My Body After Twins

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September 27, 2011 10:00 am

…This isn’t for the faint of heart.

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76233 466516436888 504746888 5554805 5066291 n 2 150x150 the kids pregnancy 2 love and relationships Many times people ask me how it was to carry twins. My responses are often marked with expletives as I recount the final months of which my body went through the most change. It was horrifying for me more so than others I believe. Since I could remember I had weighed the same, and looked at the same body in the mirror for decades. I was lucky, if not blessed to not have dealt with the “freshmen fifteen” or the inevitable weight gain that so many of my friends had. Good genes I guess. To see my body stretch and contort to those unbelievable proportions to accommodate two little people inside was at times overwhelming. The thought of what my body would look like after giving birth would sometimes bring me to tears.

The day after the twins were born, I took a picture of my hospital room in order to preserve the memory and my reflection was caught in the mirror.  All I saw was my swollen belly. “Did you all forget to take a child out?” I asked the nurse half jokingly. “It’ll take as long as it took for you to grow those babies for you to lose that tummy,” she told me cheerfully. That wasn’t very comforting. I wanted my body back now. It appeared that it was gone forever. I felt guilty for caring. My body had done what, statistically, many women’s body’s couldn’t – carry two children full term. I should have been proud of my battle scars.

 

DSCF2735 pp 150x150 the kids pregnancy 2 love and relationships Now, ten months later; after a one month attempt at breastfeeding and subsequent occasional attempts at crunches, I’m beginning to see the body of Kesha past. It will never be the same though, and I’m beginning to accept that. I wanted to write this post and reveal my body after twins because instead of feeling insecure, I wanted to begin to embrace the beauty of what the human body – my body – is capable of enduring. Hopefully I can be an inspiration to someone else who’s self image has changed due to child birth.

I still have a lot of work to do in the way of accepting my body as it is now. My husband Will took these pictures… And if you’d believe it, this was one of the only times in almost a year that he’s seen me without a shirt on.

All in all, I’m proud of these pictures. Not because of how I look… but because of the journey that I took to get there.

 

  
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  • http://www.facebook.com/Yulanda02 Yulanda Brown

    awwww yeahhhhh :o )

  • Calandra Cleveland

    I’m glad you shared your pictures. I have been battling with the fact that my body will never be the same. I had a set of B/G twins August 2011. I’m just getting to the point where I don’t have a huge stomach. I have a 5 year old but my body did not stretch like it did with the twins. Sometimes I get discouraged about what my body will look like after the weight is totally gone. Especially, now that celebrities are dropping twins like it’s a new trend and showing off bikini bodies months later. I definitely have battle scars to show from my bearing of twins. You have inspired me, to embrace the body that I have after bringing these two wonderful babies into this world. God Bless.

    • http://keshacgraphicdesign.com Kesha of We Got Kidz

      Calandra you’ve made my day girl! I’m so glad that I could be a bit of an inspiration to you… and I promise that it will get better. Even since I’ve written that post, my belly looks a whole lot better and less “worn” than it did. lol. Twins do a number on a body, but it’s a pretty awesome thing. Thank you so much for your comment! :)

  • Emiliane

    Hi Kesha, OMG you look amazing… I have 4 months old twins and a big stretch marks belly going crazy because of that and can`t find time to work out. You really look great after 10 months and you can be sure that you encourage me a lot. Now I will be counting the months until I have 9 months old baby, hopefully I will be like you. Yesterday I had a fight with my DH about my belly and I will not show to him until gets better. Please Kesha tell me what did you do? work out? diet? tummy tuck? what?? Please help me. Thankyou so much for sharing your pic.

    • http://keshacgraphicdesign.com Kesha of We Got Kidz

      Emilane, thank you so much! Girl don’t fight about that belly. It’ll go down naturally on its own. And I know this because besides the little bit of breastfeeding and the few crunches that I did, that was about the extent of my belly flattening efforts. I appreciate that you think it looks good. lol. I’m still a little self-conscious about it, but I’ve started running a bit again, so I’m sure it will get even better. My twins are 16 months now, and my belly looks even better than what you see in those pictures.
      Just give it some time :)
      Thank you so much for you comment!

  • Jaileah

    I love this!!!! My twins are six weeks and I know I will never be the same but seeing you was do much better than seeing jlo or mariah with their fake tummies!! Twin mommy power!

    • http://www.wegotkidz.com/ Kesha Chisholm

      Ha! That’s exactly why I did this. I was almost fooled by those “fake” tummies too girl. I wanted to show what a real tummy looks like after two babies have their way with it. lol.

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  • http://jesterqueen.com/ Jessie Powell

    My eight year old noticed my stretch marks the other day. Ohhhh yeah.

    • http://www.wegotkidz.com/ Kesha Chisholm

       Battle scars girl, battle scars. Don’t use the “S” word. lol.

  • SisterSource

    Not battle scars or stretch marks, but love lines! It took all the love we had to carry and birth our babies. I earned EVERY one of my love lines during an extra long pregnancy–my son was 2 weeks ‘late’ and a 4 day labor (that is not a typo–labor started on Monday evening and he didn’t arrive until Friday!). Repeat after me–LOVE LINES!

    • http://www.wegotkidz.com/ Kesha Chisholm

      Okay, I’ve got to start using that one. lol… But on the days my twins do something outrageous, then I get to call them battle scars. lol!
      Thanks for stopping through :)
      [P.S. You are my hero with that labor.lol]

  • http://www.facebook.com/denise.bertacchi Denise Bertacchi

    It was soooo depressing when I was getting ready for my first baby and looked at a list of “what to bring to the hospital” and on the list was pants that were comfy at 5 months pregnant. Ack! I wore my mid-preggers jeans for months! Eh, I was never one to wear a bikini anyway.

 
 
 
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