After I wrote my third article on how to take care of an African American baby’s hair, I began to get inundated with questions regarding everything from whether or not my child sleeps on a satin pillowcase (she does) to what types of shampoos to use. But the main question that I see over and over involves how to keep an African American child’s hair moisturized.

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Keeping textured hair moisturized, in general, is an ongoing challenge; and it becomes all the more difficult the “coilier” the hair strands are. Why? Well, the “curlier” your child’s hair is, the more time it will take for her scalp’s natural oils to travel down her hair shaft. This leaves her tight curls or coils more prone to dryness and breakage.

The circumference (size around) of coily hair strands is smaller than your average straight or wavy hair strands. This means that coily hair simply can’t absorb or hold moisture as readily as those straighter hair textures do. As a result, you may find that that heavy cream that your girlfriend said works wonders on her daughter’s hair may just “sit on top” of your child’s “kinkier” hair not drawing in any of its benefits.

If you have a little brown baby with hair that seems to always be dry; or if you’re just in need of some moisturizing tips for your African American child, read on!

Related Content: The Right Way to Take Care of Your Child’s Hair While it’s In Braids or Twists: 4 Tips

1. Use a water-based liquid product.

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Water-based products like Fantasia’s Argan Oil Leave-In Curl Detangler Conditioner will penetrate the hair shaft and moisturize your child’s hair without leaving it greasy or weighed down.

How do you know if a product is water-based? If the first or second ingredient in the product is good ol’ H2O, then you’re good to go!

2. Don’t over-wash but DO keep your child’s hair clean

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Those water-based products won’t be able to do their job if you’re applying them to dirty hair and scalp. Dirty hair has build up and won’t accept product as readily as clean hair will.

Of course, washing your child’s hair TOO often strips the hair of its natural oils and can leave it dry and brittle. Wash and moisturize your child’s hair, on average, every other week.

*Some parents live and die by the “co-wash” method. This essentially means that no shampoo is used at all and that the hair is cleansed with conditioner only. (This is due to how harsh shampoos can be.) If you’re child’s hair is consistently dry, this may be a method that will work for you.

3. Spritz and seal.

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As referenced in number one, water is hands down the best “moisturizer”. My little girl’s hair dries out very quickly. I’ve made it a habit of lightly spritzing her hair daily with plain water then sealing in that moisture with a shea butter mixture. This has worked wonders at keeping her hair moisturized.

The reality is that if you forget to seal after moisturizing your little brown baby’s hair, you’ll have done all of that spritzing and spraying for nothing. Be it a butter or an oil, find a sealant that works on your child’s hair and use it regularly after moisturizing.

4. Don’t just use products to moisturize your child’s hair.

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There are a lot of products out there that claim to be moisturizers but don’t actually fit the bill. They may make your child’s hair feel moisturized when in actuality, it’s not. Again, nothing beats plain water when it comes to moisturizing. Start with water and THEN add your favorite product.

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  8. Tequila
    July 14, 2016 at 7:45 am — Reply

    My daughter is 7 months and her hair is very dry. I have used water with extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil, and Pink lotion not together though. I’ve recently changed her hair regimen. I’m using E’tae baby line when I wash her hair weekly. I’m using my Shea Moisture leave in or Hawaiian Silky Miracle Worker 14-in-1 with water everyday and detangle with a wide tooth comb. Are these products too much too soon for her hair or should I seal them with oil. If I moisturize her hair in the morning by bedtime it’s mainly dried out again. Should I just Spitz with water at bedtime and leave her alone?

  9. Shavana
    June 7, 2016 at 9:10 am — Reply

    Hello i Have a question what to put in your daughter hair if she got thin hair how do you get it to be thick what product can I use and for her dryness hair and her ends break also it be dry and dull and rough she got the bounce hair that sticks up after you twist it

  10. Suriyah B
    April 6, 2016 at 11:56 pm — Reply

    I have tried everything. The back of my 2-year olds hair breaks off all the time, won’t hold any moisture and is so short I can even twist it into a protective style. Suggestions ladies?

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    • Kadiyah
      October 12, 2016 at 1:46 am — Reply

      Hello…. my name is Kadiyah I have a daughter she’s 11months, and her hair texture just recently changed. It went from curly soft to thick with a lil softness but not like before. Also her brother cut her hair twice so she has spots in her head where the hair once was . One part of her hair is full and long and the other part is extremely short and her hair just looks jacked up. I want to know what I can do in enough time for her birthday, which is November 11 to her hair where it would look cute for her big day.

  12. shay
    November 19, 2015 at 8:30 am — Reply

    Hello, my name is shay I have 4 Lil girls 7,5,1 and 2 weeks and my delima has been there hair for one I’m not a very good hairstylest I can wrap and curl all say long but I know that not good for the girls I have never applied heat into there heads other than blow dryer and I resently started that this year for my two eldest, my girls have totally different textures of hair (7) hair is soft and in the thinner side compared to the others and really well to maintain but my (5) on the other hand is totally different ball game it is extremely thick and seems dry all the time and not to mention she’s tender headed I use deranged on her hair condition it but it is still hard to manage. My (1) I’m still a Lil uncertain of her texture seeing as though it’s coming in really weird the back of hair seems to not be growing at all the front is an OK length but I feel her growth is stunted and her hair is always dry her being so young I don’t want to put to many different things in it. So my question for you is can you recommend any hairstyles that I could probably manage to do that will help there hair prosper and what kinds of products do you recommend for my brown girls…. FYI the last 3 are mixed the Jamaican … I am also on a natural hair journey with my girls

    Thanks in advance

  13. Sola
    October 31, 2015 at 9:57 am — Reply

    Hi Kesha. I have a 5 month old baby with hair issues. I wash her hair twice a week with shampoo twice a week although her hair gets wet daily from bathing. I seal with coconut oil afterwards but the hair gets dry minutes after.

    Her hair always looks dry. I’m looking to start sheamoisture baby shampoo but which of them. I also think I need a conditioner. Could you pls recommend a sealant and conditioner/ co-wash. Thank you

    • November 1, 2015 at 4:39 pm — Reply

      Hi Sola,

      The hair of babies with a naturally kinky, coily, curly texture goes through a lot of changes up to and around 18 months. The texture may change and he or she may even have a little hair loss. This is totally normal, and a part of the process. Washing twice a week and completely saturating daily is a lot. There’s a chance her hair could suffer from hygral fatigue from the hair shaft constantly expanding and contracting from saturation. Washing once per week with a sulfate free shampoo is more than enough. If coconut oil isn’t enough, go ahead and upgrade to a thicker oil like extra virgin olive oil or shea butter.

      Here are a couple of articles that may help you:
      “The Do’s and Don’ts of Taking Care of Baby’s Natural Hair” – http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/african-american-baby-hair-care-dos-donts/
      “10 of the Best All Natural Products to Use on Your Child with Natural Hair” – http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/10-of-the-best-all-natural-products-to-use-on-your-child-with-natural-hair/

      Hope that helps! 🙂
      -Kesha

  14. Kimberly
    September 18, 2015 at 11:40 am — Reply

    Hi again Kesha.
    I just wanted to provide an update and get further advise. The stip of hair from along the temples through the back has not filled in yet. And the very back is still very very short in comparison to the top. She still has fine hair as well.
    After I started washing my daughter’s hair once a week, I noticed much more growth and her has started to thicken. I am still using all Cara B shampoo and products. Her hair says moisturized a lot longer than before, however, I am moisturizing it 2 times a day. Every morning and every night as follows:

    -Sprintz with a water and veg glycerin mixture
    -Sprintz lightly with Cara B mist
    -Apply Cara B daily moisturizing cream
    -Seal with coconut oil

    Once a week, I was her hair and massage her scalp with the Cara B shampoo and follow the above steps.

    For about 2 weeks, I have been putting her hair in 3 loose ponytails (if you can call it that) in the top where she has more length. I used these bands that are made of elastic and so far when taking out her hair has pretty much remained in tact. And I only leave those in during the day.

    I’m just learning about porosity, and she seems to have low porosity hair. I was thinking of switching the coconut oil to grapeseed oil as a sealant. For my hair as well…

    I was wondering if you think the grapeseed oil will be a good exchange for her?

    Also do you think my 2x a day moisturizing routine is okay…and the once a week wash?

    I was really thinking of changing up the products or regiment for greater benefits as she is approaching 1 years old. I’m just not sure if I should now and if I did, just not sure what to use or what regiment I should follow to help her hair thrive even more…or do suggest just waiting until she is a little older and look at changing up things??

    Any help and/or advice or suggestions is greatly appreciated!

    Many thanks in advance

    • September 18, 2015 at 9:19 pm — Reply

      Hi Kimberly,

      Ultimately, you’ll have to make the decision of what’s best for your little one, but you’ve got a LOT going on. lol. Twice a day moisturizing sounds like a lot of manipulation. I think the reason why I had so much success in the beginning of my little one’s hair journey is because I had the ability to just leave her hair alone. Given that I worked from home, there was no pressure to have her hair done every day. The low manipulation helped her to retain length. I understand though that if you work outside the home and have your little one in daycare, you have to have her hair neat to some degree. You may have to come to some sort of compromise though if you want to continue to see growth. That much product in a day can cause tons of buildup and hygral fatigue. Even with once a week cleansing.

      I think you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself to make your little one’s hair grow. Just relax momma! It sounds like you’re on a really good track. Your regimen will grow and change as she grows and changes. What oils you use are entirely up to you. If what you’re doing works now, then continue with it and be consistent. I believe that before my little one was one my regimen consisted of bi-weekly washing. I’d spritz with water and a seal with extra virgin olive oil every few days. That was it! lol.

      If you feel like you just have to moisturize twice a day or else her hair is dry and wiry to the touch then it may be time to move on from that Cara B. Shea Moisture would be a great brand to “move up” to.

      • Kimberly
        September 18, 2015 at 10:53 pm — Reply

        Hi Kesha,
        Thanks so much. I too thought moisturizing twice a day was a bit excessive, so I appreciate the feedback. I actually started that when the Pediatrician mentioned that her hair was thirsty. I was slightly embarrassed. I will work towards simplifying things starting this weekend.

        Due to the potential product buildup, I will go ahead and start with the shea moisture shampoo this weekend, I have the moisture retention that I currently use. Or do you think the baby or kids formula would be best for her?? I have the masque also, but not sure if she is ready for that just yet….

        I will plan to wash her hair every other week. I will try to reduce moisturizing daily unless absolutely necessary but certainly cut out the twice a day. The coconut oil doesn’t seem to be doing it for her that is why I was looking to change up the sealant.
        My new regiment will be:

        -Bi-weekly wash with shea moisture shampoo and follow up with the cara b leave in daily moisture after wash, and seal with extra virgin olive oil

        – spritz with plain water and seal with extra virgin olive oil (will plan for every couple of days.. or use more often if needed)

        I will try to keep her hair loose with no bands for day care and if I resort to that, it will be on an extremely limited bases. If I put a big bow or a headband on, it’s off by the time I pick her up.so that is not even an option any more.

        The above regiment is much more simple and I will give it a try for a few months to see how it goes and I’ll check back in again…

        I really appreciate your help and thanks for providing so much valuable advise, information, and suggestions!!!

      • Kimberly
        December 31, 2015 at 1:18 pm — Reply

        Hi Kesha, it is Kimberly, yet again – 4th post! I just wanted to give you a quick update and thank you so much for all your suggestions! Now that my baby girl is approaching 15 months (next week), her hair has thickened and grown quite a bit since I last reached out to you back in September. I took your advise and moved onto Shea Moisture, and stopped moisturizing her hair twice a day.

        Her hair has grown enough to braid at the top. The back is growing slowing but surely. Her sides, um, are still very thin and hair is sparse to say the least. I put back in plats but have to redo them every other day. But the top stays for about a good 5 days. Usually on the weekend I’ll put her hair in puffs for church, then braid it back up. She pulls at her hair a lot when she gets frustrated or sleepy, so it’s not that neat, which is why I put it in puffs. All in all her hair stays much more moisturized than ever before. I do have her a satin pillowcase and sheet, but she rolls on the floor and fabrics all the time. Just something that is very hard to put a stop to while she is at this age. She also doesn’t like getting her hair done, so I have to wait until she is sleep. It is one battle after another.

        In any event, I have simplified her regiment, but I want to fine tune it a little more. Up to this point, I haven’t really found any golden products. I have used JBCO and grapeseed oil and occasionally EVOO. I wash her hair every week. I still use the Cara B daily moisturizer. I have not found any other cream based light product for her hair. I also still use the Cara B spritz daily.

