“If you happen to have kinky/curly/textured hair and you’ve just really begun digging into the facts of how to take care of it in its natural state, I’m sure you’ve probably come to the conclusion that our parents had no earthly idea of what they were actually dealing with on top of our heads.

Back when we were children, there were no natural hair blogs to read or YouTube videos to watch. Our parents just did to our hair what their parents did to theirs: snap a comb through it, slap some grease on the scalp, throw some cornrows in it, and call it a day.

The reality is that this technique does not make for a good long-term hair regimen. The only reason why we may have had “long” hair as a child is because our hair was most likely placed in a protective style (cornrows, braids, twists) for extended periods of time. Very little manipulation gave our hair the chance to retain moisture and length.

So, now you’re at a point where you’re realizing that the “comb, grease, cornrow” method just isn’t enough to maintain a healthy head of hair. Your child’s hair is chronically dry, broken, and damaged; and it seems like it’s getting shorter by the day. So what do you do?…”

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27 Comments

  1. Nicole
    December 30, 2015 at 4:52 pm — Reply

    Hi. I have a 9 year old daughter and I feel like I have changed so my products in her head and nothing works. Her hair has not changed in any length since she was 5 years old. She gets her ends trimmed and I wash and condition her hair about once or twice a month. I finally put some single braids in her head. She is at the age where she doesn’t like the French braids anymore with beads and she always wants her hair ironed out. From her roots to about half way it is curly and the rest is straight. I saw the damage and told her she can’t have it straight any more. While she has the braids in what should I do? I know I’m doing the right thing when it comes to the protective styles because I wear sew-ins to start my transition and I love no getting relaxers. Now I just want to get my daughters hair on the right track.

  2. Preicous
    September 17, 2015 at 8:16 pm — Reply

    Hi, I have a daughter that just turned two July 29th. I started my own personal hair journey three years ago but turned back to perms after having my daughter. January of this year I did the BC and have been natural since. I don’t know much about taking care of natural hair or really where to start. I know that they say moisturizing the hair is essential for growth. My daughter has hair that goes down her back but I don’t want to mess up and not treat her hair right. I usually oil her hair once a month and then keep it in braids and beads. Am i to moisturize her hair even while it’s braided? If so how do I do that? I’m really trying to do better at taking care of our natural hair and embracing the journey. Thank you for having this blog!

  3. Joann Gray
    May 17, 2015 at 2:23 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha I was wondering if you could help me out with what to do with my daughter’s hair. She is two years old and her hair is always dry and now is breaking off. We’ve tried different types of natural hair products but her hair is still dry. It’s also uneven. It’s been that way since she was a baby. It’s Long on top but short on the sides and back. Could you help me please! Thank you!

    • May 24, 2015 at 12:34 pm — Reply

      Hi Joann,

      So sorry to read that you’re having problems. Here are a few questions to consider:
      Are you deep conditioning her hair yet? If she’s experiencing chronic dryness than she would benefit from weekly deep conditioning treatments. Here’s an article that I wrote on some deep conditioning treatments that you can make at home: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/4-homemade-deep-conditioning-treatment/
      Does your little one where a satin scarf or sleep on a satin pillowcase every night? Are you detangling her hair only when it’s damp and slick wit conditioner? Is she getting in the recommended amount of water and green veggies for her age group each day? Do you put her hair in a protective style (braids, twists, cornrows) at least 75% of the time and moisturize regularly while her hair is in the protective style?

      If you answered “no” to any of those questions, those would be some great places to start. 🙂

      • Joann
        June 19, 2015 at 9:28 pm — Reply

        Thank you so much! I just recently started deep conditioning her hair. I’m going to try everything else! Should I trim her hair? Will that help with breakage and growth?? I also saw that you said Aloe Vera Juice and Jamaican Black Castor Oil is good for hair growth. Do you know where I can buy those?? Thank you so much!

        • June 28, 2015 at 11:37 pm — Reply

          Joann, I trimmed my baby girl’s hair around age 2, and it was the best thing I could’ve done. If your little one has damaged or ratty ends, trimming is really your only option. Damaged hair can only be repaired but to a degree. Aloe vera juice can be purchased at your local farmer’s market or Whole Foods. Jamaican black castor oil is carried in my local beauty supply store; but if you live in a more rural location and don’t have access to those stores, you can always purchase everything on Amazon.com.

