First, let’s talk about protective styles and what exactly qualifies as one. If you or your child has natural hair, a protective style can be your very best friend. Any style that keeps the hair’s ends secure, and can be left in for a week or longer with very little daily handling is considered a protective style. This could mean box braids, cornrows, box twists, flat twists or a combination of any of those styles.

A possible reason why you may not being seeing any growth of your African American child’s hair (or what is known in the natural hair community as length retention) is that you may be manipulating your child’s hair way too much causing weak spots and breakage. In other words, if you’re combing and brushing your child’s hair every single day, this may be the answer to why your child’s hair “won’t grow”. Her hair may be breaking off faster than it’s growing.

Give your baby girl’s hair a break with a cute braided updo, or, you can do one of my personal favorites, (simply because I can’t cornrow worth a darn) some super cute twists–>


My baby girl circa June 2013 rockin’ some fresh 2-strand twists.

We’ve determined that protective styles are great, but be aware that putting your child’s hair in a protective style doesn’t mean that you’re free from dealing with your child’s hair completely until it’s time to uninstall. The hair and scalp still need to be taken care of. This way you can insure maximum growth while your baby girl’s hair is tucked away.

Here are 4 tips on how to take care of braids and twists along with how to get the most out of your child’s next protective style.

1. Want to keep the fuzzies away? You’re going to have to commit to wrapping up the style every night…

Whether it’s a satin bonnet, a satin scarf, a satin pillowcase (or a combination of the three – because let’s face it – most kids won’t keep a scarf on all night) you’re going to have to commit to finding some way to protect your child’s hair every night. This applies whether your baby girl has in a protective style or not.

My little one has been using a satin pillowcase since she was a teeny weeny thing and it’s really paid off. The reality is that cotton pillowcases absorb all of the good moisture from hair and catch easily on hair strands which can ruin a fresh hairdo, and can even lead to breakage.

2. Watch that hairline!

It’s a fact that if braids are installed too tightly around the hairline they can cause breakage and, in some instances, can even cause permanent hair loss. Edges are fragile given that the hair there is naturally thinner and pulled the tightest most often. Keep hairline breakage to a minimum by making sure to tell your child’s stylist to not be so heavy-handed around the edges. Also be sure to keep edges moisturized along with the rest of the hair – which leads me too…

3. Continue to keep hair moisturized…

As I stated earlier, you still need to continue to keep your child’s hair and scalp moisturized while it’s in a protective style. If you haven’t gone out and bought a spray bottle yet, this is the perfect time to get one. Fill the bottle with a moisturizing cocktail of water, and a few drops of your favorite conditioner. Spray it on your child’s hair every other day (or nightly if your child is prone to having dry hair) and then seal it all in with a bit of EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) or any oil or butter.

If your baby girl has in a style that she’ll be wearing for an extended amount of time (two weeks or more) you’ll want to cleanse the scalp with a dry shampoo or astringent. A clean scalp will make for an optimum environment for your child’s hair to grow.



4. Don’t be afraid to extend the style… but not for too long…

Want baby girl to get a little more wear out of those box braids. Don’t be afraid to take out the first row or two of braids and re-braid for maximum wear. You can make a protective style look brand new just by doing a little maintenance around the edges. After redoing the front braids, have your child rock a ponytail or half updo and no one would ever be the wiser. 😉

With that being said, if your child’s style is creeping towards the 2 – 2 ½ month mark, it’s probably time to take the braids down and let the hair breath. Uninstall the style, and have your child wear a braid-out or puff for a week or so to let the hair “do its thing”; and then feel free to put another protective style in if you desire.

Follow these tips and be prepared to see some amazing growth!