        I was thinking of co-washing every week, and once a month using a ACV rinse and condition.
        What do you think????
        Do you think I should co wash weekly or just keep shampooing or shampooing/conditioning every other week. I don’t always condition her hair, because some times she doesn’t tolerate the process all that well, so I’m lucky to get it shampooed.

        I also have a huge aloe plant that I wouldn’t mind trying on her hair. I’m just lost at how to prepare it in such a way that it will be beneficial.
        Have you ever tried aloe vera? If so how do you use it?

        I typically use product on her hair not the scalp with the exception of the sides and back because the hair is so thin it can be avoided.
        Do you recommend greasing or oiling the scalp?

        Thanks in advance for any suggestions!

    • Katrice
      October 24, 2015 at 11:20 am — Reply

      Hi Kesha, my daughter is 9 months old she have a blad spot in the back I been moisturizer her hair with water and jbco & avocado oil. My only concern is I think she allergic to coconut oil & Shea butter. I wanna do the loc method. Can substitute for another cream? Beside Shea butter ?

      • November 1, 2015 at 4:52 pm — Reply

        Hi Katrice,

        Bald spots on children under 18 months are completely common and totally normal. Babies sleep a lot, which can cause tons of friction when the head is rubbed on cotton bedding. If it really concerns you, either tuck a satin blanket tightly into the sides of her crib or swap her sheets out completely for satin ones.

        Here’s a great article that includes alternative products for people who may be allergic to coconut oil: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/allergic-to-coconut-oil-alternatives_559ed671e4b01c2162a62d89

        Hope that helps! 🙂

        -Kesha

  15. Kia
    August 24, 2015 at 7:45 am — Reply

    Hi Kesha, thanks for all your tips. My daughter is 5 months and Im trying to prevent the hair loss that in so many little brown girls. But she does have a small balding patch in the back (I assume from sleeping). I saw your tip to spritz with water then seal, but would you recommend to seal with a butter or oil? Or should the choice be made based on how curly or dry the hair is?

    • September 18, 2015 at 9:32 pm — Reply

      Hi Kia,

      Let me just put this out there: It’s TOTALLY common for babies with naturally textured hair to experience hair thinning or even hair loss up to and around 18 months. If it happens, it’s entirely normal; so don’t put too much pressure on yourself. As long as you’re spritzing with water and sealing with SOMETHING after moisturizing/washing, then you’re on the right track. The choice of butter or oil is all dependent on the child’s hair needs. If you seal with oil and her hair seems to “suck it up” or feel dry after a few hours, then you may want to bump up your sealant to a thick oil like a mix of jamaican black castor oil and extra virgin olive oil, or to a butter.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  16. Kristy
    July 21, 2015 at 10:56 am — Reply

    I just took in my 9 year old niece to raise for the next year. Her hair is long but dry and all over the place. I have no idea how to take care of African American hair, her mother never taught her. Do you have any tips that I could use to help me figure out three things: 1) How to properly take care of it, 2) Style her hair so it’s not always in a bun and frizzy and 3) teach her how to take care of her hair?

    • July 21, 2015 at 11:43 am — Reply

      Hi Kristy,

      The awesome thing about now is that there are TONS of resources out to help you learn how to care for naturally textured hair. I couldn’t possibly give you a full proof, all inclusive rundown in a comment response. It’s going to be a process, and you’re taking a great first step by being proactive. 🙂

      A great place to start would be my natural hair blog found at http://curlz.wegotkidz.com. Take a look at the Hair Types page and the Tools page. Those will give you a better understanding of your nieces hair type and the type of tools you’ll need in your arsenal to properly care for her hair.

      As far as styling, YouTube is your friend! Simply do a search for “natural hair styles” and you’ll find a plethora of tutorials. The key is going to be practice; because you’re right – her hair can’t remain in a bun and continue to be healthy and grow.

      Teaching her will be a process as well. As you learn, discuss what you’re learning and practice different regimens together.

      Here are a few general tips about natural hair that will help you guys along:

      – Learn, and have her wear TONS of protective styles (braids, twists, cornrows). The less you have to manipulate her hair in a week/month, the better.
      – Have her drink tons of water. Hair will only grow healthy with proper moisture, and that moisture starts from the inside.
      – Have her wear a satin cap or sleep on a satin pillowcase. Cotton can really do a number on natural hair. It sucks out moisture and creates tons of friction.
      – Get rid of any small tooth combs and trade them for a wide tooth comb and your fingers. Finger detangling is usually best; and it’s best to detangle only when hair is wet and slick with a conditioner.

      Hope those tips help! Good luck! 🙂

  17. Kae
    July 17, 2015 at 6:02 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha

    My daughter is 5mnths and I from the UK. She was being run with loads of hair but the last month or so the back and sides disappeared. I’m starting to see a bit of re growth but her hair is still thin. How do I make her hair grow? And maintain growth

    Thank you xx

    • July 17, 2015 at 11:08 pm — Reply

      Hi Kae,

      At five months, your regimen should be pretty easy. Wash weekly with a sulfate free shampoo. (Shea Moisture and Cara B. are great baby lines.) After washing, seal in that moisture with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. In between washings you can spritz her hair with water and seal with your oil to keep her hair moisturized. Loss of hair before 18 months is totally normal and quite common. Just keep up a moisturizing routine, and you’ll be setting her on a path of healthy hair growth. 🙂

      • Kae
        July 18, 2015 at 5:30 am — Reply

        ThaNo you very much Kesha

        I also put bows and headbands in her hair. Does that stunt growth?

        Thank you

        • July 19, 2015 at 10:45 pm — Reply

          Hi Kae,

          They don’t stunt growth, but I just wouldn’t put anything on or around her hair too tightly for extended periods of time.

  18. Tyai
    July 16, 2015 at 1:08 pm — Reply

    Hey Keshia , My daughter is 1yrs old with very thick and really dry, brittle hair she also has eczema, I just want keep her hair growing and be moisturized . I wanted to ask you if these steps are a good regimen
    •Put water-based leave in conditoner
    •Spritz hair with water
    •Seal with Jamaican black Castrol oil
    •Deep Conditioner
    I haven’t used this method yet I just need some advice on what steps to do 1st to make her hair moisturized ,

    • July 16, 2015 at 9:41 pm — Reply

      Hi Tyai,

      First, I would try a mixture of tea tree oil and jojoba oil for her eczema. Mix the two in an applicator bottle and massage a bit into her scalp each day.
      As far as your regimen, you probably want to wash her hair once a week or bi-weekly with a sulfate free shampoo, then deep condition. In between washings, to keep her hair moisturized, spritz her hair with the water, then apply your leave-in, and then seal with your oil. Do that every other day, or as needed. A majority of the time, you’ll want to keep her hair in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) if her hair is long enough. That will help maintain her moisture and promote growth. You can do your moisturizing routine with the spritz of water and seal of oil while her protective style is in.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  19. July 10, 2015 at 2:48 am — Reply

    Hi! I’m 15 years old and I had to cut my hair very short due to a bleach malfunction (I’m talking boy length short). I really want my hair to grow fast and i am just overwhelmed and confused by all the information there is regarding black hair. Please help me and give me some direction I’m really desperate!! My mum doesn’t know all the tips and tricks because her mum was mixed and never had a problem with hair growth! Thank you.

    • July 16, 2015 at 9:29 pm — Reply

      Hi Audrey,

      Sorry to read about your bleach malfunction. I’m sure that was no fun.
      I don’t want to burst your bubble, but healthy hair only grows about 1/2 an inch a month, so the first thing you need is patience. With that being said, it’s great that you’re sort of starting with a clean slate with the short hair. Now you have the opportunity to read, research, and figure out your hair. There are TONS of resources out there at your disposal. Here are a couple of tips to get you started:
      – Wear TONS of protective styles (braids, twists, cornrows). The less you have to manipulate your hair in a week/month, the better.
      – Drink tons of water. Hair will only grow healthy with proper moisture, and that moisture starts from the inside.
      – Wear a satin cap or sleep on a satin pillowcase. Cotton can really do a number on natural hair. It sucks out moisture and creates tons of friction.
      – Get rid of your small tooth combs and trade them for a wide tooth comb and your fingers. Finger detangling is usually best; and it’s best to detangle only when hair is wet and slick with a conditioner.

      Start with those few tips and go from there. 🙂

  20. Tiara
    July 2, 2015 at 12:56 pm — Reply

    My daughter just turned 1 a few weeks ago and her hair has fallen out dramatically she has a little fro i mean really small i stopped putting pony tails with rubber bands because i think that s the reason why her hair has fallen out so much its really thin on the sides and super dry no matter what i put on it i can grease her scalp at night and wake up its dry as bone and all tangled and matted I have no idea what to do to get her hair growing and healthy is there any products you recommend or shampoos im not sure of her hair type because it is so short i can say that it is extremely nappy.

    • July 2, 2015 at 7:04 pm — Reply

      Hi Tiara,
      At 1, your daughter’s hair is still falling into its growth and resting phases. I wouldn’t panic too much. The rubber bands probably just accelerated something that was going to happen anyway. A lot of little ones lose their hair prior to 18 months.

      If you’re using one of those thick hair greases that our moms used to use to grease our scalp, go ahead and stop that. That’s something that’s been passed down from generation to generation. The reality is that greasing of the scalp does more harm then good in the long run. Heavy cheap oils clog the pours on the scalp and can stunt hair growth. They can block the hair strands from absorbing much needed moisture. The scalp needs to remain clean and free of debris in order to set a foundation for growth. If her scalp is dry, use a light oil like coconut oil to moisturize it.

      The key to getting natural hair to grow is moisture. That moisture can only come from water. In-between shampooing, spritz her hair with water from a spray bottle and then seal that moisture in with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or Jamaican black castor oil. Sealing is your most important step.

      If her hair is long enough, make sure you put it in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) at least 70% of the time. The less you have to manipulate her hair in a week, the better.

      Start with those couple of tips and go from there. Keep reading and researching. We’re in a time where there are tons of resources out there to help you along on your journey with her hair.
      Good luck! 🙂

  21. charles
    June 18, 2015 at 1:34 pm — Reply

    my wife uses black hair gel on my daughters hair and he edeges are thin. SHe also has excema which also causes her hair to be really dry. Is the gel bad for her hair?

    • DeAnn
      June 27, 2015 at 11:23 am — Reply

      My daughter also has eczema and lots of products dry and irritate her scalp, including black hair gel. I like to cowash her hair with Shea moisture conditioner to moisturize and use olive miracle silky smooth edges for light hold or ampro pro style Aryan oil gel for a longer hold. I always wipe excess product off her face and apply a thin layer of Sun screen then Vaseline to her entire face before we leave the house. Keep in mind they will rub and scratch their hair so the hold will likely last 2-3 hours, just long enough for church or something. Anything longer, I just put a headband on her. Vitamin E oil and Tea Tree oil also sooth itching caused by eczema; I recommend the kind in a tube to drop oil between braids without making a mess. Good luck!

    • June 28, 2015 at 11:33 pm — Reply

      Hi Charles,

      Most gels have alcohol in them which doesn’t make them the best option for regular use. Have your wife trade the gel for a curling custard or styling creme. A mixture of tea tree oil and jojoba oil massaged into the scalp can help with that eczema. Good luck! 🙂

    • ty
      June 29, 2015 at 4:38 am — Reply

      Yes Hair gel is the worst thing to use on a child’s hair due to most gels have alcohol …..

  22. jessica
    June 12, 2015 at 10:36 pm — Reply

    Hello my 3 month old son had cradle cap badly it is now gone but caused him to lose all his hair on top and on one side and it looks weird I am currently using Vitamin E oil on his scalp 2-3 times a day..
    Do u have any suggestions what I should use to make his hair grow back a little faster?

    • June 13, 2015 at 12:02 pm — Reply

      Hi Jessica,

      Keep up with your vitamin E oil, and maybe alternate with coconut oil (which has natural healing properties). You may also try spritzing with a mixture of water and aloe vera juice that you keep in a spray bottle in the fridge. Outside of that, that’s about all you can do. He’s only 3 months, so he’s still cute regardless I’m sure. 🙂
      His hair will grow in just fine before you know it.