  4. Kelly
    May 13, 2015 at 1:59 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha,

    I was just hoping to get advice(so happy you started this blog)….My daughter is now 9 months old and since my local store did not have the Shea Butter baby products i found the kids Shea Butter Carrot line that works very well. Would you say its ok for her hair? She has a 4b and/or 4c hair type but gets dry quick. I noticed you mention a silk scarf, would that be ok for a 9 month old? and are there any products you would recommend to moisturize her hair everyday? It would be wonderful to know. Thanks for providing all this information.

  5. Tatyana
    April 27, 2015 at 6:18 pm — Reply

    hi Ms.Kam I am 16 years old and I have noticed that my hair breaks off mainly in the middle and in the back of my head and the front seems to be very long and has no problem of growing the way i would love for the rest of my hair to grow … so right now i have my hair in a pulled together bun by the skin of my teeth and my ends need to be cut. i only had 4 perms out of my life span and i started going natural a year ago. but i really need your help to help so i can do it right this time

  6. Kam
    April 12, 2015 at 12:38 pm — Reply

    Hey Kesha
    I have a 2 year old. I put a texturizers on her hair a little after she was one year old because her hair was very brittle and dry. Til this day I relax her hair and keep it braided and greased. To me her hair looks as if it’s still not growing..
    when I took her braids down today and washed it her hair started shedding. I feel like I am in a whole at this point. What should I do

    • April 12, 2015 at 1:06 pm — Reply

      Hi Kam,

      What you do really depends on what your goals are with her hair. Do you want her to transition back to natural? The cause of the shedding could be from a lot of different reasons. It could be that she needs a protein treatment. If you’ve never done one then I would do one ASAP to strengthen her hair. If you go to your local beauty supply you can find a lot of protein treatments on the market.

      The harsh reality is that texturizes and perms are pretty tough chemicals to put on a chid under 5 or 6. The hair is still pretty weak. If you continue to see breakage it may be that you’ve broken down the follicle to a point where you won’t have a choice but to trim and start again. 🙁

      Good luck!

      • Kam
        April 12, 2015 at 9:04 pm — Reply

        is there a cretain way to braid hair. If so then that might have been the issue. Should I keep the braids or pony tails?. In your honest opinion do yu think I should transition. My goal is length. My baby has 4c hair. Because the relaxer help with the tangles and it keeps it from being so dry. Now all I need is the length. Thanks for your advice. It has been really helpful.

        • April 14, 2015 at 10:45 pm — Reply

          Kam,

          As long as you’re not braiding her hair too tightly (especially around her nape and edges), you’re fine. Braids are a better protective style than ponytails given that you can leave braids in longer (with little manipulation) and they generally don’t require rubber bands which can pull and snag.
          Whether or not you transition is going to be entirely up to you. Either way, you’re going to have to commit to doing regular conditioning and moisturizing. If you transition, you’ll have to treat her hair very gently and be consistent with your deep conditioning, protective styling, and trimming.

          • Kam
            April 15, 2015 at 10:02 am — Reply

            Thanks very much m great advice

  7. Kam
    April 12, 2015 at 12:36 pm — Reply

    Hey Keshia
    I have a 2 year old. I put a texturizers on her hair a little after she was one year old because her hair was very brittle and dry. Til this day I relax her hair and keep it braided and greased. To me her hair looks as if it’s still not growing..
    when I took her braids down today and washed it her hair started shedding. I feel like I am in a whole at this point. What should I do

  8. March 25, 2015 at 11:57 am — Reply

    Hi, Kesha!
    I have a 5yr old African American (she jesed turned 5 this passed Mon 3/16) daughter. One night as I was taking down her hair (I always would keep it in Frenchbraids wit beads), some of her hair had came out n I was in tears. She have a nice grade of Thick Hair. Can you please Help Me??

    • April 6, 2015 at 11:16 pm — Reply

      Hi Quishanta,
      So sorry to read you’re having troubles with your daughter’s hair. The reason for the breakage could be a number of different things. Has her diet changed? Is she getting in enough water each day? Were you handling the hair roughly? Is her hair relaxed? If so, have you done a protein treatment on her hair lately? Do you brush/comb her hair daily? That can do a number on hair over time.

      Just take a moment, breath, and reevaluate the hair care regimen that you have in place for her. Something is wrong, off, or different, and you’ll have to go through a little trial, error, and research to figure it out.
      Good luck! 🙂

  9. Kelly
    March 24, 2015 at 9:09 am — Reply

    Hi Kesha,
    I am so glad to find this blog. I too have a 7 month old daughter that has dry and brittle hair. I have natural hair myself but hide behind weave to avoid having to maintain (much easier). That said enough about my daughters hair and would need help/support on products to use and how to maintain it. Can you please help? I dont want to put products in her hair that will break it off, but not applying much to it is doing the same. Any advice? Please!