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  1. Carmen
    August 26, 2016 at 1:43 pm — Reply

    hello, um I am Spanish and my daughter is half Spanish half black I have curls tight but manageable while she has a lot of hair thick curly but coily hair and its grown where its down her back but I last about almost 2hrs just to wash and detangle her hair, I am thinking of relaxing it but I am still skeptical because she is going to be 10 in December. I have just recently just started to actually use coconut oil and see how well it works it also takes me like close to 2 hrs to blow dry her hair…she is very picky plus tender headed….please help I am not that skilled in braiding believe me I’ve tried to do different things. How can I make it easier on both of us when I wash her hair? hopefully I explained to where u can understand what the problem is…lol

  2. December 13, 2015 at 6:31 pm — Reply

    Hello there! This is my first time reading your blog. I am loving the information and am hoping to gain some knowledge about how to care for my daughter’s very fine hair. She has very thin edges and and really soft hair. I have been braiding her hair during the week and then would put it in one ponytail for church. I have not seen any growth for years, so I know what I am doing isn’t really working. I started using shea moisture products now and hope that will help with moisture and growth. She is 7 and is now noticing the how her hair is different than mine and her younger sister’s. We have thick 4C hair that grows at normal rate.

  3. Starla
    August 12, 2015 at 12:13 am — Reply

    Thank you I hope this helps …..but to be honest I’m a white woman with a new foster child she is 3 months old and I looked up thing when we got her and yes we use olive oil in her hair and I. DO NOT put any barretts or rubble bands in her hair do to her age but I have noticed the back of her hair is not as full as the rest of her head and I didn’t know there were different type on hair so I don’t know what her type is but would love to know it i could get some more pointers ….maybe im not using the right comb, I didn’t know to wet the hair first then oil, i was told not to wash her hair but once every two weeks any way if you have time would love to hear what you thank .

    • August 12, 2015 at 8:01 am — Reply

      Hi Starla,

      Congratulations on the new addition to your family!
      At 3 months, I wouldn’t worry yourself about the typing system or any complicated hair regimens. These are your easy months. Wash her hair no more than once a week and then seal with extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil. Between wash days spritz her hair with water and then seal with your oil. That’s it! Combs should be wide-tooth, but honestly, at this age, finger-detangling should be all you really need to do. The balding/dryness in the back is completely normal and may get worse before it gets better. Just continue to keep her hair moisturized and you’ll be setting the proper foundation for growth. 🙂

  4. Whitnew
    July 15, 2015 at 4:50 pm — Reply

    Hey I found your blog to be very helpful. I have one question. Do you use black rubber bands on your daughter’s hair when you do her hair in twi st or braids? Family and friends have said to not use rubber bands because they will cause breakage.

    • July 16, 2015 at 9:36 pm — Reply

      Hi Whitnew,

      Glad you’ve found some of the info useful!
      To answer your question, yes, I use black rubber bands. Your family and friends are on the right track though. The less you use rubber bands, the better. If you do elect to use them, make sure you’re not winding them too tightly.

  5. shea
    July 6, 2015 at 2:41 am — Reply

    I am so glad I’ve found your page 🙂 I have a 2 1/2 year old and I am having a hard time growing the back of her hair. The top and sides are pretty long, but the back still kind of had that short baby strip. She has a satin pillow and bonnet that she wears to sleep and I use shea moisture products, Jamaican black Castrol oil, shea butter, and coconut oil. I think she has a 4c hair type. I used to braid and twist her hair but she would pull it out so she has been rocking a fro for about 2 months (with probably 4 braided hairstyles). I’m not sure how to protect the back of her hair since it is short. Do you have any tips or should I continue to leave it out? I also add water to heir hair 2x a day at least (it seems to help with moisture I can tell the difference) yet no growth. Thanks in advance 🙂

    • July 16, 2015 at 9:15 pm — Reply

      Hi Shea,

      Glad you found my page too!
      First off, I would go ahead and begin attempting protective styles (braids, twists, cornrows) again if you can. Those will help her to retain much needed moisture and length. There’s really no way around it. Are you spritzing her hair with water BEFORE you’re applying any oils or product; and are you sealing with an oil AFTER you’re spritzing with water? If not, those would be a couple of other things to work on. If you apply oils or butters to the hair first without applying moisture, you run the risk of just sealing in dryness.

      Hair can only grow and be healthy with proper moisture, and that moisture can only come from water – inside and out. Make sure she’s getting in the recommended amount of water and veggies for her age group. Also, do you do regular deep conditioning treatments on her yet? If not, that’s something else that you can do to encourage moisture/growth.