  23. Kim
    June 9, 2015 at 8:09 am — Reply

    HI. My name is Kim. I have really enjoyed reading your blog and advice!
    I have an 8 month old girl and she was born with very fine and thin hair with several areas of no hair at all.She developed bad cradle cap and my pediatrician suggested using selsen blue and I did. Completely cleared it up but changed her texture which I figured would have happened anyway. At 3 months she started childcare and the back of her hair was completely bald. At 6 months I started massaging her scalp and letting her sleep on a satin pillowcase or satin sheet.
    Her hair begin growing. Still thin with bald patches.But the back has filled in a little with hair.
    I wash her hair now once a month with Cara B. Every nite I rinse it with water during her bath…then I spritz it with a water and glycerine mix. Every morning I spritz it with Cara B spritz and use the Cara B daily moisturizer which also gets on her scalp because of thin and bald areas.
    I was wondering if you have any advice or suggestions about what I’m currently doing. Her hair is not long enough for any protective styling.
    Thanks in advance for your help!
    Kim

    • June 13, 2015 at 12:09 pm — Reply

      Hi Kim,

      Are you sealing her hair with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil after applying your water/products? Outside of that, I think your regimen sounds great! The only other thing you need now is patience. 🙂 She’s still young and her scalp is falling into it’s growth and shedding patterns. She’ll have a full head of hair in another 8 to 10 months and you’ll be wishing for these easy days.

      Fine, thin hair is often hereditary which means that there’s not a whole lot that you can do to change it (outside of styling it to make it look fuller once she gets older). With that being said, Jamaican black castor oil is an oil full of fatty acids that can help thicken hair and promote growth. Use a little of that mixed with extra virgin olive oil to seal her hair after you’ve applied your water/products. Her hair may actually thicken on it’s own once it she gets a little older.

      Good luck! 🙂

      • Kim
        June 15, 2015 at 3:32 pm — Reply

        Thanks so much Kesha. I will invest in some Jamaican black castor oil and give it a try. I have some coconut oil, which I used first on her hair, but it didn’t seem to keep it moisturized throughout the day, but the Cara B moisturizer seems to do the trick. I will try sealing her hair with the oils in addition to what I’m already doing. I really appreciate your time and advice. I will let you know how everything works out after giving it a try for a couple of months.

        • Kimberly
          September 18, 2015 at 11:36 am — Reply

          Hi again Kesha. I just wanted to provide an update and get further advise. The stip of hair from along the temples through the back has not filled in yet. And the very back is still very very short in comparison to the top. She still has fine hair as well.
          After I started washing my daughter’s hair once a week, I noticed much more growth and her has started to thicken. I am still using all Cara B shampoo and products. Her hair says moisturized a lot longer than before, however, I am moisturizing it 2 times a day. Every morning and every night as follows:
          -Sprintz with a water and veg glycerin mixture
          -Sprintz lightly with Cara B mist
          -Apply Cara B daily moisturizing cream
          -Seal with coconut oil

          Once a week, I was her hair and massage her scalp with the Cara B shampoo and follow the above steps.

          For about 2 weeks, I have been putting her hair in 3 loose ponytails (if you can call it that) in the top where she has more length. I used these bands that are made of elastic and so far when taking out her hair has pretty much remained in tact. And I only leave those in during the day.

          I’m just learning about porosity, and she seems to have low porosity hair. I was thinking of switching the coconut oil to grapeseed oil as a sealant. For my hair as well…

          I was wondering if you think the grapeseed oil will be a good exchange for her?

          Also do you think my 2x a day moisturizing routine is okay…and the once a week wash?

          I was really thinking of changing up the products or regiment for greater benefits as she is approaching 1 years old. I’m just not sure if I should now and if I did, just not sure what to use or what regiment I should follow to help her hair thrive even more…or do suggest just waiting until she is a little older and look at changing up things??

          Any help and/or advice or suggestions is greatly appreciated!

          Many thanks in advance

  24. Laura
    June 3, 2015 at 1:11 am — Reply

    I’ve found your page so helpful! My babies hair is so beautiful! But my concern is her edges… being that she is not biologically mine, I’m still learning daily. Her edged seem very thin to me, I’ve tried adjusting her protective styling to reduce the stress but they don’t seem to show any improvement at all. She has been a part of my life going on 4 years now but it’s only become my responsibility for the last 2. I notice the edges way back then and from pictures of her younger… could it just be that she has an odd hairline or is there more I can do for her?

    • June 13, 2015 at 12:13 pm — Reply

      Hi Laura,

      You’re right, learning her hair is a process that will require a little bit of trial and error. Do you use boar bristle brushes on her hair? If so, try to lesson your use of those. If you need to brush up her edges, use a (new) toothbrush with a little herbal gel on it. You can also try spritzing her hair with a mixture of aloe vera juice and water. Put it in a spray bottle and keep it in the fridge. Aloe vera juice has growth and healing properties. Seal her hair with a little jamaican black castor oil after you’ve applied the aloe vera juice mixture. Jamaican black castor oil also has healing, growth, and thickening properties that could help her edges out a lot.

      Good luck! 🙂

  25. Karla
    June 1, 2015 at 12:18 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha
    I like to first thank you for the time you take out of your busy schedule (husband & twins) to research and help us with our hair questions. This is my second time returning. You really help me the first. So I’m back again. I told myself no stressing over my baby girls hair. I’m learning. My girl is 11months her hair is very fine and thin. My concern now with her hair is that I’ve noticed it has gotten thinner. My routine has been shampoo with baby Shea Moisture then I would use Carols daughter moisture milk as a leave in. Her daily maintenance would be spritz water, Shea moisture kids buttercream and seal it with the coconut oil. This was great at first but her hair is gotten a lot thinner. I noticed that the Shea moisture products will say “thick, wavy, unruly hair”. Could this product not be for her hair type? So since I didn’t know what the problem was I use the shampoo only, water and the coconut oil. Thank Karla

    • June 2, 2015 at 4:30 pm — Reply

      Hi Karla,

      I’m so glad that I could help and that you found some of the information that I put out there useful! My family doesn’t mind because they know I’m passionate about it. 🙂
      Your regimen actually sounds good. Your daughter is still young and her scalp is still falling into a growth and shedding cycle. She may lose a little more hair before she gains it. The biggest tip that I can give you in regards to product selection is to try a product for 6 weeks. If it doesn’t help your little one to retain moisture and you’re not seeing any noticeable growth then it’s time to move on. I just wrote an article on 10 of the best chemical free products for natural hair that you may find useful: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/10-of-the-best-all-natural-products-to-use-on-your-child-with-natural-hair/.
      Just keep up your regimen, play around with products, and I’m sure you’ll start seeing some changes in her hair soon.
      Hope that helps. Thanks for reading!! 🙂

  26. Jasmine
    May 31, 2015 at 4:52 pm — Reply

    Is there a big difference with oil and butter for hair moisture. My daughter is 13 months notice how her hair sucks up the coco nut oil and the castor oil seem so thick & heavy. is there any good products on the market to keep hair moisturize. I spray with with water first then add the oil. Can I use Water only method.

    • June 2, 2015 at 4:23 pm — Reply

      Hi Jasmine,

      To answer your question, using water only isn’t going to do you much good. In order to seal in the moisture you’ll need to apply some type of butter or oil afterwards. There are differences between the different types of oils and butters but they’re both classified as sealers. It’s really going to be a game of trial and error; and it sounds like you’re narrowing things down. Extra virgin olive oil is a good oil that falls in-between coconut oil and castor oil. If you find that the EVOO isn’t enough, purchase an applicator bottle and mix your EVOO with your black castor oil. Beyond that, there are tons of oils and butters on the market. Keep researching and trying new things until you find something that helps you seal; but always remember, sealing is your most important step.

      Good luck! 🙂

  27. Kisha
    May 25, 2015 at 11:56 pm — Reply

    PLEASE HELP!!!!
    I have three girls (yes four heads to comb, try getting me ANYWHERE on time) my baby girl is albino and has THE MOST DRY AND BRITTLE HAIR I have ever seen. I had problems growing my other two daughters hair at first, but now their hair is down their backs. Unfortunately, I cannot seem to do the same for my precious baby girl. I have tried EVERYTHING from natural products, to cheap, to top of the line and so far I have been unsuccessful. Her edges are thin, although I have been able to grow them out and she also have what I call the baby ring (the bald/thinning hair on the back). She is only a year old so I can’t use a lot of products. Also sometimes I try not to handle her hair because do to the condition of her hair, even if i lightly touch it, it falls out.

    • June 2, 2015 at 4:15 pm — Reply

      Hi Kisha,

      It sounds like your baby girl could benefit from some weekly deep conditioning. Here’s an article that I wrote on some all natural deep conditioning recipes that you can make at home. http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/4-homemade-deep-conditioning-treatment/ You also may want to look into the LOC method. Layering on a liquid (like water), then an oil, and then a cream can help her hair to retain much needed moisture. After that, be patient! She’s still young and her body and scalp are locking into a growth and shedding cycle. I’m sure a hair growth spurt is coming for her soon. 🙂

      Good luck! 🙂

  28. renee
    May 16, 2015 at 4:48 pm — Reply

    Great article! I have a 22 month old daughter and her hair grows VERY slow. I started moisturizing her hair when she was 16 months and did notice improvement, but it isn’t much. Everyday I use African’s Best Shea Butter/Tea Tree Oil moisturizer and mix it with water, then use 100% coconut oil. I deep condition 1x a week. She doesn’t sleep in a satin bonnet to keep the moisture in at night, so I do not know if this is the reason her hair isn’t growing quickly. Anything else I need to do help my daughter hair grow? I think you mention in the comments about protective styling as one of the methods to grow hair but I cant even do that! Her hair is usually in a twa style and I place a headband on her head so people can recognize she is a girl because I’m tired of folks thinking she is a boy. Any suggestions?

    • May 24, 2015 at 12:44 pm — Reply

      Hi Renee,

      Yes, some sort of satin sheet or blanket tucked into her crib would help out a lot. If her hair has difficulty retaining moisture, you may want to consider putting a cream on her hair after your coconut oil. Shea butter would be perfect for this. Applying a liquid, then an oil, then a cream is called the LOC method and works wonders for helping curlies who have problems retaining moisture.

      As far as the protective styles, are you saying that her hair is too short to put in one, or that you physically don’t know how to do one? If it’s the latter then it’s time to head to YouTube and check out some tutorials. Mini 2-strand twists are something easy that you can do and you can tie them back with a ribbon to add the cute factor. But if her hair is long enough, having her hair in a protective style of some sort will help her hair to retain moisture and length.

      Outside of those couple of things, it sounds like your regimen is on point. She may just be starting out with a slow growth pattern, so patience may be key. I’m sure she’ll hit a growth cycle soon and you’ll be wishing for the shorter days. 🙂

      Hope this helps! 🙂

  29. Nicole
    May 15, 2015 at 6:36 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha, I been doing some research on how to treat my 4 year old daughter hair.
    her hair natural curls when it wet, but after it dry out it get very brickly. I would love for the curls to stay but havent found the right treatment for it. help!

    • May 16, 2015 at 10:27 am — Reply

      Hi Nicole,

      It’s all about the products you choose and how hydrated her hair is. How often are you deep conditioning and washing your little one’s hair? You may need to increase it to get her hair up to proper moisture levels. The better moisturized her hair is, the more you’ll be able to see her curls “pop”. Use a curling custard on her hair after washing like Kinky Curly Curling Custard. That will help to seal in her moisture and help those curls shine.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  30. Amber
    April 30, 2015 at 5:54 pm — Reply

    Hello,
    I’ve been following your site for some time now. I have an 8 month old and the back of her head is consistently dry. No matter what I put in her hair its dry within the next hour. We live in Texas and the heat is not helping at all. She has hair type 3a and its longer at the top and shorter on the sides. I have tried everything. Recently I purchased the Aunt Jackie’s Girls line and I am praying that it works. I was washing her hair every few days, but I think I may need to start just co-washing. Her hair is not that long at all. Please let me know if you think this product could possibly work for her.

    • May 11, 2015 at 9:52 am — Reply

      Hi Amber,

      I think co-washing would actually be something great to try – especially given the climate you live in. That dry patch in the back is actually very normal in babies. I wouldn’t stress too much quite yet. Given that babies sleep so much, the friction and constant exposure to cotton bedding and the nylon on their carrier can do a number on hair. Have you tried using a satin blanket in the crib? Tuck one tightly into the sides of his or her crib and have them sleep on that. Cotton is very absorbent and can suck every bit of moisture from hair. Satin helps hair to retain moisture and makes friction non-existent.

      Also, if you’re not already, be sure to apply water from a spray bottle to the hair first and THEN apply your products when moisturizing. After you’ve done that, be sure to seal with a carrier oil like coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil.

      Hope those tips help! Be sure to subscribe to my newsletter: http://eepurl.com/LxDMb and follow me on Instagram: http://instagram.com/kidzwithcurlz to get more information regularly.

