build up?

    • August 25, 2014 at 1:17 pm — Reply

      I think one wash is enough. Little ones have really sensitive scalps and their hair strands aren't as strong. Over-manipulation can lead to breakage, and over washing can lead to that dreaded dryness. Kinky Curly Knot Today is a leave-in that me and my little one live by. It's mild enough to where I think it'd be great for you to use on your son.

      • Jessanelle
        August 25, 2014 at 1:22 pm — Reply

        I think there’s a delay in receiving you response which is causing me to repeat questions you already answered but ok. Is the kinky curly light? I will use the conditioner when he gets a little older . I’ll study his hair pattern changes for now .

        • August 25, 2014 at 1:38 pm — Reply

          Yes, I think there is a slight delay. The Kinky Curly is light. Yes. And coconut oil is not a butter. A butter would be a solid shea butter, or mango butter. And yes! Definitely put oil on the scalp, but nothing heavy like the hair grease concoctions our mothers used to use on our hair. lol. A light oil like coconut or jojoba as you stated are great to use on the scalp AFTER you've moisturized with water or a leave-in.

          • Jessanelle
            August 25, 2014 at 1:48 pm — Reply

            Ok so just to sum everything up , on wash days I will do one wash, then spritz with water, apply a light amount of leave in and then seal it with a solid butter or oil. On daily regimens all the same applies except for the washing of the hair. The leave in should be applied on a daily as well I believe you said. Then after the sealing I will apply jojoba to the scalp. Should that be on a daily ? How old was your daughter when you starts using te kinky kurly knot today leave in on her?

            • August 25, 2014 at 2:15 pm — Reply

              Sounds good! But Jessanelle, please don’t take what we’re discussing as gospel. It seems like you’re looking for an end all be all hair regimen with specific products and routines that you’ll stick with for a long time. Not possible! lol. Use my suggestions as just that… suggestions. You know your son’s hair type better than anyone. I don’t want you coming back here saying, “I tried this, and it didn’t work heffa!!” lol. I do think you should just relax a little with the products and washing, but your routine was fine. You’re doing fine momma!
              I just found the Kinky Kurly about a month ago. Like you, I’m still on a journey of discovery and growth when it comes to me and my daughter’s natural hair journey. It has just intrigued me so much that I’ve done a LOT of scientific research and have been blessed to be able to share my knowledge here on my blog. I’m so glad that I could help! :) As far as sealing, to make things less complicated, just remember to seal from root to tip. You’re not necessarily saturating the scalp with oil, but you’re going from the root of the hair strand to the tip. Just remember that. :)

              • Jessanelle
                August 25, 2014 at 2:24 pm — Reply

                Ok I will see what works for him as well as taking your suggestions Into mind. Thank you so much for your help I will try the kinky kurly. I will keep you updated. Thank you so much again! Lol your funny as well , keep up the good work!

                • August 25, 2014 at 2:32 pm — Reply

                  Yes, definitely keep me updated! And my husband tells me I'm funny all the time. Sometimes I wonder if that's the only reason why he married me… besides the fact that I'm fine. LOL. :p
                  Seriously though, let me know how things work!

                  • Jessanelle
                    August 25, 2014 at 3:24 pm — Reply

                    Ok lol I’m dying right now

                  • Jessanelle
                    August 25, 2014 at 9:38 pm — Reply

                    Hello again so the cara b I thought I had is finished and kinky Kurly products are out in my locations. Have u heard anything about it’s a curl baby or mixed chicks leave In for kids pproducts, if so any feedback?and is it ok if I get whipped shea butter instead o the solid one? It’s harder to smooth out

                    • August 25, 2014 at 10:31 pm

                      I've heard great things about Mixed Chicks but haven't tried it myself. Give it a go and see how it works! Remember – this is about your journey. ;) The solid shea butter has a really low melt point so I use it by breaking off a piece and warming it up in my palms; but if that's too much going on for you, the whipped shea butter should be fine as long as it's not laced with any other crazy chemicals.