      Hope those tips help! 🙂

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    • Kim
      May 27, 2015 at 10:44 pm — Reply

      My soon to be 3 year old has an appt at a kids salon. She has 4c straight from the mother land, barely any curls type hair. I been using your method and it has worked great. The salon washes, conditions and they also blow dry before they braid it. She has never had her hair blow dried. I am not sure I want it blow dried because she is so young. They explained to me their procedure and what products they use. You have any advice?

      • June 2, 2015 at 4:19 pm — Reply

        Hi Kim,

        I emailed you back. Hope you can find the information useful. 🙂

      • Kim
        June 3, 2015 at 3:15 pm — Reply

        Hi Keisha,

        Thank you for the info. I did take her but I washed her hair myself and put some braids in it to let it dry. When she took them down it was still a bit damp. So she dried it just a little. They suggested that I let them wash and condition it using Influance products. The stylist said I put to much coconut oil in her hair and she likes to braid the hair dry. If I wash it the next time for her I won’t be so heavy on the oil. Is that recommended to braid her hair dry? PS. I didn’t like the type of comb she was using. It was not a wide tooth comb.


  7. April 21, 2015 at 5:24 pm — Reply

    Hello. So amazed. My daughter is 2 years old with 4c coily and dry hair. I use grease bb super gro with curly kids conditioner was using kids organics for shampoo&conditioning with growth oil remedy no growth results. I switched to carols daughter for kids product line not seeing improving results. I have a satin wrap for her. I just want my daughter hair to grow to her full potential. And pointers for me?

    • April 21, 2015 at 11:38 pm — Reply

      Hi Shenisha,

      Having hydrated hair that grows healthy is only 20% about the products you choose and 80% about your hair regimen and how you physically treat her hair.

      Let me give you a few questions to consider:

      Are you misting her hair every other day with water from a spray bottle and then sealing that moisture in from root to tip with an oil or a butter?
      Does your little girl wear a satin bonnet or sleep on a satin pillowcase EVERY night?
      Does she get in enough water and green veggies each day?
      Do you deep condition weekly or bi-weekly?
      Are the shampoos you use sulfate free, or are you co-washing?
      Do you avoid brushes and small-tooth combs and only finger detangle her hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner?

      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be some fantastic places to start in regards to getting her hair to retain moisture. Moisture is what she needs in order for her hair to grow. That moisture and hydration will only come from water (inside and out) along with regular conditioning.

      Good luck! 🙂

      • April 22, 2015 at 7:02 am — Reply

        You made my day. I feel special. Thank you so much. Time to change some things.

  8. Tasha
    April 2, 2015 at 6:32 pm — Reply

    I have a three year old and I can’t seem to get the back of her to grow. Putting in one or two pony tails is impossible. And using coconut oil or milk is impossible since were allergic to coconuts. Can you give me something else I can use.

    • April 6, 2015 at 11:11 pm — Reply

      There are tons of butters and oils out there that you can try. Extra virgin olive oil, and avocado oil are a couple of great ones. And be sure that before you apply any butters or oils that you use either a water-based leave in conditioner, or just plain water first. Butters and oils used alone won’t do you much good because you’ll most likely just be sealing in dryness.

      Also, is she sleeping on a satin pillowcase or wearing a satin bonnet or scarf to bed? If she’s not, that would probably help you out a great deal with that bald spot. 🙂

      • Tasha
        July 6, 2015 at 4:12 am — Reply

        Thank you for the tips, I started having my sleep with a satin bonnet and been using a spray bottle with conditioner and olive oil when combing her hair. I gotten a little growth. But its really hard to tell because her hair is sooooo course, My new question is will getting her ends trimmed help or hurt the hair growth process???

        • July 16, 2015 at 9:20 pm — Reply

          Hi Tasha,

          You should trim if her ends are split, ratty, or damaged. If her ends seem healthy, there’s no need to trim. If she hasn’t had her ends trimmed in a while, they’re uneven or thin, go ahead and trim though. You’ll definitely see a difference. But doing it regularly/unnecessarily would definitely be counter-productive if your aim growth.
          Hope that answers your question! 🙂

  9. wallatta
    January 14, 2015 at 6:01 pm — Reply

    Hi my daughter2 years old has sort of mixed hair i am jamaican decent my partner portugese/ zimbabwean, so her hair islow porocity 3b 3c,and,quite dry after a few hours i have started yesterday to add in her spray bottle a mix of water,drops of jojoba oil, olive oil glycerin, and rosemary and lavender.
    i sprayed this in her hair today before nursery,.i think this will work, will also add aloe vera gel.
    do you think this is ok?