      Good luck! 🙂

  31. Angelo
    April 27, 2015 at 11:30 am — Reply

    Thank you so much for the article! I am at a loss when it comes to our foster daughter’s hair. She is a 3 year old African American and this is my first experience with African American hair and I am struggling. There is so much conflicting advice out there and I am not sure what the best thing to do is. My first challenge is that she loves the water. We put her in the bath every night because she loves it so much and it helps keep our bedtime routine consistent. However, she loves to dunk in the water and gets her hair wet nightly. I have been told that this is drying her hair out, but I really don’t want to take the nightly bath away because she enjoys it so much. My question is, should I still spray her hair with water daily even though her hair is getting so wet in the bath every night? I have been using coconut oil in her hair and scalp, but I am not seeing a difference. Her hair is very short and seems to be growing in patches (we can see a lot of her scalp in some areas). I am not a fan of braids because they look so uncomfortable and I would rather leave her hair out naturally without any braids or anything that pulls it. However, someone told me that in order for it to grow, we need to keep it tight. Is that true? Any advise you can give would be greatly appreciated.

    • April 27, 2015 at 1:13 pm — Reply

      Hi Angelo,

      You may read or hear different things regarding the best ways to care for African American hair because there is no “one size fits all” solution to natural hair care. There is a unique combination of products and a unique regimen that are designed for your little one and your little one only; and it will be up to you to find it. It is a journey; but it’s one that is TOTALLY worth it. Don’t panic though. You’ve got this. Let me start you off with a few universal truths about natural hair:

      – The hair should never be detangled dry. Only comb (with a wide-tooth comb) and detangle when hair is wet and super slick with conditioner.
      – The hair should be protected at night with a satin bonnet or through the use of a satin pillowcase.
      – Protective styles (braids, twists, cornrows) are a must and are the only way to help textured hair retain moisture and grow.
      – Hair oils and hair butters are sealers and shouldn’t be used on textured hair alone. They should only be applied after the use of water or a water-based leave-in.

      Applying water daily is fine as long as you’re doing it the right way. Daily baths and cleansing of the hair and scalp are fine, but you MUST use a conditioning hair cleanser (co-wash – no shampoos), and follow up with a leave-in conditioner and then an oil to seal in her moisture. If you’re letting her hair get wet and using soap or a shampoo with lots of detergents (like Johnson, and Johnson) then yes, you’ll then being doing her hair more harm than good. Spritzing her hair along with cleansing at bath time would be a bit of an overkill. Since she likes her baths so much, stick with that, but make sure you’re actually conditioning and sealing her hair as well.

      Unfortunately, there’s no way around the protective styles. That is one of the only ways to help her hair retain moisture and encourage growth. With that being said, if braids are installed too tightly you could end up doing more harm than good. There are other options out there though outside of braids. There are 2-strand twists, flat twists, bantu knots. The list goes on. Just spend a little time on YouTube and you’ll find all kinds of inspiration.

      If you’d like some specific product recommendations, a hair regimen, and a break down of your little one’s hair type please consider my hair analysis. Found here: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/natural-hair-analysis/. It’s really helped out a lot of moms on their natural hair journey with their little ones. 🙂

      Keep reading. Keep researching. The answers are out there. Good luck! 🙂

  32. April 23, 2015 at 2:12 pm — Reply

    Hello.. First off, i think you have done a wonderful job with your daughter’s hair. My daughter just turned 3 years old this month. I am having lots of problem with her hair. Her hair is not growing at all. the length of her hair is like the 1month old picture of your daughter. I dont know what to do, or the the things to use in her hair. i have tried different things but nothing work..Could you please help, any advice? Thank you..

    • April 23, 2015 at 7:24 pm — Reply

      Hi Kay,

      Thank you so much for the compliment. So sorry to read that you’re having troubles!
      Having hydrated hair that grows healthy is only 20% about the products you choose and 80% about your hair regimen and how you physically treat her hair.

      I’ll ask you to consider the same questions that I ask I lot of my parents who are generally having troubles with their chid’s hair growth:

      Are you misting her hair every other day with water from a spray bottle and then sealing that moisture in from root to tip with an oil or a butter?
      Does your little girl wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase EVERY night?
      Does she get in enough water and green veggies each day?
      Do you deep condition weekly or bi-weekly?
      Are the shampoos you use sulfate free, or are you co-washing?
      Do you avoid brushes and small-tooth combs and only finger detangle her hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner?

      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be some fantastic places to start in regards to getting her hair to retain moisture. Moisture is what she needs in order for her hair to grow. That moisture and hydration will only come from water (inside and out) along with regular conditioning.

      Good luck! 🙂

      • April 24, 2015 at 10:21 am — Reply

        yes, she sleep with a satin bonnet on, yes, she drinks water everyday and eat her veggies and fruits. i deep condition once a month.The other things you mention i will do for sure.. thank you so much for your time and advice :)… GOD BLESS

  33. Jazmine
    April 13, 2015 at 2:39 am — Reply

    Hey! So my daughter is going on 7 months, she was born with tons of straight hair but now it’s very short and curly. I use Baby Aveeno or Honest shampoo maybe every two weeks and For a week now I’ve been spraying an aloe vera juice & water mixture and then dabbing coconut oil in her hair. I want to know which is better, coconut or olive oil? && What shampoo is best for infants? I’m trying to see fast results at least by her first birthday!

    • April 14, 2015 at 10:37 pm — Reply

      Hi Jazimine,

      The oil you choose is about personal preference and experimentation. Whichever one keeps her hair hydrated the longest is the one you should go with. My daughter and I tend to alternate oils. One isn’t necessarily better than the other.
      As far as which shampoo is best – That’s going to be up to you to discover as well. There is no universal perfect baby shampoo. With that being said, Shea Moisture has a great kids line; and Cara B. is a good one as well.
      Unfortunately, even with a great hair regimen, you’ll need a little patience when it comes to hair growth. Healthy hair only grows about 1/2 inch a month. So with a good regimen and consistency, you may be able to see a couple of inches of growth by her birthday; but that’s no guarantee.

      Good luck! 🙂

  34. Felicai
    April 3, 2015 at 10:52 am — Reply

    HI Keisha! I have a 14 month old girl and getting her hair to grow has been very challenging to say the least. As soon as one spot would start growing another would come out. So, she would have bald spot in he hair. I took her to the dermatologist a little over a month ago and test and everything came back normal and they seemed to think that rubber banding it is irritating it. Well, I stop putting it in to see if it’ll help and it has it’s not coming out so far. But, her hair is very, very dry and short and I do think her scalp is sensitive. I’m washing it once a week and trying to moisturize it daily. What can I do to get her hair growing and help with the dryness? Also, I’m using the just for me care products…..

    • April 6, 2015 at 11:07 pm — Reply

      Hi Felicai,
      Your shampoo could actually be part of your problem. Even though Just for Me boasts being gentle, it still contains a lot of alcohols and detergents. It even contains a bit of protein. Protein is actually great for hair, but when the hair is natural, protein usage should be in moderation. More like once a month, or every other month. Once a week with the shampoo you’re using could be the largest part of your problem.

      Swap your shampoos; and if you’re going to wash as frequently as once a week, your best bet is to use an all natural sulfate free shampoo, or even a cleansing conditioner. Shea Moisture has a few good ones that I’d recommend.

  35. Monique
    March 26, 2015 at 12:57 am — Reply

    Hello, I have another question.. my baby girl is 6 month old and the back of her head is growing in and it seems like her hair type altogether is a 4a/4b hair type.. since she doesnt have hair in the back its hard to do protective hairstyles and keep them in for a week so I put black rubber bands in her hair that are 4 puffs but i dont wrap the rubber bands too tight and i cut them out her hair but i seem to have to redo her hair everyday, is that too much manipulation for her hair? What other hairstyle do you suggest since she doesnt have hair in the back of her head? I use to plait her hair too tight but i dont anymore that caused her to have little bumps on her scalp but the little bumps are still in her scalp how do i get rid of the little bumps on her scalp? And you suggested that i should invest in some satin sheets or a hair bonnet since she sleeps with me and is a wild sleeper, Is it ok that instead of using those things to protect her hair at night that i use a wig cap since it’s fits snug on her head but not too snug? (I just started using the cap 2 nights ago)…And since she takes naps throughout the day should she still wear the cap every single time she sleeps or should she just wear the cap at night? Thanks

    • Monique
      April 6, 2015 at 9:38 pm — Reply

      Hello again..I washed my 6 month old baby girls hair this Sunday and put her hair in a protective style because I kinda of didn’t do it the way I would have liked (it’s hard to get a 6 month old to sit still and occupied while during their hair) .. Is it ok if I redo her hair this Wednesday without over mulipunating her hair too much? I’m trying to get her hair to grow and to be healthy

      • April 6, 2015 at 10:58 pm — Reply

        Hi Monique,
        I don’t see why that would be a problem at all. As long as her hair is hydrated, and you’re detangling and handling with care, she should be fine with gentle every few day manipulation.

      • Monique
        April 8, 2015 at 12:15 pm — Reply

        Hello, Are finger coils considered a protective style? I am trying to find the best protective style that I can do and perfeckt without reckon my brain on how to style my 6 month old baby girl’s hair each wash..i try to style her hair in cornrows but they not coming out the way I would like because I’m just learning to style her hair,this is my first daughter..I know you suggested box plaits and box twists even though she has no hair in the back.

        • April 9, 2015 at 1:27 pm — Reply

          Monique, there is no hard and fast definition of what a protective style is, but in my opinion, any hairstyle that keeps the ends protected and that can be worn for a week or longer without manipulation fits the bill. Don’t over-think it. If cornrows, box braids, or box twists don’t work quite yet, then go with what does. If finger coils work for you, go for it! At 6 months old, I think I was still just throwing some water, extra virgin olive oil, and a headband on my daughter’s hair and calling it a day. lol. You have to do what works best for your child. As long as you’re not having to brush and comb her hair every single day, you’re fine.

  36. keshia
    March 25, 2015 at 7:45 am — Reply

    Hello kesha, my baby girl is 8 months and i have used EvOo and coconut oil on her hair along with water (applying a spritz of water first) on her hair daily since she were six months.. By the time she were 6 months my baby girl hair had completely shed leaving her with a little peach fuzz. At this time her hair had became dry which led to me using the oils and water i also a hair butter after the water and natural oils the butter has all natural ingredients.. I am kind of getting discouraged because i am not seeing any growth and her is still dry at the ends.. her scalp is healthy. Do you have any advice???THanks in advance..

    • April 6, 2015 at 11:23 pm — Reply

      Hi Keisha,
      Have you gone to a pediatrician or dermatologist to make sure she doesn’t have a small vitamin deficiency or hair growth issue? If you’ve ruled that out, then I’d say your issues are completely normal. Each child goes through their own hair growth and resting phases after birth. Her journey may just be to lose all of her newborn hair at once only for her more “permanent” hair texture to grow in full and healthy.

      If her scalp is healthy, I would continue with the spritzing and sealing making sure to concentrate your efforts on the ends. Tuck a satin blanket into her crib to cut down on the friction and that should help you out a lot as well. Outside of that, relax momma! she’s still young. I can tell you with confidence that as long as you continue to moisturize and treat her hair gently that her hair WILL grow in full and healthy. 🙂

  37. ana st. ann
    March 23, 2015 at 8:30 am — Reply

    Hello I have a two year old with thick, curly, dry hair that is breaking around the edges. Not sure what to do. I do put her hair in plaits with rubber bands. I now know I shouldn’t so that based on what I read on your website but I can’t braid her to save my life. What else could I do to her hair? What products do you recommend? My oldest daughter her has a kiddie texturizer and is thin. How can I thicken it and get it to grow and what products would you recommend for her?

    • March 23, 2015 at 11:22 pm — Reply

      Hi Ana,
      Yeah, you’ll probably want to hit Youtube and check out some of the style tutorial videos they’ve got there. You’re right. Those rubber bands aren’t doing her much good. 2-strand twists are very simple, but just like with anything they’ll take practice to perfect. Keep trying until you find a style that you can do and stick with it. As far as products, there really is no perfect product that fits all hair types. Product selections, when it comes to natural hair, are all about trial and error. With that being said Shea Moisture is a great line that a lot of curlies start with.

      As far as your other daughter, Jamaican Black Castor oil and extra virgin olive oil are great for thickening hair.