                    • Jessanelle
                      August 25, 2014 at 11:08 pm

                      Ok that’s good. For some reason I don’t know if it’s just me or other mothers but I a product doesn’t say baby or for baby and kids on it I’m skeptical about using it. Because the mixed chicks said kids I Thoughy twice. ANd as long as it’s 100% shea butter it will be fine. I know shea moisture kids has a leave in with marshmallow extract but it’s liquid and not as pricey as mixed chicks. What do you think about that ? Do u know any good leave ins for babies or kids?

                    • August 25, 2014 at 11:14 pm

                      My daughter's hair loves Shea moisture products, so I can cosign on that one. Other than that, we'll have to explore the leave-ins together because I don't have any (other than ones I've already mentioned) that I'd be willing to recommend. Just check your ingredients. If it has more than a few items that you can't pronounce then it may be a bit too harsh for an 8-month old.

                    • Jessanelle
                      August 25, 2014 at 11:30 pm

                      Ok so overall it’s ok if his leave in liquid form ? Will the liquid form Of the leave in not go in sync with the l.o.c method ? Also can I do the l.o.c. Method only when I wash his hair and just moisturize his hair daily with a spritzer and seal with oil? I feel like a l.o.c is for the wash day routines as the hair is really fresh while daily moisture should just be water and o or a butter. Also I don’t know if you do this on your site but do you testimonial pictures of other moms kids who have reached out to you or before and after pics. I would like to join in any way and help you with the way you are helping me with great advice . I know his hair hasn’t changed yet but when it does

                    • August 25, 2014 at 11:39 pm

                      The liquid is fine, and girl, you can do the LOC method whenever you like. If his hair feels extra dry – get to loccing. lol. You've got to use your best judgment on that one. He IS only 8-months so I personally wouldn't go that deep with it yet. Here's a great article on the LOC method from Naturally Curly:… (Keep in mind though, that the article is geared toward adult hair care, but it's got some great information.)
                      I think as long as you're doing water/leave-in and seal daily, you're good to go. And I don't have any testimonials yet, but I'll be sure to keep you in mind if I set that up. :) I'm going to bed! lol

                    • Jessanelle
                      August 26, 2014 at 1:53 am

                      Ok the shea moisture kids is just an daily extra moisture spritz and detangler . It doesn’t say anything about it being a leave in but it does say to not rinse out. I like the ingredients though. The only reason I’m skeptical about the mixed chicks is because of some of the ingredients that I’m not sure of. A silly questions , should I also apply the l.o.c to his bald area that have faint hair ? I don’t want it to be too much on scalp contact instead of roots to end. Also if I choose to use the mix chicks leave in I was reading one comment response you made to someone and said she can detangled with coconut oil after shampoo before loc. I also thibk you actually said that was your favorite. It was for her 6 month old son. Do u think I can incorporate that into his wash too if the leave in I choose to use isn’t a detangler as well? I tried this one time before he washed his hair and it made it extra soft after the wash. But shampoo strips oils so I’m think it would be better after . But good night lol!

          • nikkie
            September 18, 2014 at 11:39 pm — Reply

            Do you have any suggestions for mixed hair?

            • September 19, 2014 at 11:55 am — Reply

              Hey Nikkie! I guess it all depends on what your issues are. If you’re experiencing dryness when it comes to your child’s hair then the same rules apply: moisturize at least every other day, seal with a light oil after moisturizing, sleep with a satin bonnet and/or pillowcase, etc. What are you experiencing with his or her hair?