    • January 17, 2015 at 12:06 pm — Reply

      Hi Wallatta,
      I’d personally put your water and aloe vera juice in one bottle. Spray her hair with that. Then put your oils and glycerin in an applicator bottle and use that after spritzing in order to properly seal.

      Be careful with the glycerin in the winter time though. Given that it’s a humectant it will pull moisture from the air into the hair shaft; but if it’s cold and dry outside it can actually have the opposite effect and repel moisture. Glycerin is a great summertime natural hair product. If you live in a warm, constantly humid climate, then you’re good to go! 🙂

      • Kim
        January 17, 2015 at 3:41 pm — Reply

        Hello. My 2yr old daughter hair is dry but it has improved a lot with ur help. I wash her hair once a month (4c barely any curl) b/c I am afraid it will take away the moisture she has if I do it more then that. I keep it in a protective style, she sleeps with a bonnet and satin pillow case. Also I spray and seal with coconut oil. Should I be washing it more often? I used the home made conditioner (avocado, coconut milk, mayo, banana and honey) on her last night, how long can I keep that in the refrigerator? Thanks

        • January 17, 2015 at 3:53 pm — Reply

          Hi Kim,

          I responded to you on the other thread. Here was my response:

          “Hi Kim,
          So glad you’ve found some of my information useful!
          I’d wash and deep condition her hair every two weeks. 4c hair needs LOTS of regular moisture and conditioning to stay hydrated. Most conditioners that contain food won’t last but a few days in the fridge. o_o. You’ll have to experiment with measurements to see if you can make just enough for each application… or another idea would be to use what’s left to deep condition your own head. 🙂

          Since your baby girl won’t sit under the dryer, try the greenhouse method on her head: Put a plastic processing cap over it, then a satin bonnet, and then tie everything down with a satin scarf. The heat from her head will warm the conditioner and help it to penetrate better.”

          To elaborate, it’s a myth that washing your hair regularly dries hair out. That’s something that’s been passed around in our community for decades. It’s not how often you wash that can dry it out, it’s the technique and what you use. If you moisturize and use a cleansing conditioner, washing every week can actually be very beneficial. (Especially if you’re dealing with a child with chronically dry hair.) What you SHOULDN’T do is use a shampoo every week full of sulfates and surfactants. A sulfate free shampoo or a conditioner meant for cleansing is best.

          You have to make the final determination as to what’s best for your child’s hair though. If her hair seems hydrated and is retaining moisture from month to month, then stick with your once a month routine; but if your daughter’s hair seems dry and “stiff” then you may want to start conditioning weekly or biweekly. There’s no hard fast rule. It’s all about trial and error.

          • Kim
            January 17, 2015 at 11:14 pm — Reply

            Thank you so much!!

  10. wayna
    December 19, 2014 at 3:29 pm — Reply

    Hello!. Im happy to see this blog. I really need help with growing my 3 year old daughter hair back. All her hair has fell out within the last month. Her hair is very short and im going crazy because i dont know how to style it now. I thinking about taking her to an African. Braiding shop so it can grow back. Please help me

    • December 19, 2014 at 11:28 pm — Reply

      Hi Wayna! Glad you found me too!

      I’m sorry to read of the troubles you’re having with your daughter’s hair. I personally wouldn’t head for the African Hair braiders yet. If her hair is damaged and breaking, putting extra pressure and strain on top of that may make her hair situation worse. If her hair has just fallen out all of a sudden you may actually want to have her see a dermatologist first just to make sure she’s not having skin/scalp issues that are effecting her hair.