  10. natasha
    March 1, 2015 at 7:30 pm — Reply

    I have a two year old daughter her hair isn’t growing it look like its falling out she pull on the lil hair she got when she go to sleep I have try Everything what can I do to get it to grow I need a good shampoo I also try coconut oil also help

    • March 2, 2015 at 4:15 pm — Reply

      Hi Natasha,
      Are you spritzing her hair with water before you apply the oil or product? Are you conditioning her hair weekly or bi-weekly? Does she wear a satin bonnet or sleeping on a satin pillowcase each night? Does she get in enough water each day? If you answered “no” to any of those questions then those would be some great places to start. Try using a sulfate free shampoo. Shea Moisture Mango & Carrot Kids Extra-Nourishing Shampoo is a good one. Healthy hair growth is really more about how you treat her hair and less about the product. Makes sure you only detangle her hair when it’s wet and slick with conditioner, get her to wear that satin scarf each night, and always treat her hair gently.

      Start with those tips and I’m sure you’ll see some results. 🙂

    • Pam
      March 14, 2015 at 12:36 pm — Reply

      I have a 9 year old daughter I put a permanent in her head I been trying to maintenance it myself, but it seems to be breaking off around the edges it’s getting shorter and shorter I need help to repair her hair an get it to grow.

    • Diamond
      March 20, 2015 at 9:41 pm — Reply

      Don’t worry, she just hasn’t hit her growing stage yet. My daughter always had a head full of hair, but her little cousin was completely bald until she turned 4, as soon as she turned 4 she got a little peach fuzz, by the time she was 6 she had ponytails all the way to the middle of her back, completely passing my daughters’ ponytails up. So it’s all in her time. Just keep up with the healthy hair habits and it will grow. They say bald babies always grow up to have a head full of hair, and that seems to be true. 🙂

  11. Kama
    February 20, 2015 at 5:25 pm — Reply

    I have a 8 month old sweet African baby girl. She was born with lots of hair and very soft up to this time. I wash her hair only once a week and use only all natural products i normally use the shea butter line originated from Sierra Leone. Well, lately her hair is starting to get dry and yes shorter by the day. i spray mist of water and and add coconut oil or shea better oil every morning and use finger to pick it out. she hates me touching her hair and i feel bad combing it. I have never tried the deep condition stuff yet. Again she is only 8 months so i am trying to be very careful as to what products/chemical i am using on her scalp.
    please help me to keep her hair healthy moist soft and most.
    Thank you

    • February 22, 2015 at 4:47 pm — Reply

      Hi Kama,
      It really sounds like you’re on the right track with her hair care.

      Does she sleep with a satin scarf or on a satin pillowcase EVERY night? If not, changing that one think could help out a great deal with that dryness.

      As far as deep conditioning, that’s actually not a bad idea. You don’t really have to buy tons of chemical laden products. You can make a lot of the things you need right at home. Here’s a link to a piece I did covering all natural deep conditioners that may help: http://curlz.wegotkidz.com/4-homemade-deep-conditioning-treatment/. If her hair is chronically dry, it needs moisture. Adding a deep conditioning regimen to your hair care routine for her may be just the right move.

      Outside of that, just keep up what you’re doing. She’s still young so she may still be moving into her “true” hair type. Her hair may be shedding to get rid of the baby hair. Everyone’s growth process is different. My son’s hair grew in patchy until he was about 18 months. Now, he has a full head of healthy hair that grows like a weed.

  12. Kim
    January 17, 2015 at 12:24 am — Reply

    Hello. My 2yr old has the 4c hair that is dry. It has gotten a whole lot better with ur help. How often should I wash her hair? I usually wash it once a month b/c it was so dry. Also, how long can I keep the home made deep conditioner? Tonight was my first time trying it . I have it in my refrigerator in a container. She will not allow me sit her under a dryer with it in her hair Thanks

    • January 17, 2015 at 11:59 am — Reply

      Hi Kim,
      So glad you’ve found some of my information useful!
      I’d wash and deep condition her hair every two weeks. 4c hair needs LOTS of regular moisture and conditioning to stay hydrated. Most conditioners that contain food won’t last but a few days in the fridge. o_o. You’ll have to experiment with measurements to see if you can make just enough for each application… or another idea would be to use what’s left on your own head. 🙂

      Since your baby girl won’t sit under the dryer, try the greenhouse method on her head: Put a plastic processing cap over it, then a satin bonnet, and then tie everything down with a satin scarf. The heat from her head will warm the conditioner and help it to penetrate better.

      Hope that helps! 🙂

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