  82. Jessanelle
    August 25, 2014 at 2:27 am — Reply

    Hi! I have an 8 month old boy who I’ve been taking the natural journey with. His regimen on wash days consist of 1) washing his hair once a week with shea moisture baby chamomile, argon oil 2) drying his hair lightly with a t shirt. 3)After I am done dressing him I wet his hair with a Spritzer mixed with water, aloe Vera juice and a light leave in conditioner( cara b) which I think irritates him a little 3) run some grapeseed oil through his strands and then I apply a shea butter mixture I made myself which consist of shea butter, coconut oil, jojoba oil and olive oil. His regimen on a daily consist of rewetting his hair with a spritzer that consist of only water and aloe Vera juice. I’m noticing that on the day that his hair is washed everything looks n feels fresh. But through out the week his hair is usually still soft and moisturized in the front, a little dry on the sides but mainly in the back is where the issue is. I don’t know if it’s because he sleeps on those parts more but he does sleep on a satin pillow case. I also use satin on his bouncer and car seat pillow. I wanted to know am I taking the right steps thus far? when can I use a conditioner ? and should i use a wide tooth comb to detangled his hair with the conditioner? If I should use a conditioner can It be a DIY one or what kind do u recommend? Am I using the right oils to moisturize and right butter to seal or is it too much? Are there lighter products or things you recommend? FYI I only wash his hair once a week because his hair starts to smell oil I guess of build up. Also he has big curls in the middle and tighter in his sides and front edges. The back of his hair barely has any curls unless their wet besides that it’s mainly frizz and the very bottom of his hair is still slicked down like when he was just born. Overall I think he’s a 3c and 4c on the back part. I look forward to hearing from you soon, I’ve been searching for some help his age but I’m confused with all these videos.

    • August 25, 2014 at 10:49 am — Reply

      Hi Jessanelle! First off, let me say thank you so much for reading! :)

      Now, I'm about to give you my opinion based off of experience… You are doing A LOT on your son's head. lol. Your wash day routine sounds like what a grown natural haired woman may do. I don't think you have to be so intensive. (which may actually save you a bit of work and confusion in the long run). Your son's TRUE hair type probably won't make itself known for another 6 to 8 months. I didn't see either one of my twin's true hair types until they were around 14 months.

      You son's hair sounds almost EXACTLY like my son's was. His hair didn't grow in the back until he was about a year old, and even then it didn't grow in completely until he was around 13/14 months. It's just something you'll have to accept. Even with satin pillowcases, there's still a lot of friction going on since he still sleeps "baby hours". He probably favors his back, and unfortunately, the back of his hair is his weak spot. It just is what it is. Don't worry though. It WILL grow.

      If growth is what your goal is when it comes to your son's hair, you may want to ease off with some of the oils… And most importantly – stop washing his hair every week girl! So serious. If it starts smelling after a week, it's probably due to product buildup, which ultimately results in dirt and oil build up. The scalp, in general, needs to be clean and free of build up in order to set it up for optimum growth.

      Let me tell you what my twins hair routine was until they were about one: I washed their hair once every two weeks (if that) and I spritzed their hair with water and sealed that in with a dot of EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) daily. That. Was. It. lol. I actually JUST started doing deep conditioning treatments on my daughter's hair, and she's three.

      Of course, you have to make the ultimate decision when it comes to your son's hair; but I would ease up a bit with a few of the products. The oils and butters sound great, but you probably only need one at this point to seal in his moisture. You washing it every week is stripping away that natural sebum that his hair naturally creates to stay moisturized. That Cara B is great, but watch you're ingredients. It already has glycerin and aloe vera juice in it, so piling on more sealants and more aloe vera juice is only creating buildup and may be keeping your son's hair from absorbing that good moisture. Just use the Cara B (if you desire) as your daily moisturizer for him and then seal that in with EVOO.

      I hope that helps you out! (I feel like I wrote another post. lol) Please let me know if you have any other questions. :)

      • Jessanelle
        August 25, 2014 at 11:16 am — Reply

        Thank you so much for replying so quickly! So just to clarify, as a daily moisturizer I should use the cara b moisturizer or EVOO? Or did you mean the cara b and the EVOO as a sealant after ? Also would I keep the same routine for his wash days ( which I will move to every two weeks lol )? And at what she did you start using a conditioner? I see you stated the age for a deep conditioner. Will this routine help with the dry hair in the back? Also does I tried EVOO which is moisturizing but it leaves stains behind compared to the other oils. Are there any oil you would recommend that can take place of the EVOO ? I have diff oils maybe I can use one of those( sweet almond, jojoba, coconut, grapeseed,vitamin e, shea butter) . I’m going to wash his hair today so I can get the residue out and then every two weeks from there on our more based on if his hair is dirty or still moisturized . Hope to hear from you soon! I apologize for all the questions I’m just so happy your answering compared to other blogs I wait forever for a response

        • August 25, 2014 at 1:06 pm — Reply

          No problem! I love to help. :)

          Use the Cara B and then the EVOO to seal. I've never personally had any issues with staining from the oil, but I suppose you could use any oil you like as long as you're putting something (butter or oil) on after moisturizing in order to seal in the moisture.

