Last night I watched a piece about transgendered kids on the Style Network. The Mother of a 16 year old transgendered um… boy was just hit on by her “son’s” male mentor… who happens to have been born a woman.


I’m so torn as to what my approach would be if my own son or daughter felt that they had been born in the “wrong body”. After watching the exposé, the thought absolutely terrifies me. Gender lines are so crossed nowadays, and gender identity disorder in children has become even more prevalent. I don’t know if it’s television, parenting, society; or a befuddled combination of the three – but it’s out there and obviously something to remain aware of.

On the one hand, I know that my children’s happiness is at the forefront of my mind. I wouldn’t want them to be one of those people who chooses to take their own life because they’re just that miserable…

But on the other hand, I would have the obvious concerns of my child falling pray to ridicule, hatred, and retaliation. The consensus was that most children diagnosed with what they called Gender Dismorphic Disorder would eventually just… grow out of it; so maybe trying to coax them out of it is an option?

Gender identity disorder in children is a real issue. If it came up in your family, what would you do? How would you deal?

Would you support your child and praise them for being true to themselves and who they believe themselves to be? Would you try and protect your child from society – possibly saving them from ridicule, pain, and falling victim to a potentially fatal hate crime? OR, do you believe this to be an issue completely created and perpetuated by the parents?

It’s such a tough topic. Watch the clip below and prepare to be torn.

*Update: Since this piece was posted, the Style Network video clip has since been taken down; but Lisa Ling covered this subject matter in an Our America piece that was equally as poignant. Check out that video below.


  1. March 3, 2014 at 6:22 pm — Reply

    I know I'm late, but I just saw this. You make some fantastic points. The entire issue is something that I'd never even considered. I appreciate you providing a little more incite.

  2. August 28, 2011 at 4:53 pm — Reply

    You are correct that most children who are diagnosed with GID don't grow up to be transgendered, but that's because the medical diagnosis is broken and based almost entirely in gendered stereotypes rather than how the kids themselves feel (a good percentage grow up to be other flavors of LGB, however.) At very young ages the best way to go is let the kids explore what gender means and they'll figure it out themselves.

    As for shielding your kid from prejudice, you should know that rejection at home is the largest indicator for homelessness, depression, and suicide in LGBTQ kids and teens. Being open-minded and allowing them to explore their feelings will do them a world of good, better than asking them to suppress those feelings "for their own good" or somesuch.

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