      Has her diet changed? Is she on any new medicines? Have you bought new linens for her bed? Those may be some things to think about first. Your daughter is old enough to begin some natural deep conditioning treatments. You can easily find some great recipes online. When you DO style her hair are you moisturizing as I’ve outlined in this piece? I’d get to the route of her hair loss first before letting the African hair braiders have their way with her.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  11. Marie
    November 13, 2014 at 4:14 pm — Reply

    I have two question…what can I do/use on my dauhter edges to aid in growth, the rest of her hair seem to be growing and not her edges. Also, what can I use to help her twist out look nice and moistured and not dry and frizzy.

    • November 13, 2014 at 11:38 pm — Reply

      The first step is getting to the route of why her edges aren’t growing. I was having a problem with my daughter’s edges myself and it finally occurred to me that I was just doing way too many tight ponytails and twists. Putting constant stress on the edges of the hair can make it weak and cause it to break off easily. Does her hair get pulled back a lot?

      All parts of the hair grow. The issue is that your daughter’s hair is not retaining the length. Once you get to the route of the problem, you should be able to fix it. I suggest aloe vera juice to all of my readers who have issues with breakage/lack of growth. Buy some from your local Farmer’s Market or Whole Foods, dilute it with water, and spray that around her edges at night. That should help with the regrowth.

      Twist outs usually work best if you use a leave-in, an oil, and then a butter to set. There are tons of butters and masques out that are made just for the purpose of the twistout. Shea Moisture carries a few great ones. Also, the hair needs to be COMPLETELY dry before you remove the twists. If it’s even slightly damp when you remove the twists, you’ll get those dreaded frizzies.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

  12. roth
    November 9, 2014 at 5:07 pm — Reply

    Hi,glad I bumped into this site. I have a 2 years and a 10 months old girl’s.The 2 years old’s hair doesn’t grow and her hair line round her head is gone and her hair is always dried. The 10 months has a hair loss line at the back of her head i guess from lying down on her back.
    What regimens can I use to grow their hair full and thick. Thanks,looking forward to hearing from you.

    • November 9, 2014 at 7:58 pm — Reply

      Glad you found me! 🙂
      Hair loss around the edges is a common problem among naturals. It could be happening for many reasons. Do you put her hair in lots of ponytails/pigtails? Do the hair products you use on their hair contain protein? She could be protein sensitive. Are you moisturizing with water and THEN your leave-in/oil? Make sure your oldest daughter is sleeping with a satin bonnet or on a satin pillowcase. The baby can sleep on a satin baby blanket. Cotton bedding can really dry out natural hair – especially babies. (Given that they sleep so much as you stated.) Grab a spray bottle and mix it with half water and half aloe vera juice (which you can purchase at your nearest Farmer’s Market or Whole Foods). Spray both of your daughter’s hair with that daily and seal in that moisture with a little extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil.

      Start with these tips, and after a couple of months I’m sure you’ll see results. 🙂

  13. ZaniyMom
    November 8, 2014 at 1:14 pm — Reply

    At What Age Can You Start With The Oils And Shampoos ?

    • November 8, 2014 at 1:39 pm — Reply

      I used a little EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) on my daughter’s hair at only a few weeks old (after her 4th or 5th bath). It helped to seal in the moisture after I’d shampooed. As far as shampoos, if we’re talking about a newborn, there are tons of great shampoos out for kinky/curly babies. It’s a Curl is a great line.

  14. Sad and confused
    October 30, 2014 at 12:29 am — Reply

    Hi, I’m so glad I found your blog! I’ve already learned a lot. I have a one year with beautiful, thick, curly hair. Last month, she has lost a bit of hair and I’m so frustrated and at a loss.

    She has a bald spot on her hairline that extends in a circle around her head. I kept her hair in braids and twists but admittedly, didn’t do a lot in the way of upkeep and moisture in between styles.

    She has a dry scalp and her pediatrician recommended Head and Shoulders. Shortly after trying it, the hair loss began. Since then, I’ve switched back to Shea Moisture shampoo, Mixed Chicks conditioner, and California Baby Leave In. I’ve also bought raw shea butter but haven’t found a recipe yet.

    What else can I do? I’ve stopped doing braids and twists since her hairline is thinning. She has a lot of hair so the bald spots are completely hidden. I’m just so sad and disappointed in myself for ruining my baby’s beautiful hair. Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer!