          I still don't think your wash days have to be so intensive. Wash with the shampoo you're using if you like it, then use a leave-in and seal. That's it. If you really feel compelled to add another step to do more of a "loccing", add a butter. (Not your mix. Just a plain butter.)

          As far as conditioner. That's, of course, entirely up to you, but I would really wait for a few months to see what sorts of changes your son's hair makes. Because it will change. I didn't do conditioner at all until age three on my baby girl. A lot of conditioners (even the ones made for kids) can have a lot of extra chemicals that can break down the hair after time; so I wouldn't advise introducing anything store bought until he's a little older. If you're pressed to use a conditioner, try one of your homemade ones using all natural ingredients.

          That dry funny patch in the back will go away. BOTH of my twins went through that "phase". You'll get to a point where you're going to need to trim off that weird "newborn" hair anyway. (I did around age two and it was the best thing for both of my babies.) Don't overcompensate by layering on product after product because you'll end up doing more harm than good. (Clogging his pores and stunting hair growth.) Just keep it moisturized daily. Don't forget that water is your best moisturizer. Then seal with a butter or oil.

          Hope that helps! :)

          • Jessanelle
            August 25, 2014 at 1:17 pm — Reply

            Ok I probably just put too much of the EVOO but I’ll try it If I don’t like it I’ll use some grapeseed or avocado oil. Do you like any other leave in/ moisturizers that are similar to cara b? And if I use a butter is coconut oil considered a butter ? N I shouldn’t put any type of oil on his scalp correct ? I’m only asking because I heard jojoba is good for the scalp

  83. Kate
    August 9, 2014 at 7:35 pm — Reply

    I need some advice on caring for my 6 month old baby girl's hair. (I cannot tell if she's a 4A or 4B. Any advice on telling the two apart?) She's rubbed off her hair from ear to ear on the back of her head and I'm trying to be patient with the growth! In the meantime, I want to take care of the thick patch on top of her head (envision a faux-hawk) and I'm not having any luck with Carol's Daughter kids products. Any suggestions on detanglers? She rubs/pulls her hair when she's tired and it is so hard to detangle/delint her hair. Also, should I add oils or other products this young? If so, what do you suggest? I wash her hair no more than once a week but I do try to wet comb her hair about every 3 days with the detangler and today it was just horrible getting the knots out, poor girl!

    • August 10, 2014 at 8:52 am — Reply

      Hi Kate! For a 6 month old I wouldn't even worry with the typing system just yet. Your little one's "true" hair type probably won't come in until she's around a year old and even then, you may end up with a mix of textures on her head. Your primary focus at this point needs to be keeping her hair moisturized and detangled as much as possible.

      That hair loss in the back is totally common. (My son's hair didn't grow in in the back until he was a year old.) There's a lot of friction happening back there with her sleeping "baby" hours. I would suggest going ahead and getting a small satin pillow or a satin blanket and having her sleep on that. The cotton sheets and pillowcases are what does the most damage as they suck out all of the moisture in the hair and create lots of extra friction.

      I think the Carol's Daughter children's line is great, but for children under 2 there are a LOT of chemicals in there you may want to stay away from for now. There are denatured alcohols and perfumes that may actually be doing her hair more harm than good.

      I think washing her hair once a week is a lot honestly. You may want to try falling back to once every couple of weeks. Get a spray bottle and mix 4 oz (or ½ cup) of aloe vera juice, 6 oz (or ¾ cup) of coconut water, and 2 oz of water and use that to spritz her hair daily. Organic coconut oil is PERFECT for the youngins as it's light, helps with hair loss, and strengthens the hair. Use the coconut oil when you do your detangling and that should make things a whole lot easier.