      Hope that helps!
      For a more personalized assessments of your daughter’s hair, check out my natural hair analysis. 🙂

  38. Monique
    March 20, 2015 at 2:11 pm — Reply

    Hello, My name is Monique and I have a 6 month old baby girl..Regarding her hair routine I: pre poo her hair and scalp with coconut oil; I wash her hair with WEN kids cleansing conditioner ( i pre poo and wash her hair once a week) and after I rinse the WEN cleansing conditioner out I use it also as a leave in conditioner; I moisturize her hair everyday with first aloe vera juice 1/3 and 2/3 water and I seal that with whipped shea butter (i moisturize her hair everyday because it’s so dry)…since i moisturize her hair everyday should i add a clarifying treatment to her hair regimen a (ACV rinse) once a month? And should i cut out the pre poo also? And at night how should I protect her hair at night since she sleeps with me and she is a wild sleeper ( she is all over the bed) do you have any suggestions on how I should protect her hair at night?

    • March 23, 2015 at 11:56 pm — Reply

      Hi Monique,

      Wow! lol. That’s pretty intensive for a 6 month old, but if it’s working for you, stick with it! Sure. Try an ACV rinse of an apple cider vinegar and water mixture and see how that works for you. Given all of the products, you’re probably right that it may be necessary.
      As far as night time protection, I’d invest in a satin pillowcase or full on satin sheets if you can’t get her to stay on the pillowcase or wear a bonnet through the night. She also needs to have her hair in some sort of protective style at night if you’re not doing that already. Nothing extravagant. Some simple plaits or twists will help protect her hair at night.

      Good luck! 🙂

  39. Joselyn
    March 20, 2015 at 1:32 pm — Reply

    What age should you start using hair care products on your child my baby is 6 months and I use the regular Johnson and Johnson but it seems like it doesn’t do much for her hair

    • March 24, 2015 at 12:01 am — Reply

      Hi Joselyn,

      Yes, I would go ahead and get rid of that Johnson and Johnson. It’s got a lot of detergents in it that although good for cleansing the body, the product just isn’t made for our hair. Shea Moisture has a great line for babies that you may want to try. If her hair doesn’t retain moisture through a day or two, then you’re safe to start incorporating some natural products like Coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil into your moisturizing regimen. Just use either one of those oils on her hair after you’ve shampooed to seal in the moisture.

      Good luck! 🙂

  40. ej
    March 19, 2015 at 6:52 pm — Reply

    Would sleeping with a humidifier help?

  41. NP
    March 18, 2015 at 12:58 pm — Reply

    Hello

    I would like to know, do you do the ACV before or after conditioning?

    • March 18, 2015 at 11:02 pm — Reply

      Hi NP,
      Before. The ACV rinse will clarify the hair which gives you a perfect pallet to condition and moisturize.

  42. Catrina R.
    March 18, 2015 at 6:58 am — Reply

    I need HELP! my 20 month old has thick, curly and dry hair. Ive been washing it with a sulfate free shampoo, conditioning it and putting coconut oil on her wet hair and in the morning it is back dry again. What can i do? I need details, like exact brands to purchase, how much to put in her head, should i be putting a scarf on her head at night? the whole nine yards because I feel like I have tried everything and am always stuck with a dry stiff curly fro.

    • March 18, 2015 at 11:11 pm — Reply

      Hi Catrina,
      This sounds like it’s less about the product and more about how you’re physically treating the hair. The product is only about 20% of a bigger picture. For starters, wrapping her hair up at night (or having her sleep on a satin pillowcase) will probably help you out a great deal. Cotton bedding is very absorbent and will suck out a lot of whatever product you apply. It’s also very abrasive to textured hair. Get her a satin pillowcase as soon as you can. (Especially since I doubt she’d wear a satin bonnet or scarf through an entire night given how old she is.)

      Another thing – are you installing protective styles in her hair regularly? Once you apply your conditioner and coconut oil your next step needs to be to put your daughter’s hair in a style like cornrows, box braids, or box twists (AKA a protective style). Find one that works for both you and her. It needs to be something you’re able to leave in for at least a week with little to no manipulation. Protective styles lock in moisture and protect hair from dryness and breakage.

      Those two small things could make all of the difference. As far as how much product, that’s all going to be trial and error. How much product you use for her hair is going to be unique to her. There’s no universal answer to that so just keep trying new things. You definitely sound like you’re on the right track with her regimen.

      Good luck! 🙂

  43. Corin
    March 9, 2015 at 2:57 pm — Reply

    thank you!

  44. corin
    March 8, 2015 at 10:57 am — Reply

    My baby is 5 months and her hair is dry. As long as it’s all natural I can use something like emulate oil, jojoba oil or something else all natural to moisturize her hair right.. she’s not too young is she?

    • March 9, 2015 at 12:59 pm — Reply

      Hi Corin,

      Natural oils are what’s best! Coconut oil and extra virgin olive oil would be the oils that I’d recommend. But any organic oil would be great. To use the oil correctly, make sure that you apply it AFTER you’ve washed her hair or spritzed her hair with water. Oils are sealers and shouldn’t be used alone unless you use it as a treatment right before washing.

  45. J
    March 3, 2015 at 10:15 am — Reply

    My son is 5 and I’m trying to get waves in his head/hair what I’m using now is a type of wax which I don’t really like can you help?

    • March 4, 2015 at 10:44 pm — Reply

      Hi J,

      I’ll be honest, I don’t know much about boys and waves. lol. We keep my son’s hair short. I DO know that when natural-haired women want their curls to “pop” they make sure their hair is very hydrated and conditioned. I’m sure tying it down with a do-rag each night would help as well. As far as specific products, if I’m not mistaken, I believe it’s more about how you brush the hair and tie it up at night that creates the “wave” effect.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  46. Noel
    March 3, 2015 at 1:44 am — Reply

    I have a 9 month old daughter with thick hair. I wash her hair once a week. I don’t want to put her hair into ponytails or anything until she turns 1. Her hair is beginning to get dry. I spray a mixture of olive oil and water in her hair but after about an hour it gets dry again. What products can I use to prevent it from being so dry?

    • March 4, 2015 at 10:57 pm — Reply

      Hi Noel,

      Are you washing her hair with a sulfate free shampoo each week? If you’re washing her hair that frequently it’s your best bet to use a sulfate free shampoo (like Shea Moisture Mango & Carrot Kids Extra-Nourishing Shampoo) or just co-wash (use conditioner only to cleanse her hair). Otherwise, that could be the whole reason why you’re seeing so much dryness.

      Another suggestion: spritz her hair with the water by itself first, and THEN apply your extra virgin olive oil from root to tip. The mixture isn’t going to be as effective as doing it in a two step process. If the olive oil doesn’t seem to seal in the moisture enough for you, bump up to a butter like all natural shea butter. It comes in a solid form, but will melt easily when you rub it in your palms.

      And I understand your reservations about putting her hair in ponytails, but you’re probably going to need to find some sort of protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) to put in her hair before she turns a year. The longer you allow her to wear her hair “free” the faster her hair will dry out, and the easier it will be to break.

      Hope that information helps! 🙂

      • Noel
        March 24, 2015 at 12:06 am — Reply

        Thank you!

  47. Victoria
    February 24, 2015 at 2:07 am — Reply

    Hi Keisha!

    I love your blogs and all of the priceless information you share. I have 2 girls, a 3 year old and an almost 2 year old, with completely different textures. After reading your articles, I recently started spritzing to moisturize and sealing the moisture in. Tomorrow I’ll be making a shea butter whip, as you suggested, for best results. I plan to make one shea whip with coconut oil for myself. But in the past, coconut oil seemed to irrigate my girls’ scalps… it seems to be an allergic reaction to coconut. What other oil(s) would you suggest trying in their shea butter whips?

    Also, aside from moisturizing the hair and sealing the moisture in, do you oil your baby girl’s scalp? If so, do you use the same shea butter whip? Or something else?

    Thanks again for sharing so much great information!

    Victoria

    • February 24, 2015 at 11:47 pm — Reply

      Hi Victoria!

      So glad you’ve found some things useful on my blog! I appreciate the love. 🙂
      As far as oils – Any organic oil works well in shea butter. Extra virgin olive oil is my personal favorite; and there’s also avocado oil or tee tree oil.
      To answer your question, no, I don’t oil my daughter’s scalp in the traditional sense. (No jar of thick hair grease that I slather on her scalp like our parents did. lol). When I moisturize her hair I simply go from root to ends. The ends actually take precedence over the scalp as the ends are the oldest most sensitive part of your daughter’s hair. The scalp should remain clean and free of debris. If their scalp’s get dry easily, massage a little tea tree oil or spritz on a little aloe vera juice.

      • Victoria
        February 27, 2015 at 12:33 am — Reply

        Thanks so much for the response, Kesha!
        One more question… for water-based products, does it matter if the water is deionized?

        • March 1, 2015 at 10:12 am — Reply

          Victoria,
          Deionized water is just fine. 🙂

          • Victoria
            March 1, 2015 at 12:35 pm — Reply

            Thanks so much!!

  48. Amiyah's mommy
    February 11, 2015 at 2:49 pm — Reply

    I need a good moisturizer for my daughter she’s three months with wavy thin hair I want to prevent cradle cap and promote strong healthy hair for her help please

    • February 12, 2015 at 11:02 pm — Reply

      Hi Amiyah’s Mommy! 🙂

      I’ll be honest with you, at three months, I wouldn’t worry too much about trying to find a heavy moisturizer for your daughter’s hair. The best moisturizer for her right now would just be water. Spritz water on her hair from a spray bottle and seal that in with coconut oil. I did that with my daughter until she was about 7 months old. At that point her hair had transitioned to its TRUE state and I was better able to determine exactly what her hair needed.

      Coconut oil would probably be your best bet at this point because it’s light, safe for baby, and works wonders at penetrating the hair strand to keep it moisturized.

  49. Tracey-Ann
    February 11, 2015 at 11:39 am — Reply

    Hi my daughter used to have long hair when she was two years old but she didnt like to comb her hair and i notice her hair has fallen off. Her hair is very very short now i cant even put it in a ponytail now at all. I notice her scalp is very dry too and the sides of her has fallen off the most. Please help.

    • February 11, 2015 at 11:46 am — Reply

      Hi Tracey-Ann,

      I responded to the email you sent with a TON of tips. Let me know if you didn’t get it.

    • Tracey-Ann
      February 11, 2015 at 11:56 am — Reply

      I didnt get it. i got a email from u but nothing in it with any tips.

      • Tracey-Ann
        February 11, 2015 at 12:05 pm — Reply

        My daughter is 5 years old now and i really need to do something to make her hair grow.

        • Tracey-Ann
          February 11, 2015 at 12:18 pm — Reply

          Thanks now i got it lol.

    • Lusa
      February 12, 2015 at 10:04 pm — Reply

      Buy some virgin hair fertilizer. You have to purchase it on amazon. My hair was very thin on the side and temple. Just thin in general. I have been using it for the past three years that I have been natural. And oh boy! My hair is so thick and long now. Have to part in 4 sections just to detangle after washing. Dont know how long before results. Remember Ive been using it for 3 years. Everyones different. Use as often as u like. I only grease my scalp with it. Then brush to massage in scalp.

  50. Jheanelle Smith
    February 8, 2015 at 9:44 pm — Reply

    Hey love what I’ve read so far! Not sure if it has been addressed below but I was hoping for some advice. My daughter has been doing swimming once a week since she was approx 7 months she will be 1 year next week. There are times where she falls asleep after swimming and then it’s too late to wash her hair so I do it the day after. (I do however rinse her hair after coming out of the pool) She also has different hair textures…. The very back is thinner and very curly, there is one section in the middle that has always been dry from she was younger and then the top is curly but not as curly as the very back. What regimen would you suggest for her? Right now we are using the mixed chicks kids line. Thanks in advance for your suggestions.

    • February 9, 2015 at 11:21 pm — Reply

      Hi Jheanelle!

      Glad you found me and that you’ve liked what you’ve read so far!
      Your most important step when it comes to your little one and her swimming is properly preparing her hair BEFORE she even makes it into the water. That will make what you do afterwards SO much easier. Here’s a great article that outlines the best ways to prep hair before pool. I think you’ll find it helpful: http://www.curlynikki.com/2013/06/swimming-while-natural-hair-tips-for.html

      • Jheanelle Smith
        February 10, 2015 at 12:51 am — Reply

        Thank you! I actually just discovered that I was supposed to be wetting her hair before going into the pool just a month ago! That was a great tip. I will try some of the other techniques, not sure if she will let me put a swim cap on her just yet though 😛

  51. February 5, 2015 at 10:26 pm — Reply

    My daughter is ten months and she has really short, thin, dry hair. I’m not sure if her eczema is causing the dryness and breakage to her hair. I have tried so many conditioners, oils and creams. Nothing is working what can I do to grow and moisturize my daughter’s hair??? Help please…..