    • November 1, 2014 at 3:48 pm — Reply

      Hi “Sad and Confused”! So glad you found me!

      Good news: your baby is still young, and hair grows back! No need to beat yourself up. 🙂

      Okay, so don’t give up on the protective styles (braids and twists). That will actually keep your child’s hair protected and help it grow. You just HAVE to remember to take care of it while it’s in that protective style. Also, when you do that protective style, make sure you’re not using rubberbands or pulling too hard near the hairline. If her hair is short, then it actually may be best to keep it out, and let it be “free”; but if you do that, you’ll need to commit to detangling and moisturizing daily.

      Grab yourself some aloe vera juice and use that (diluted with water in a spray bottle) on her hair daily. Aloe vera juice helps promote growth. Also grab some tea tree oil. It’s an antifungal that will get rid of that dandruff naturally. Massage that into her scalp and use it to seal in the moisture after you’ve used the aloe vera juice mixture. Make sure you’re having her sleep on satin pillowcase, or satin blanket every night. Cotton bedding can really do a number on hair.

      Try out those tips, and let me know in a month or two if you see any results! 🙂

  15. Linda
    October 22, 2014 at 4:56 pm — Reply

    I adopted my girls from foster care age 7 and 6 .They had already had straighteners or relaxers in hair what now ?

    • October 22, 2014 at 5:03 pm — Reply

      Hi Linda! Congratulations on the additions to your family! 🙂
      Your options are to take the kids to a stylist and have their relaxers maintained professionally; or if you prefer for them to be natural, you’ll have to let the relaxer grow out of their hair and “transition” the hair to its natural state. If you choose to do this you’ll have to commit to either learning and absorbing as much knowledge as you can about natural hair (because transitioning requires the hair to be treated like gold) or find a stylist who specializes in natural hair care.

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  17. Keishana
    September 4, 2014 at 11:34 pm — Reply

    Hello, I have a question about washing and maintaiing my 4 yr old daughter's hair. She has 4c hair and gets her hair braided by my friend every 2-3 weeks. When I wash and prep her hair for brading I have been using various leave in conditioners and cocunut oil and then I blow dry her hair. Do you have any advice/thoughts on how to prep her hair for blow drying and keeping it moist after blow drying? I find that even after adding the oils her hair is still dry once blown dry. I usually add more cocunut oil to help moisurize it again.

    In terms of maintaining her braids I recently started using a spray bottle (with water and conditioner) followed by cocunt oil. I find that adding the water makes her braids look messier faster than if I just greased her scalp and added oil directly to the braids. Do you have any advice? Should I skip the water bottle and just grease it dry? I have been reading about Shea Butter but wondered if I can use it without spraying her hair with water. I welcome any advice.

    • September 6, 2014 at 12:01 am — Reply

      Hi Keishana! Thanks for reading! 🙂 Now, I'll be honest and tell you that since I've been natural, I've only used heat on my hair once. (and I've never done it on my daughter's). Just like you, I blew dry my 4c hair to see if I could make my hair braider's job just a little bit easier. It dried my hair out so much that I never did it again. I've not explored it any deeper, but I kid you not, that's on my list of things to research and explore. I know there are a lot of 4c naturals out there who do "blowouts" regularly and don't lose all of their moisture. I'll have to figure out what products they use, and what steps they take. I know a good deep conditioning is one of them (beyond just a leave-in). I'll research a bit more and have a post out on it soon. 🙂

      As far as you spraying your daughter's hair with water, I know what you mean about it making things frizzy faster; But unfortunately, skipping that step all together is probably not your best option. You're going to need to get some hydration in there somewhere. If you just put oil or shea butter on top of dry hair, all you'll be doing is sealing in the dryness. And if you want to avoid breakage and want to promote growth, you don't want to do that. 4c hair types need constant hydration because it's traditionally a hair type with very low porosity. My suggestion would be to lighten up just a tad on the water (maybe see if you can find a sprayer with a more fine mist. or look into an alternatives like a hair steamer. I've heard fantastic things about those.

      I hope that helps you out a bit. Be on the lookout for more information regarding blow drying. 😉

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  19. Yolanda Salvant
    August 20, 2014 at 6:12 pm — Reply

    Hello, For some reason, I thought I read somewhere that I should buy Tea tree oil for my daughter's 4C hair. Is this something that I should have in my arsenal for her hair? I have also added grape seed and jojoba oil.