      I hope that helps you out a bit. Let me know if you have any more questions. :)

      • Kate
        August 11, 2014 at 8:41 pm — Reply

        Thanks for the info! Much appreciated. I've used the organic coconut oil, but not as often as I probably should and not to help with tangles! We'll give this a go tomorrow night. I'm sure her tender scalp and hair will appreciate it!

        • August 12, 2014 at 6:46 am — Reply

          No problem! Glad I could help! Yeah, that organic coconut oil is my go to "detangler" for my baby girl. I hope it works out for you!

  84. Tracey Allen
    August 8, 2014 at 1:14 pm — Reply

    So my daughter has 4a type hair. But my question is I braid her hair in those little sections but I try spray her hair everyday with water and coconut oil or jojoba oil. The main products I have been using in her hair for the last 8 months is Bee Mine Products I love the products it seems to be making her hair grow. But my big question is that I wash her hair about every 2 weeks or so but I have notice for a while her hair sheds when I comb through with my hands after washing. Is it time to cut her hair ends now?

    • August 8, 2014 at 1:30 pm — Reply

      Hi, and thanks for reading. :) There's always going to be some natural shedding. If you're noticing growth, then you shouldn't have much to worry about. I notice most of my shedding during wash days as well as I don't comb or brush my hair regularly electing to "finger comb" out knots and tangles. When you wash, you're manipulating the hair more than you normally would, so it may look like a lot of shedding is taking place when you're simply just releasing hair that's already been shed.

      As far as whether or not to trim, you'll have to really take a look at the condition of her ends. If they're not split or "ratty" there's really no need to trim. If the ends seem thin or split, then trim immediately as that will only get worse. (There are no miracle end repair cures contrary to what commercials would have you believe. lol.)

      I hope that answered your questions.

  85. Yolanda
    July 25, 2014 at 12:05 pm — Reply


    Can you please clarify what you mean exactly about a dot of olive oil? Is it a dot per boxed braid, or a dot for the entire head? what is a good coconut oil to use?

    • July 25, 2014 at 5:56 pm — Reply

      Hey Yolanda! There's really no right or wrong answer to the "dot" of olive oil. A "dot" will mean different things to different people depending how much slip/sealing you need. I think I use about 3 or 4 tablespoons total for my little girl's entire head. (Her hair is butt-length now when stretched, so you may need more or less depending on your daughter's length.) I just place a small amount in my hand (maybe a quarter-sized amount) and work it through each section. If you're working with your daughter's hair in sections, you can do it that way.

      As far as the coconut oil, I haven't found a go-to brand per se. I use any fully organic cold-pressed kind that I can find at a good deal.That's the type with no added chemicals that you can use for cooking and skincare as well. I've used a few different brands in that respect, and they're all the same. You can find it at farmer's markets or Whole Foods type stores. I've bought it online at a really good deal. I've also found huge tubs at my local Sam's for a fantastic price.

      I hope that clarifies things! :)

  86. Antoinette
    July 20, 2014 at 6:08 am — Reply

    Thanks a lot for the detail on how to manage my daighter's hair. I thought I was doing everything correctly but my daighter's hair is still very dry and coarse. It also stop growing. This is my wash day routine (exactly). Can you please tell me what I'm doing wrong? I take her corn rows out, wash her hair with Tresemme luxurious moisture for dry or damaged hair, then I use Audio Naturale knot out conditioner, (sometimes I blow dry her hair if I'm rushing but I mainly let it air dry) but I put Palmer's coconut oil hair milk in her hair after rinsing out the conditioner. Once it's dry I put in Taliah Waajid herbal comb out and coconut oil grease to braid her hair. I put a scarf on her hair but it never stays. To remoisture her hair I put the Palmer's Coconut oil hair milk daily and may re-grease her scalp every couple of days. So what do you think?

    • July 20, 2014 at 7:54 am — Reply

      Antoinette, first off, let me say thank you so much for reading! So glad you could get some use out of this. :) On to the nitty gritty. lol

      I think your biggest problem is the products you're using. If your child is a 4c (dry and coarse as you described) the products that you listed are doing more harm than good on her hair. That Tresemme Luxurious has a lot of denatured and drying alcohols that 4c types (like mine) do not like.

