I don’t understand women and the competition that seems to arise regarding due dates. My wife is as bad as all of them: we were originally given the due date of April 4th, but then after our 20 week ultrasound, this due date was pushed back to April 15th. Yet, when people ask her what her due date is, she tells them April 4th. Why? And when they ask how far along she is, she goes with the amount of weeks associated with the April 4th due date, instead of the April 15th date. So my question is, what’s going to happen when she hits 40 weeks? Will she just be 40 weeks for two weeks straight? And what if she goes over her April 15th due date? What will she tell people then? I don’t understand it…it’s as if, if she says her due date is that day, then it will magically come true – perhaps because she is so uncomfortable now. Of course, she’s not the only one that plays these ‘change my due date’ games. A good friend of my wife’s is also pregnant, due a month after us, almost exactly. I couldn’t help but laugh when my wife came storming into the bedroom with her laptop, spouting angrily about how dishonest some people are. At first I was thinking it was headline news about some crooked politician or church official. No – it was her friend, who posted a picture on facebook, announcing that she was “5 ½ months pregnant and still hardly showing!”
“SHE IS NOT FIVE-AND-A-HALF-MONTHS PREGNANT!!! I AM ONLY FIVE MONTHS PREGNANT!! SHE IS FOUR!!! HOW CAN SHE SAY THAT TO EVERYONE!!! OF COURSE SHE’S NOT SHOWING YET!! SHE’S BARELY OUTSIDE HER FIRST TRIMESTER!!!”
I had just seen my wife’s response to a friend’s email, clearly dictating that she was two weeks ahead of her real gestational cycle.
“I’m sorry babe, maybe, since this is her first child, she’s counting the months as four weeks each, instead of the five that they really are?” I speak in a voice as supportive and understanding as physically possible. No use bringing up the fact that she likes to claim herself further along than she actually is as well. Especially not right now.
And then there are the ones who give the disclaimers: ‘Well my due date is such-and-such, but I ALWAYS have my babies three weeks early, so really I’m more like such-an-such”. Or the induce-me’s: “My due date is such-and-such, but I have a pact with my doctor to induce me as soon as I hit 39 weeks. No way I’m staying pregnant one day after then!”
I just don’t get it. Maybe it’s because I don’t have the baby inside me, but I still just really don’t get it. It’s not like it’s good if the baby comes early – we’ve been there, done that. Having your baby in the hospital for three weeks after their birth is not only expensive – it’s exhausting. So why compete to have the baby sooner than its due date?
I guess it’s just one of those cosmic women mysteries I’ll never understand. Please, if anyone can explain it, I’d love to hear…
– Devon writes with his wife Heidi as a freelance writer. The two enjoy sharing real life stories about their family with online visitors. Their work is also sponsored by various websites. Two such websites are Hello Kitty Manicure and Shellac Manicure.