    • February 6, 2015 at 12:39 pm — Reply

      Hi Jacquita,

      It’s relatively normal for some babies to have patchy growth until they’re well past their first birthday. Layering on tons of conditioners, oils, and creams is probably not the best approach. As long as you’re spritzing with water and sealing with a light oil like coconut oil, that should do the job at keeping her hair moisturized between wash days. Tea tree oil can also be used as it has healing properties that may help with her eczema and dryness. Wash and condition once a week or once every two weeks. I would stick with all natural conditioners that you make yourself until she gets a little older. You can find a few to try here: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/4-homemade-deep-conditioning-treatment/

      Another thing that may help is getting her to sleep on a satin blanket (tucked into her crib) or a satin pillowcase. Cotton bedding can really do a number on natural hair. Having her sleep on satin nightly should cut out a lot of that dryness.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  52. lexis
    February 1, 2015 at 8:02 pm — Reply

    I have a question about a product whether I should use it on my 6 month old daughters hair? The product is called BABY DONT BE BALD , it keeps my child hair soft and SHINee haven’t really seen any growth yet . Only been using it for about two weeks though , I spray water on her hair first then the product and it looks nice longer then when I use extra virgin olive oil.

    • February 3, 2015 at 12:11 am — Reply

      Hi Lexis,

      I’ve heard a lot of parents say that they use Baby Don’t be Bald; and even though I haven’t used it myself, I am familiar with its ingredients. Baby Don’t be Bald contains a lot of cheap oils like mineral oil and petrolatum. These oils, although great for sealing hair, can actually do more harm than good after extended periods of use. It can actually clog hair follicles and can end up creating a barrier so thick on the hair shaft that it will be hard for you to actually get moisture into the hair. Which basically means that you’ll be sealing in dryness.

      If it’s a product you absolutely love, I say to add a clarifying treatment to your daughter’s hair regimen. Spraying on a mix of 2/3 water and 1/3 apple cider vinegar and then rinsing can help strip away those heavy oils that you’re placing on her hair. Just remember, clean hair grows healthier and faster than hair with build up and clogged follicles.

      Hope that information helps! 🙂

  53. Naiya
    February 1, 2015 at 7:42 pm — Reply

    Hi I have a 8 month old boy his hair is curly but thick and really dry he hates when i try to come thu it and I dont know what kind of moisturizer I should use and I dont want to lose this pretty hair I need help. Also he is always grabbing it…

    • February 3, 2015 at 12:15 am — Reply

      Naiya,

      The best moisturizer that people with natural hair can use is water. Our hair needs water to grow and remain healthy. Spritz your son’s hair with water and then seal that in with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. The coconut oil will actually even help you with combing/detangling.

      The grabbing part you’re just going to have to be patient with. He’s young and a lot of babies grab their hair for comfort. If you see him do it, remove his hand, tell him “no”, and then redirect his attention to his favorite toy. He’ll catch on soon. 🙂

  54. Accacia
    January 29, 2015 at 11:58 pm — Reply

    Hi i have a 3 year old daughter, she always says her hair is itchy. Her edges are not looking like they are growing(really short). she wears little puff ball(using little black rubber bands). i’m starting to think its cause of the ponytails. her hair hasn’t grown in the last year. do you recommend any shampoos, conditioner, moisturizers, grease and little hairstyles for my baby girl hair to show some progress. I’m a first time mother. any routines. I myself always had nice thick long hair since i was 8 months. i wonder if she takes from her dad side. i’m so lost. Hope to hear some good ADVICE!

    • January 31, 2015 at 3:59 pm — Reply

      Hi Accacia!

      Okay, first, don’t compare her hair to yours or your husband’s. The beauty of natural hair is that it’s unique to each individual with different textures and porosities that will require a unique arsenal of products. Finding products for her is going to be about trial and error.

      One thing that I can tell you for sure though is not worry about hair “greases”. That was something that our parents did to our hair that isn’t necessarily the best thing. Moisturize with water (sprayed from a spray bottle) and seal in that water with an oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. The skin on your head is no different than the skin on your face. Would you slather a thick hair grease on your face? Probably not. It’ll clog pours and do terrible things to your skin in the long run. Same thing with the scalp. You want to keep her scalp clean and use light oils and butters to moisturize.

      Shea Moisture is a line of natural hair products that a lot of naturals live by. An oil like tea tree oil may help with her itching. Start with those products and experiment from there.

      And you’re right, the ponytail puff is probably the thing that is damaging her hair. Try box twists, or box braids. If you can make a part with a comb, that will be the easiest protective style to do. Browse YouTube and Google for other options; but you’re going to have to practice and perfect at least one go-to protective style that doesn’t require rubber bands if you want her hair to grow.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  55. sareena
    January 26, 2015 at 1:37 am — Reply

    I love what I have read thus far…I have a 3 month old girl who was born with a head full of hair and already her TRUE texture is coming in or starting to show! Like many she has a thin (not bald) spot in the back of her head so I plan on getting a satin blanket like you suggested..I may be over washing it so I will cut down to once a week..now I’m trying to better understand this water spritz suggestion! I grease her scalp almost everyday with Johnson’s n Johnson baby oil gel only to have it dry right back out in a matter of hours!! So if I get you right..I spray her hair lightly with water, then use a moisturizer??! Never heard of the products you named but I will be making a trip to the hair store tomorrow!! You said every other day?? The top of her head stay moist just the back and sides are really dry…also my edges are gone..I’ll be 30 soon any advice on growing them back?? Last how often should us grown women wash our hair? I have natural hair I guess haven’t permed in about 7 years…so when I press or flat iron should I not be using oil seen?? And how am I pose to spritz n moisturize while trying to keep it rapped?? Please help I’m confused..is flat ironing/pressing even good..if so how often?? Thanks!

    • January 26, 2015 at 11:36 pm — Reply

      Hi Sareena,
      Glad you’re getting some things from what you’ve read! 🙂
      I would go ahead and get rid of that baby oil gel… at least not use on her scalp anyway. Baby oil has a LOT of cheap oils in it like mineral oil and petrolatum. They’re great for sealing skin, but can do more harm than good when it comes to sealing hair. Spritz her hair with the water and seal that moisture in with an oil like extra virgin olive oil. You can find it at the grocery store in your cooking aisle!

      You’ll have to make the best determination as to how often you moisturize. Give that she’s only 3 months, I would only moisturize as needed which should only be ever few days for her. But again, only you can make that final decision. Is she sleeping on a satin blanket. If not, tuck one of those into her crib and that may help you out a lot with that dryness on the sides.

      As far as your hair is concerned, I would slow down on that heat. Some naturals can manage to safely press their hair once a month, but you really have to know what you’re doing in regards to a good moisture protein balance. You really have to know your hair in order to flat iron without damaging. Try more protective styles like, cornrows, braids, twists, or a combination until you can get to know what your hair responds well to. When you DO have it pressed, moisturize with a cream water-based leave-in conditioner. Not water. (You’ll know it’s water-based if water is the first ingredient.)

      • sareena
        January 27, 2015 at 12:50 am — Reply

        Thanks alot for responding and the advice!!! Really cooking oil? Would I apply to the scalp after spritzing with water? I flat iron more than press and that’s about once a month but then I dont wash but once a month because I would then have to apply more heat lol. So after I flat iron I then use what to keep it healthy? I tend to stay away from braids because to me it makes my edges worst! What should I be putting on my edges to stimulate growth??

        • January 27, 2015 at 12:12 pm — Reply

          No problem Sareena! The extra virgin olive oil you purchase should be organic. Make sure it says “cold pressed” or “organic” on the bottle. Don’t just pick up some random “cooking oil”. lol.
          Organic extra virgin olive oil is great for hair AND skin. And that whole “oil the scalp” thing is something that has been passed down in our culture for decades. Don’t get me wrong, your scalp is important, but the ends of your hair need the most care and moisture. Treat your scalp as you would the skin on your face. It needs to remain clean, and the pores need to remain unclogged in order for it to remain healthy and primed for your hair to grow. Apply the oil from the root to the tip concentrating most of your efforts on the ends.

          Braids and twists shouldn’t break off your hair if done properly. If you’re experiencing breakage that means that your braids were installed too tight (African hair braiders are notorious for that) and/or you’re not moisturizing while the protective style is installed. Jamaican black castor oil is a great oil to use to stimulate hair growth. A little goes a long way with that oil though so use a dime size amount to seal and protect your edges.

  56. January 20, 2015 at 2:34 pm — Reply

    Hi, I shaved my head for New Years and 8 days later my scalp became itchy, dry, and flaky. It’s not dandruff. It’s like very dry scalp. The thing is I’m allergic to a lot of products and oils but I need help keeping my scalp moisturized. Any help?

    • January 21, 2015 at 6:26 pm — Reply

      Hi Soullurre,
      Sorry to read that you’re having troubles. To be honest, if you’re allergic to a lot of products and oils, my best suggestion would be for you to make an appointment with a dermatologist. It’s weird that you began having these scalp issues right after you shaved. That has me stumped. 🙁
      Try the dermatologist, and if you find out something interesting, please share! Good luck! (If anyone else has any suggestions, feel free to chime in!)

  57. Geraldine Reid
    December 31, 2014 at 3:11 pm — Reply

    Hello! I love your blog by the way… My daughter is 6 months and I wanted to start moisturizing her hair regularly now since her true texture is growing in. At how many months did you start moisturizing your daughter’s hair with the water spritz and Shea butter mix? Also, how often did you do it? And when did you start putting her hair in protective styles, did you wait until she was 1 or sooner?

    Thank you ☺

    • January 2, 2015 at 7:27 pm — Reply

      Hi Geraldine,
      I actually started with water and a sealant (extra virgin olive oil) when my daughter was just a couple months old. I moisturized as needed until she turned about two and then I began moisturizing weekly and deep conditioning every two weeks. You may need to start weekly moisturizing earlier than me if you’re noticing that your daughter’s true texture seems chronically dry or breaking. I started experimenting with loose protective styles as soon as her hair was long enough to put it one – which was, for her, around 10 months. It may be earlier or later for you depending on how long her hair is.

      Hope that helps. Thanks for the love, and thanks for reading! 🙂

      • Geraldine Reid
        January 4, 2015 at 7:52 pm — Reply

        Thank you so much for responding! I noticed in this article that you said you moisturize your daughter’s hair daily with water spritz and a Shea butter mix. I have been doing the same. Do you suggest a daily or weekly moisturizing regimen at 6 months?

        • January 4, 2015 at 11:34 pm — Reply

          You’ll have to determine the frequency based off of her hair needs. At 6 months I wouldn’t imagine that she’d need daily moisturizing – every other day at the most. Shea butter is a heavy sealant. Using that regularly without regular clarifying/washing can clog hair follicles and stunt hair growth – not to mention encourage cradle cap.

          • Geraldine Reid
            January 5, 2015 at 8:40 am — Reply

            Ok thank you so much! I will stick to once or twice a week then. Thank you so much for writing this! It is very beneficial!

  58. keshia
    December 17, 2014 at 1:28 pm — Reply

    Hello my baby girl is 5 mths was born with amazing hair that covered her entire head at about 12 weeks she started loosing hair terribly i started using oilve oil daily now im using jojoba oil not know that i should always spritz it with water first so my questions to you is.. is jojoba oil a good oil? Is it ok to apply it daily? What kind of moisturizer is cruelty free for her at 5 mths? Lots of question but i want to ensure that im doing my part..#1sttimeMommy

    • December 17, 2014 at 11:30 pm — Reply

      Hi Keshia!
      Where is she losing the hair? If it’s in the back, that is completely normal. Have her start sleeping on a satin baby blanket at night. That may help. Yes, oils should only be used as a sealer AFTER you’ve spritzed with water or applied a leave-in conditioner. The best moisturizer for a 5 month old is going to be water. So serious. Spritz her hair with a little water and apply small amount of your favorite oil from root to tip afterward. Jojoba is good, but you may want to consider a lighter oil like extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Jojoba oil is actually more of a wax, and if not applied properly you can be sealing in dryness instead of moisturizing as you’re intending. In another month or two you can start exploring and incorporating more products into your regimen. Shea moisture has a great baby line. Cara B is another good one.

      • keshia
        December 18, 2014 at 8:23 am — Reply

        Hello. Thanks for replying i actually stop using the EVOO because it wouldn’t even hold the moisture for 8 hrs so i was like maybe this isn’t a good idea i also got that idea of using EVOO off google. Now kind of skeptikal about continuing my use of jojoba oil..