      Here's a rule of thumb that I live by on my own 4c hair: if you can't pronounce most of the ingredients, then don't use it. Let me tell you what's worked best at keeping my hair moisturized: water. I'm so serious. I've got a spray bottle of water that I've put a few drops of Kinky Curly Knot Today leave in (this stuff works wonders on my hair.) I spray my hair DAILY and then seal it with a shea butter or olive oil and my hair stays soft and moisturized. I promise you don't need a lot of chemical laced products to do the job on her hair. The more natural, the better. Our hair is SENSITIVE. lol.

      Secondly, take a look at this article about greasing the scalp:…. This is a practice that our parents did on us that actually does more harm than good if you'd believe it.

      Finally, if you haven't already, read Part II in this series:…. There I give a lot of great tips on moisturizing.

      Hope that helped a bit more. Let me know how things work out! :)

      • Antoinette
        July 20, 2014 at 8:21 am — Reply

        Thanks a lot for the reply. I do have Kinky Curly knot today as well. So since I corn row her hair every two weeks, I can mist some of that over her braids with a little Evoo and be ok? Also, I was thinking about what shampoo I should switch to for her. The conditioner is fine though and the Palmer's coconut oil milk, right?

        • July 20, 2014 at 9:14 am — Reply

          I actually use the Kinky Curly as my leave-in (diluted with water) and as my regular conditioner but if you want to find another conditioner, just be aware of those alcohols (things like TEA-triethanolamine and other ethanolamines). Yes, the Kinky Curly and EVOO are a great combination and the Palmer's sounds okay as well. Again, you just really have to pay attention to ingredients when you're dealing with 4c hair. A lot of the things they include can break down hair just like relaxers can. Long term use can lead to drying and breakage.

          • Antoinette
            July 21, 2014 at 1:00 pm — Reply

            So if I have an 8oz spray bottle, how much water and leave in conditioner should I put in it. Then when using the EVOO I can pour that in my hands and rub over her braids with my hands. Correct?

            • July 21, 2014 at 2:35 pm — Reply

              No exact measurements. Just do about four pumps/squirts of conditioner and fill the rest with water. And yes, you're correct as far as the EVOO. :)

  87. Keishana
    June 28, 2014 at 9:21 pm — Reply

    The guide is extremely helpful. My daughter who is now 4 has an interesting texture. Based on the description her newer hair growth is 4b but the ends are 4c. Is it possible that her original hair as a baby would be thicker? I have never trimmed it but it causes a challenge when styleing since the ends are a challenge to moisturize. I wonder if I should take her to a salon for a trim? I hate the idea if cutting her hair…..

    • June 30, 2014 at 5:39 am — Reply

      Hey Keishana! Thank you so much for reading. So glad this piece helped you out a bit. :) Yes, it's very possible for her hair texture to change as she grows – be it from coily to coarse, or coarse to coily. As she grows up, she may very well experience another hair texture change; or she may end up with a nice mix of textures. You kind of just have to go with the flow right now. I'd only say trim if her ends are split or damaged in some way. If they're not, and you're trying to achieve length, then it's not necessary. If her ends ARE damaged, get rid of them ASAP because the splits will only get worse and lead to breakage. I trimmed my daughter's hair a few months ago, because like your daughter's, her ends were ratty and seemed to be a different texture. It was a great decision because now her hair seems fuller, more even, and a whole lot healthier as a whole.
      Hope that helped! :)

  88. Kim
    June 26, 2014 at 7:41 am — Reply

    My daughter does not have a single curl in her hair. None of the hair types that you have fits her. She will be 2 years old next month and her hair is very dry and thick. The back in still trying to grow in as she did not have much as a baby. I have no clue on how to care for her hair. Please give me some advice. Thank you.

    • June 26, 2014 at 3:55 pm — Reply

      It sounds like your daughter is probably a 4-c which is a type that rarely ever has a curl pattern. (The full descriptions for the hair types are here:… I have very thick 4-c as well so I feel your pain. It's a VERY hard hair type to keep moisturized.