    • August 20, 2014 at 7:17 pm — Reply

      Hey Yolanda! Yes, tea tree oil is great for natural hair as it helps with itchy scalp/dandruff, it prevents hair loss, and is effective for hair growth. Each oil has different key benefits, but all natural oils are great for sealing in moisture.

  20. Kim
    August 1, 2014 at 6:36 am — Reply

    Hello. Thanks for all the info. I put a satin bonnet or scarf on my 2yr old head and it come off. I have satin pillow cases but she sleeps all over the bed except on the pillow. I can't win!! Also, I cannot locate that edge tamer. It seems to no longer be on the shelf. Any other alternative? Thanks

    • August 1, 2014 at 7:26 am — Reply

      Hey Kim. First off, thank you so much for reading! Glad you're getting some use out of the information. 😉

      It sounds like you have a wild sleeper like my little girl. lol. The good news is that she'll calm that down eventually – The bad news is that unless you're up for buying satin sheets to put on her bed you're going to have to continue to fight that fight with the scarf, bonnet, or pillowcase. Those all cotton linens can do a serious number on hair; so you're just going to have to keep fighting that battle. I've seen a line of kid's bonnets on Amazon that might do the trick. They're made a little smaller, so the snugger fit may be just what you need.

      As far as the edge tamer, I've got something even better that I've found! Kinky Curly has a Curling Custard out that I absolutely love. I use it on me and my daughter's edges and I use it on my own head to do my wash-and-go's. As a warning, it IS expensive, but to me, it's totally worth it. It's completely botanical which means that it's non drying and better than any other gel that contains ingredients that can eat hair away after long term use. A less expensive option is Eco Styler. They have an olive oil gel that I know a lot of "curlys" live by.

      Hope that helps!

      • Kim
        August 1, 2014 at 7:56 am — Reply

        Thank you. I definitely will go out and get some today. I will look into that bonnet also.

      • Kim
        August 1, 2014 at 11:27 am — Reply

        She has 4c hardly any curl and dry. Will the custard be ok for her hair?

        • August 2, 2014 at 6:50 am — Reply

          I have 4c, "straight from the motherland" hair and the custard works great. lol. The product is actually geared toward 4c's. And as a side note, I promise you 4c hair curls. Believe it or not, ALL hair types curl. The fact that 4c's don't curl is misinformation that's been fed down from generation to generation. I used to believe it too… until I actually got my ziggly, brillo pad hair to curl. It's all about hydration… but that's an entirely different post. lol. I'll be posting more on that soon. 😉

          • Kim
            August 12, 2014 at 2:51 am — Reply

            Hello. My daughter has the straight from the mother land 🙂 type 4c hair. When I braid it, it looks as if it's been done for a couple of days. It's frizzy and it's just does look new after the first few hours. I use the leave in and evoo to seal it. Also, I try to keep her on her pillow case and her bonnet on her head. Should I be adding something else to make her braids look new? Thanks

            • August 12, 2014 at 6:42 am — Reply

              I would add a gel or custard step. The water and oil isn't going to be enough to keep the frizzies away as you've discovered. Eco Styler has an olive oil gel that I use on my braids and twists that works great. It keeps my hair looking fresh for a quite a long time and when I take my braids out, my hair is soft and smooth. Make sure to look for a gel that boasts being an "oil gel" or "botanical gel" on the label. Don't use that old school black gel that leaves crusties around your edges. lol.

              • Kim
                August 12, 2014 at 7:39 am — Reply

                I have the kinky curl custard. Is that ok? Also, do I apply to the entire section that I want to braid? When I try to twist her entire head her twist stick out they don't fall.

                • August 12, 2014 at 8:47 am — Reply

                  Yes, the custard should work. You don't need very much of that stuff. A little goes a long way with the Kinky Curly Custard, so maybe a fingertips worth per section. And there's not much you can do about them sticking out. I would imagine if you pinned them down with bobby pins or hair clips over night and wrapped it with a scarf, they will be laid in place by morning.

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