        • December 19, 2014 at 11:21 pm — Reply

          That’s fair. This whole journey is about trial and error. If EVOO was too light, try giving raw shea butter a go. There’s a little more you have to do in regards to getting it soft enough to use conveniently, but it’s a thicker oil that may help her retain moisture better. And don’t let me scare you from the jojoba. As long as you’ve moisturized her hair properly first (which can easily be done with a few spritzes of water) jojoba may actually work for you. Just keep trying new things, and I’m sure you’ll come across something that works for you and your child. 🙂

          • December 26, 2014 at 12:10 am — Reply

            Hi I have twin daughters with two different textures of hair. One had fine wavy curly hair and the other curly thick straight coilly hair. How do i keep fine curly hair moistured and how do I manage the second one? She’s also very tender headed.

            • December 26, 2014 at 6:48 pm — Reply

              They both need moisture and sealing. Your daughter with wavy hair may require less intense moisturizing than your daughter with coily hair. Moisturize both regularly with water from a spray bottle and then seal with an oil. Coconut oil may be a great oil for your daughter with wavy hair, and extra virgin olive oil or even shea butter would probably be a good oil for your daughter with coily hair.

              Hope that helps! 🙂

              • manyona
                December 26, 2014 at 6:52 pm — Reply

                Thanks…. Should I use hair grease at anytime because the scalp get pretty dry?

                • December 26, 2014 at 7:09 pm — Reply

                  No problem! In my opinion, I’d stay away from grease. Most hair greases are too heavy for the scalp, and contain a lot of petroleum and other heavy oils that can do more harm than good over time. Massage tea tree oil, or coconut oil into her scalp for any dry scalp/dandruff issues. If that doesn’t do enough for you, bump your oil up to an extra virgin olive oil.

  59. Diana
    December 15, 2014 at 6:10 pm — Reply

    Hi! So I am 14 and I really want to grow my hair out. So I have done research and most of the websites say Moistures ur hair. So I am going to start listening lol. My hair is below my shoulder but I want to grow it longer. You said do the bottle and oil in a spray bottle. How much do you spray on ur hair and how many times during a day. And what products will help the most because I really want my hair long and I’m trying to make it go faster. Do you have any other tips that can help my hair grow and something that I can do on my own since I am 14 ?

    • December 16, 2014 at 6:20 pm — Reply

      Hey Diana! Great job on taking the first steps at finding ways to take better care of your hair!
      You’re on point with the moisture part. African American hair just won’t grow without it. Water is going to be your best moisturizer (if your hair is free of relaxer). Put water and a drop of your favorite conditioner in a spray bottle and spray your hair with it once every other day. A good practice would be to get into the habit of doing it right before bedtime. You’re not spraying to make it dripping wet. You just want to spray to make it damp/moist. After that, apply your oil from root to tip. (If your hair is separated into four sections, do about a quarter-sized amount for each section.) Make sure to concentrate on the ends of your hair.

      As far as particular products, there really is no “perfect” product suggestion. Each person’s hair texture and type is very unique, so it’s up to you to find the right combination of products that will work on your hair. With that being said, Shea Moisture is a great product line to start with.

      Here are 5 great tips to start you on your journey to retaining length:
      – Drink LOTS of water
      – Wear LOTS of protective styles (cornrows, box-braids, box-twists)
      – Only trim your hair if you have to: Only when (and if) your ends or damaged or split. I’m sure you’ve heard that trimming hair every 6 to 8 weeks makes your hair grow faster. That is a myth.
      – Oils are NOT moisturizers, they are sealers. Only use oil after you’ve moisturized with water or a water-based leave-in.
      – And finally – Be patient. HEALTHY hair only grows about a half an inch a month. Stay consistent though, and I’m sure you’ll see results. 🙂

  60. Cay James
    December 15, 2014 at 12:44 am — Reply

    Sounds like the same thing that we do to take care of our own hair (adult hair). So why is this being highlighted as a way to take care of our kid’d hair?

    • December 15, 2014 at 11:20 am — Reply

      This is a fair question; and I was actually waiting on someone to pose this very thing. It IS essentially the same thing! But the reality is, a majority of mothers have no clue how to do either one properly (theirs or their child’s), and when they begin their journey and research, they’re often doing it with their children in mind first. I know I did.

      If you had the opportunity to take a quick glance at my analytics you’d see what I mean. Most parents are searching for “how to take care of black child’s hair”. Don’t forget about adoptive Caucasian parents who have no idea on the subject either. They’re not searching for general African American hair care, they want to know how to take care of their child or baby’s hair specifically, and thus, why I’ve targeted my pieces towards children. There’s a need and a void there, and I’m filling it. 🙂

      And there are some slight differences in adult versus child regimens as I think we can both say within reason that a child/baby’s hair care routine is somewhat less intensive than an adults.

      Hope that answers your question! Thanks! 🙂

  61. December 9, 2014 at 3:37 pm — Reply

    I just found you through pintrest& I love love love your sight!! My 10 year olds hair growns past her shoulders then breaks off really badly to the top of her ears. It has been this was si.ce she was four. Its short once again. I dont do anything differbtly or use new produxts . Like mine its always dry, so I will mosturize it! But… besdies thatidk what yo do! My younger chold had long thick hair like me, easy to comb through no muss no fuss! Is it alipchia (spck) or am Idoing something wrong? Please help! Mean while, Im going to read this whole sight in the little free yime tgat I do have! Thanks!

    • December 9, 2014 at 5:54 pm — Reply

      So glad you found me! Sorry to read that you’re having problems with your baby girl’s hair though. The best advice I can give you is to regularly spritz and seal. Assuming she’s natural, spritz your daughter’s hair at least every other day with water, and seal that moisture in with an oil like extra virgin olive oil. It’s a myth that water dries out natural hair. It’s actually the best type of “moisturizer”. Always remember to seal after applying the water and never forget those ends. The ends are the weakest and driest part of the hair because it’s the oldest hair you’ve got.

      Don’t use moisturizer alone and think that you’re doing enough. You’ll need to expose her hair to water regularly whether it’s by way of weekly washing and conditioning and/or spritzing every other day. Don’t be afraid to add a deep conditioning treatment to her hair regimen either; and also have her sleep on a satin pillowcase or with a satin bonnet EVERY night. Cotton can really do a number on natural hair.

      Never comb or brush you or your daughter’s hair when it’s dry. Detangle when it’s damp and slick with conditioner.

      Follow those few tips and I’m sure you’ll see some results. 🙂

  62. lexis
    November 21, 2014 at 10:53 pm — Reply

    Hello. My daughter Is 3 months now and she as a bald spot in the back of her head. I wanna know what to start using on her head . I’m completely lot on how to care for my daughter her hair. I didn’t know I was suppose to use anything beside shampoo . I have tried Vaseline and extra Virgin olive oil. But it’s not feeling or looking how I want it to. It’s curly all around but the bald spot area is rough , can’t I change that ? What products should I start off using ?

    • November 22, 2014 at 11:06 am — Reply

      Hi Lexis!
      The reality is, these are supposed to be your easy months! At 3-months-old, all you should have to do now is wash her hair with a gentle baby shampoo once a week (It’s a Curl is a great line for African American babies) and seal in her moisture after washing with your extra virgin olive oil. Outside of that, you can pretty much leave her hair alone. Get rid of that Vaseline though. All you’re doing with that is clogging her hair follicles and stunting her hair growth.

      The bald spot in the back is totally normal. There’s just a lot of friction going on back there since she sleeps so much. It WILL grow in eventually without you having to do much to it. If it really bothers you, head out and purchase a satin baby blanket, tuck that into her crib and have her sleep on that nightly.

      I wrote an article on caring for African American baby’s hair that should help answer more of your questions: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/african-american-baby-hair-care-dos-donts/

      Hope that helps! 🙂

      • lexis
        November 24, 2014 at 2:45 pm — Reply

        When I use extra virgin olive oil it looks excellent At the beginning the a couple hours later it looks like I never but anything on there . Do you know why that’s happening ? Should I use a different oil or add a moisturizer too.

        • November 24, 2014 at 3:08 pm — Reply

          Are you using water or a water-based leave-in first BEFORE you use the oil, or are you putting the oil on dry hair?

          • lexis
            November 24, 2014 at 3:59 pm — Reply

            At first i just put on her dry hair to test it out then I start doing it after I wash her hair once a week now. Before ill wash her hair and but nothing on it she was 2months . I also tried using Johnson detangler Leave in condition and lotion . Do you think i messed her hair up with those product ?don’t use the oil often , could that be the problem. By the way I use Johnson s baby head to toe wash is it good or bad to use? What moisturizer do you recommend Me to use

            • November 25, 2014 at 12:30 am — Reply

              Right now, water is going to actually be your best moisturizer. Spray her hair with water and then seal with coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil. Do that every other day in between washings. Get rid of that Johnson and Johnson as it has a lot of detergents that our hair doesn’t like. It’s a Curl is a great baby line and Shea Moisture has a baby line that I’ve heard great things about.

  63. Latifah
    November 18, 2014 at 5:12 pm — Reply

    Is castor oil good for kids hair?

    • November 18, 2014 at 7:21 pm — Reply

      Hi Latifah! Yes, castor oil is good for kids natural hair – but it must be used properly in order to get the most out of it. It’s fantastic as a sealer. So after you’ve moisturized with water and a leave-in conditioner, you seal the hair with the castor oil. It’s got tons of fatty acids in it which makes it perfect for sealing moisture into the hair. A warning: Don’t use the castor oil on dry hair or hair that isn’t properly moisturized as you’ll only be locking in dryness and locking out moisture.

      Hope that information helps! 🙂

  64. Monique
    November 14, 2014 at 9:52 pm — Reply

    My daughter is 10 and I still can’t get her hair to grow. I’m just stuck on what to do. Every now and then I’ll take her to the ship for individual braids. But between then I don’t know what to do. It’s not long enough to throw into a bun.

    • November 14, 2014 at 11:49 pm — Reply

      What’s your regimen like now? Are you moisturizing daily, or at least every other day with water and then an oil? Is she wearing a satin bonnet to bed or at least sleeping on a satin pillowcase every night? Is she getting in enough water each day? Do you do regular deep conditioning treatments on her hair? And when she does get the braids are you continuing to moisture while her hair is in the protective style? There could be many reasons why you’re not seeing any growth. I wrote an article a little while back that may give you a little more insight. http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/2-african-american-hair-growth-tips-for-children/

      Hope that helps you out a bit. 🙂

      For a hair regimen personalized for your child that includes product recommendations and more, check out my $5 hair analysis! http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/natural-hair-analysis/

  65. Tijerria
    September 23, 2014 at 10:34 am — Reply

    Hello i love this blog but I’m still kinda hectic on where to start! My daughter is 2 n well i can’t get her hair to grow for nothing especially in the back:( if there is any way possible i could send u a pic of it n you guide me thru please????

    • September 23, 2014 at 10:53 am — Reply

      Hi Tijerria! I appreciate you reading!

      Have you been over to my natural hair kids blog yet? http://curlz.wegotkidz.com. I’ve got a link that says “start here”. There you can determine your child’s hair type, what tools you need, and product recommendations for your daughter’s specific type of hair.

      Here’s the thing: hair always grows. Your issue is that she’s not retaining any of the length and that could be for many different reasons – Reasons that I probably wouldn’t be able to determine from a photo unfortunately. Do you have her sleeping on a satin pillowcase nightly? Since little ones sleep more, the back of their head’s are constantly being laid on and rubbed. Cotton bedding creates a lot of friction that pulls hair and it draws out all of the moisture from the hair. Satin pillowcases are great because they create a barrier to keep in moisture and the hair glides right across it.

      Textured hair NEEDS moisture to grow. Does her hair seem chronically dry? You may need to start a daily moisturizing routine like what I described in this piece. You also may want to start incorporating a regular deep conditioning treatment. Here’s a great article on that: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/how-to-deep-condition-natural-hair-kids/

      Textured hair (especially 4c hair types) require a LOT of tender loving care. You’ve got to make a commitment to care for it like it’s gold. If you can do that, I promise you’ll see growth. 🙂

    • Tia
      September 29, 2014 at 11:25 pm — Reply

      Though some people may criticize this, I cut off my daughter’s “baby hair” when she was 1 to eliminate the bald patch in the back and to allow it to grow. She looked so cute with her fade. I seal with black Jamaican castor oil which was a miracle product for her hair. She now is 3 and has thick healthy hair that I can stretch down her back.

