I made a conscious effort to allow my son to define his own style. I always found it ridiculous and juvenile when parents dressed their children in miniaturized adult fashions. For one, it develops a brand dependent child. Usually without a sense of financial responsibility. I feel as though many parents think it’s cute to see their little ones in the hottest brands but don’t consider the later ramifications of those choices. When baby is a teenager and that same outfit now costs $500+, then it’s an issue. Secondly, it’s the parent’s style. Not necessarily the child’s. The fact that one purchases the clothes is not
I think I’ve mentioned before that I have a LOT of sneakers. I mean an entirely obscene amount. I also have more than my fair share of clothes. My wife and I keep ourselves neat. However, I was always careful to not dump my interest in clothing and shoes onto my son. I was so effective, in fact, that he pretty much has zero, zip, zilch … not n’an bit of interest in clothing and shoes. I’m reminded of this every time I have to buy him either of the two. It’s a bucket of frustration when I see a really nice article of clothing and suggest it to him and he’s all, “I don’t like it. It looks horrible!” I’m left standing there thinking to myself, “Son, that’s Ralph Lau … bah … nevermind.” Today was one of those times.
We went to the mall to buy him a new pair of sneakers. The pair he’s been wearing he seems to have run to Kenya and back in. I can’t find any other reason for them to have holes in the bottom. Needless to say, they were fit for nothing but the nearest trash receptacle. We made it clear to him before we hit the mall that he had to buy a pair of shoes there. We were not going to drive to more than one location to buy a single item. The mall has more than enough choices.
I remember wanting new shoes as a kid and being extremely limited by what my Mom could afford. I was teased often in middle school by kids with more financially able parents. It never broke my stride but it was pretty annoying. My son, thankfully, doesn’t have those limitations. We still shop for him with reason in mind but if he really likes something, we’ll pay $100. We know that he won’t be asking for another pair and that he’ll wear them to the point of exhaustion.
So we arrive at the mall and give him free run of the place. Of course, he doesn’t know where to start. Ummm … how about a SHOE STORE! He makes his way through 3 different stores and doesn’t like anything. Zero, zip, zilch … not n’an pair.
I reminded him that he had to buy a pair at the mall.
After about 2 hours of milling around and in between mommy’s stops, he finally picked a pair of shoes. SUCCESS! You know where he found a pair that he liked? H&M. The not a shoe store! I do have to say that he definitely knows what he likes and he actually saved us a bunch of money. The pair he chose came out to a whopping $24.98 plus tax. That’s a sweet deal both ways.
Talk to me, WGK readers! How are your children with style? Are they easy to please or super picky? Let me know your experience in the comments.