      If you want her to have a chance at some growth you're going to have to commit to moisturizing her hair DAILY. Don't worry about fancy products. Go to your beauty supply store and grab a spray bottle. Fill it with water and a few drops of conditioner. Spray your daughter's hair every night before bed with that and seal in that moisture with an oil (extra virgin olive oil works great) or a butter. I use raw shea butter that I've warmed and melted in my hands.

      Next, find a protective style that works for her and stick with it. Be it box braids, twists, or cornrows – Keep her hair protected in that style for a few weeks, and then let it loose and deep condition. If you follow this routine, you should see a major difference. I hope that helps! :)

      • Kim
        June 26, 2014 at 5:05 pm — Reply

        That's exactly her type of hair. What kind of conditioner? I do have some sheamoisture conditioner extra raw. Is that ok? Also, I continue to spray it while it's in braids? The water won't make it nappy. I am the type that takes her hair down after a week because it starts to look a mess. Thank you for your advice.

        • June 26, 2014 at 5:19 pm — Reply

          Any moisture rich conditioner will do. (TRESemmé has a really good one.) You need to seal with a solid butter or oil or all of that moisturizing won't do you any good. That Shea Moisture conditioner (if it's what I'm thinking of) sounds like more of a moisturizer itself. You need to use something that will seal that moisture in afterward. If you've got some extra virgin olive oil in your pantry, use that. And I spray my hair in braids all of the time. You don't need to saturate the hair, just give it a good mist then seal it, and you shouldn't have any issues with it getting "nappy". lol. Glad I could help! :)

  89. May 1, 2014 at 4:57 pm — Reply

    Kesha, Oh my goodness I so needed this. My daughter is only 7 months but I made so many mistakes with 2 oldest daughters that I don’t want to do this again.
    Okay, so at a young age (like 7 months) how could I “really” know what type of hair my baby has? That’s what I’m confused about at this point.
    Okay, I’m saving this page,…have to do some of my own research too. We’re swimming once a week and I think this may have something to do with my failure…that and the fact that I don’t use shampoo or anything else for that matter.

    BTW, love those pics…cute girl :)

    • May 1, 2014 at 11:32 pm — Reply

      Salma, I’m so glad I could help a bit! I think at 7 months the main thing you’ve got to concentrate on is keeping her hair moisturized. Spritz it with water and seal it with a dot of olive oil DAILY. My daughter’s “true” type didn’t seem to come in until about a year/year and a half; so you probably won’t be able to use the typing system as a tool until then. Girl, that swimming can wreak some havoc on textured hair so you may want to think about investing in some cute caps. (So serious.) That chlorine is not a joke. lol.
      Thanks for the love on my baby girl’s pics! I hope I helped you out a bit more. :)

  90. Julie
    February 13, 2014 at 11:49 am — Reply

    Great post! Thank you! I didn't put in the amount of research you did but when my kids were babies/toddlers I used a lot of Carol's Daughter products and that worked great. Now that they're older and transitioning into doing their own hair. Things aren't going so well. Especially for my hard-core athlete teenager. She has a lot of breakage and fights me on the moisture because she says it comes down her face when she sweats. Stopping by from #SITSblogging!

    • February 13, 2014 at 6:11 pm — Reply

      Thanks Julie! I appreciate you stopping by! That Carol's Daughter is the truth right!?
      I'm by no means an expert, but a suggestion for your active teen would be to find her a protective style that works for her and stick with it. Be it straight back cornrows or box braids. She can spray it with water and seal that in with a dot of olive oil and that should be enough to keep her hair moisturized and protected. (Minus all of the drippage in the face. lol) Hope that helps. :) Thanks again for stopping by!! :)

  91. Diaryofa1stTimeMom
    January 25, 2014 at 7:20 am — Reply

    Great guide Kesha! Will definitely put these tips to use. My daughter recently was treated for cradle cap at 2 1/2. I know! Who knew? I thought you could only get it as an infant. It causes some hair loss, so working to nurture her roots back to good health!

    • January 25, 2014 at 7:45 am — Reply

      Girl, I had no clue cradle cap could happen in preschoolers. Learn something new every day. lol. So glad you could find this useful. Thanks for stopping by! :)

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