      • September 30, 2014 at 11:32 am — Reply

        Hey, I’m not gonna knock that at all. You did what worked best for you and your child. Right on! lol. I’ve heard great things about that black Jamaican castor oil. I think I’m going to go get some!

  66. Nyssa
    September 16, 2014 at 11:34 pm — Reply

    Hello great blog! I have a question though. I have 4 little girls my oldest 12 n youngest 2. I have relaxed my 7 n 8 yr Olds hair because they have such unmanageable hair I hate doing hair lol n I’m stuck with 4 girls.. go figure. Anyway my 12 yr Olds hair is so dry n brittle now never use to be that way. And my 8yrs old she has such thick nappy stuff the ‘traditional’ black hair *the other ones have ‘good’ hair* but on to my question she’s the only one that seems to have hair that does not grow! It seems dry but seems to be getting better which is weird. But do you have any suggestions for my 12 n 8 yr Olds hair? Mainly my 8hr old she wants long hair n gets mad that her sisters hair is longer. What can’t I do???

    • September 16, 2014 at 11:46 pm — Reply

      Hi Nyssa! Thanks for reading! 🙂
      4 girls?? Wooo! You're in my thoughts. lol. Your hair can change to being dry and brittle if there's been a diet change, an environment change, because of new medications or vitamins. It can even change if she's not drinking as much water as she used to. Her hair IS growing. Hair never stops growing. The issue is that it's breaking off just as fast as it's growing. No length retention.

      She's old enough now that you can help her to get into a moisturizing routine with her hair. She needs a good deep conditioning treatment and may need to start doing it weekly. She also needs to make sure she's wearing a satin cap to bed or sleeping on a satin pillowcase. Is there any daily moisturizing going on? If her hair is chronically dry, she needs to be moisturizing her hair daily and sealing in that moisture with a butter or an oil.

      Tell your daughter that her hair CAN grow and be healthy. She just has to give her hair a little tender loving care. 🙂 What helped me out a lot was having a muse, or what they call in the natural hair community, a "hair crush". Have your daughter check out Chime on YouTube. This video is a great one to start with:

      This girl's hair is GORGEOUS and should get your baby girls motivated. 🙂
      Hope this helps! 🙂

      • Nyssa
        September 16, 2014 at 11:57 pm — Reply

        Wow fast reply! Thanks! N yes 4 girls ooo wee… lil divas! I’m going to check that out! Right now I’m just using some hair moisturizer from kid dreams or something like that I know it’s in a pink bottle there grandma buys it for them. I have some castor oil and olive oil that I put in a spray bottle with water I spray there heads with. But I am going to check out that YouTube video and start buying the right products!! Thanks again! !

  67. Jerrica
    September 16, 2014 at 12:46 pm — Reply

    Hello i really need help my daughter is only 3 months old and I’ve had a hard time finding things for her hair it will not stay moisturize what items should i buy or look into I’m a first time mom and don’t know nothing about hair

    • September 16, 2014 at 1:07 pm — Reply

      Hey Jerrica! Thank you so much for reading! 🙂

      Okay, the reality is that you really shouldn't have do too much to your infant's hair at all. These are supposed to be your easy months. lol. Their skull and scalp are still very tender and soft; so little to no styling and manipulation is best. If your baby's hair is chronically dry already, there could be a few factors: Are you washing her hair too much? No more than once a week should be fine, and a mild baby shampoo should work just fine. After you're done washing, seal in that moisture with a bit of extra virgin olive oil. If you don't have any – get some. It's the best oil to use on babies because it's light and does wonders at keeping in her hair's moisture. That should be enough to do the trick.

      Don't buy anything crazy, or invest in any elaborate products just yet. If for some reason your little one's hair gets dry between washing, get a spray bottle from your hair store and put a little water in it. Spritz her hair lightly and seal that in with more of your olive oil.

      Another factor that could be making her hair dry is the type of bedding you lay her on. If it's a rough cotton material then it could already be doing a number on her hair. Cotton pulls hair strands and literally sucks all of the good moisture out of hair. You may want to go ahead and get her one of those satin crib blankets and have her lay on that at night.
      Try those things and see if that helps. 🙂

      • Jerrica
        September 17, 2014 at 11:53 pm — Reply

        Thanks so much I went and got the extra virgin olive oil and spray bottle and at first I was washing her hair almost every two days but now I’m only washing once every 8 days hopefully her hair grow and get moist

  68. […] I stated earlier, you still need to continue to keep your child’s hair and scalp moisturized while it’s in a protective style. If you haven’t gone out and bought a spray bottle yet, this […]

  69. Lara
    September 10, 2014 at 9:55 am — Reply

    Just stumbled upon your blog and loving it. My daughter’s hair grows bug I keep having to cut off so much due to super dryness and tangles. I’m going to start a cowash routine with her next wash. Her hair is so dull and dry. I whip my own She butter mix with oils but her hair seems only moisturized for a short while. Any conditioners that will aid in my cowash journey?

    • September 10, 2014 at 11:21 am — Reply

      So glad you found me!! Are you cutting because she has split ends? If it's simply just dry and tangled, that can be fixed without you having to incorporate shears. Here's a suggestion that may sound a little random: Have you tried doing an ACV (apple cider vinegar) rinse on her hair? What hair type is your daughter? If she has 4c low porosity hair, you may want to clarify her hair before doing your cowash. That way your conditioner will penetrate the hair shaft. Low porosity folks (like myself) have trouble getting that hair shaft open so that products can actually work. I can suggest to you the best most awesome conditioner ever made but if it's not penetrating her hair it's not going to do you any good.

  70. […] first thing I did was to buy a good all natural conditioner. Lack of moisture is the number one killer of black hair, (and can kill a romantic night with the husband too. He, […]

  71. August 27, 2014 at 11:53 pm — Reply

    My oldest daughter is furious that I just used her account to post that last message

    • August 28, 2014 at 12:10 am — Reply

      lol. Well, I can't help you with your oldest daughter, but I may be able to give you a little helpful advice. lol. Don't give up yet. I have 4c hair and it was a challenge at first; but after a little bit of research, trial, and error, I am IN LOVE with my kinky, coily hair. Give her the chance to love hers too! (But of course, that is 'yo child; so if a relaxer is what you feel like you need to do to keep your sanity. I will not judge. lol)

      So, what's your routine? Do you moisturize daily? Is she sleeping on a satin pillowcase or wearing a satin bonnet at bedtime? Did you get anything out of this article? Are these methods you've tried? These are only a COUPLE of things you'll have to commit to if you want to see any health and growth. I'm not going to lie – taking care of natural hair (especially 4c) does take time and patience; but the payoff is absolutely wonderful. She'll have a crown of beautiful coils that will grow and she will be proud of… but mommy, you have to commit. It's got to be a DAILY thing – even when her hair is braided or twisted.

  72. August 27, 2014 at 11:47 pm — Reply

    SOS!!! My daughter’s hair is very tangled & I’m very close to caving in & relaxing it She has 4c hair & hates getting it combed. I’ve been looking for natural detangling and combing processes but I keep hitting dead ends, please help.

  73. Julie
    August 12, 2014 at 8:00 pm — Reply

    When my daughter's hair is in a protective style what is the best way to add the shea mixture after spritzing with water? Is there a way to make it thin enough to spritz on too? Thanks

    • August 13, 2014 at 8:32 am — Reply

      The biggest thing you want to remember is "spritz and SEAL". To seal in that moisture, you need something thick/heavy to finish off with. I leave the Shea butter as is and warm a clump of it between my palms then apply it to each braid/twist once I've spritzed. If you're doing a whipped shea butter mixture, I'd add another step of oil after the shea mixture. If you make the shea mixture thin enough to spritz, it's pretty much water based and you're still left with having to seal.

      I hope that answers your question. 🙂

  74. Casha
    August 5, 2014 at 12:04 pm — Reply

    How early can you start using products like conditioners on baby's hair? My daughter is 6 months and has alot of hair but it stays dry.. I spray it with water and use olive oil as a sealant about 3xs a day(morning, after noon and evening) especially in the back of her head where it's rubbed alot.. Are conditioners and creamy moisturizers too harsh for a 6 month old? Any recommendations on products? Right now I wash with Shea Moisturiser fragrance free, ultra sensitive shampoo and body wash

    • August 5, 2014 at 5:25 pm — Reply

      You're right. 6 months, in my opinion, IS a little early to be worrying with a lot of chemical laced hair products; but the good news is you really should never have to! There are TONS of conditioners that you can create at home with items that you probably already have in your pantry or fridge. Check out this article: http://blackgirllonghair.com/2012/08/3-easy-to-ma… This gives a few great recipes for conditoners based off of what your daughter's hair may need.

      As far as hair products, a suggestion would be to seek out all natural alternatives. It sounds like she may be turning into a 4b/4c hair type which has low porosity and doesn't take well to certain types of chemicals. I'm a 4c and for some reason the Shea moisture product line just dries out my hair. I still haven't been able to figure out what ingredient is doing it. On the flip side, my daughter's hair LOVES the Shea Moisture line. She's a 4b, and her hair eats it right up. I've found that Kinky Curly Knot Today is a great leave in. It actually may be something you can use because the ingredients are all very mild. Put a few drops of that in your spray bottle along with your water and use that as your leave in for her.

      Also, is she sleeping on a satin pillowcase? If not, that may be a part of your problem. I'm assuming she's in a crib and hasn't yet graduated to a full pillow yet. You may want to look for a child sized hair bonnet the next time you're in your local hair store. Those cotton sheets can do quite a number on natural low porosity hair.

      Another suggestion would be to ex out shampooing her hair all together and just co-wash. A product like Kinky Curly Knot Today would be great for that. If you still feel her hair needs a shampoo, find one with no sulfates.

      Hope that helped 🙂

      • Tiffany
        October 17, 2014 at 10:07 pm — Reply

        Hi there, I love this blog!! I have 2 girls. My 7 year old just got her 1st silk press and loves it. I do too because it’s easy to manage and there’s no breakage from detangling. She received an Aphoghee treatment and deep condition. Will her natural curls come back once the hair is trained or should I only do this for special occasions? I’m thinking of taking my 4 year old because I’m really good on creating pretty styles,but not hair care.

        Tiffany

        • October 18, 2014 at 8:32 pm — Reply

          Thanks for the love Tiffany! Glad you found me. 🙂
          Your daughter’s curls should come back just fine as long as there isn’t any heat damage – and if the stylist used heat protectants and no oils, there shouldn’t be any heat damage at all. I personally am not a fan of heat, but I’ve seen natural gals use heat regularly with little to no problems; so ultimately you’d have to keep a close eye on the hair and make a determination on whether or not to continue. If you do choose to use heat on your girls, you’ll need to commit to having them go to a professional stylist regularly as they’ll know what products to use and what sort of hair care regimen to maintain in order to keep your daughter’s hair healthy and free from damage.

          Hope that helps. 🙂
          Kesha

          • lashannon
            June 16, 2015 at 7:29 pm — Reply

            Hi kesha, my daughter is six years old and her hair is so dry i have been trying various products. It becomes tangeled and hard to manage. I have been using the blow dryer becaiuse i find it easier to control, but was told the heat is no good. She has very coarse hair. Recently i have been sticking to the co washing, but i need a daily moisturizer. Is there anything you can recommend? Pls help. Thank you

            • June 18, 2015 at 11:33 am — Reply

              Hi Lashannon,

              Coarser hair types need tons of moisture to remain healthy and to grow. Are you deep conditioning her hair weekly? That would be the first step in getting her hair back on track. Cowashing is a great practice. Are you applying a leave-in and then sealing with an oil like coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil after washing? If not, that would be another thing that would help.

              As far as specific products, that’s truly going to be about trial and error. I can make suggestions all day, but without knowing your daughter or her specific hair type, texture, or porosity, I’d just be guessing. Everything from climate, to your daughter’s diet and water intake can effect how products work and how her hair grows. Make sure that she gets in enough water for her recommended age group. Her not getting in enough water can mean the difference between properly moisturized hair and chronic dryness.

              The best daily moisturizer is water. Use a spray bottle and spritz her hair with water daily. Add a little bit of aloe vera juice to the water to help with dryness, frizziness, and to seal her cuticle. After you’ve spritzed, apply an herbal leave-in. Kinky Curly Knot Today is actually a good one that you can try that’s been known to work well on coarser hair textures. After the leave-in, seal with an oil.

              Do your weekly (or at least bi-weekly) deep conditioning, moisturize her hair regularly with water and seal with an oil, and after a month or two, I guarantee you that you’ll see a difference. 🙂

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