It’s wash day for my baby girl! Since my natural hair kids series has been doing so well, I decided to share how I wash my curly kid’s hair.

Wash day has become a huge deal in the natural hair community. If you peruse any popular social network, you’ll find meme after meme that include the hashtags #washday and #naturalhair. The pictures displayed include everything from counters full of products to homemade concoctions that would make for better salad dressing than hair dressing. You’ll walk away believing that washing natural hair requires a full day and a huge arsenal of hair products.


The truth is that when it comes to washing your little one’s hair, or even your own, things really don’t half to be so complicated. Once you find products that work for you and your child, you’ll only need a few items and an hour or two to get the job done.

I’ve been asked the question quite a bit of how often I wash my baby girl’s natural hair. Well, that question has a complicated answer.

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During the summer months when she sweats, (and she sweats A LOT. Like a pig in a slaughter house) I wash her hair every other week. During the winter months when her hair tends to dry out faster, I wash her hair only twice a month. I’ll co-wash her hair in the interim if her hair seems particularly dirty.

Here’s what I use:


1. A Wide Tooth Comb

This item is optional as most die-hard curlys will say that fingers are all you need to detangle. With that being said, I personally find that a good wide-tooth comb can help loosen and remove those hair strands that have shed from the scalp.

2. A Water-based Conditioner

Use this mixed with water during your pre-poo process, and of course use it to condition the hair after washing. You’ll know if your conditioner is water-based if the first or second listed ingredient is water.

I use Royal Curl Moisture Rich Conditioner which works wonderfully on my daughters 4-a/4-b curls.

3. Extra Virgin Olive Oil

Use an organic olive oil during your pre-poo/detangling process to help loosen knots. Also use it after washing to help seal in moisture.

4. An old T-shirt

Using an old T or a micro fiber towel to dry hair (as opposed to a regular terry cloth towel) keeps hair from getting frizzy and tangled. Scrunch the hair with the t-shirt to remove excess water from hair.

5. A Water-based Detangler

If you find that your little one is prone to single-strand knots and tangles, investing in a water-based detangler may be ideal.

I use Fantasia’s Argan Oil Leave-in Curl Detangler Conditioner on my daughter’s hair AND my 4-c hair, and it works beautifully.

6. A Hydrating Shampoo

Dark and Lovely’s Naturale Anti-Shrinkage Hydrating Soak Shampoo cleanses my daughter’s hair wonderfully. It isn’t sulfate free (which is an ingredient that some curlys stay away from) but I like the rich lather that it produces. It hydrates her hair well and smells absolutely delicious.

7. Water

I place water with a few drops of conditioner into a spray bottle and use it during my pre-poo process. Dampening the hair slightly helps a great deal with detangling.


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Inspired by the adorable Riley of Mocha Kids check out the following video that adorably chronicles the elaborate event known in the natural hair community as “wash day”.



  1. Bridgette
    January 10, 2016 at 5:52 pm — Reply

    Going to try right now…my daughter has thick hair and a sensitive scalp. And unfortunately, I understand her pain because Im natural ans still get tears in my eyes when I go to the beauty shop or get braids. Thanks for the cute video!!!!

  2. June 13, 2015 at 8:08 am — Reply

    My grandbaby 2 years old has locs how do i keep them from looking so dry and fuzzy.

  3. Geraldine Reid
    February 17, 2015 at 1:07 pm — Reply

    Hi Kesha! My daughter is 7-months now and I wash her hair every other week with the baby shampoo from the Shea Moisture line. My question is – after washing, what is the best method/product to use to detangle her hair without so much breakage? Should I just use coconut oil or would a Shea moisture mix in her hair while wet prevent hair breakage while detangling? I know that baby’s hair sheds everyday, but I noticed the last time I washed her hair, I detangled it with a large tooth comb while shampoo was in it, and a lot of hair came out.

    • February 18, 2015 at 2:23 pm — Reply

      Hi Geraldine,

      It’s not so much the product but the technique that will cut down on your breakage during the detangling process. You can really use ANY conditioner to detangle as long as it has a lot of slip. Are you washing her hair in sections, leaving her hair in sections from washing all the way to styling? Try getting rid of the comb and finger detangle only. Part her hair into four sections before washing and “pre-detangle” section by section making sure her hair is moist from water and an oil of your choosing. Use your fingers to get out tangles and knots. I show how I do that with my own daughter in the video. Then wash her hair section by section and detangle as you wash using fingers only.

  4. Sumaya
    January 15, 2015 at 4:28 pm — Reply

    Helooo from one ukrainian young woman)
    Thank you, so cute tutorial video, thank also to your sweet princess. I dont have children yet, we are just married)) but I become think how I must care about hair my husband and future children, special if this will be girl. And now I find this tutorial and articles,thanks to God, I become happy))) So to time when our family will be more big I will be ready care about them by correct way. I’m very thankful to you

    • January 17, 2015 at 11:53 am — Reply

      SO glad that you enjoyed my video! I truly appreciate you watching. 🙂

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  6. Aleia
    September 8, 2014 at 2:36 pm — Reply

    Thank you so very much for sharing this post, for it was very informative. I cannot begin to say thank you enough. My husband and I were blessed with 3 beautiful little girls and yes it is a daily battle that I've been trying to conquer since birth. Thank you!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!! Please continue using yourself as a vessel of God to reach out to others and inform them of how to have healthy hair for our children and ourselves. And yes, I will be sharing your page!! Continue being blessed and once again, thank you so much. You have truly blessed my family and I. 😉

    • September 8, 2014 at 3:34 pm — Reply

      Yaaasss! Aleia, your comment has really just made my day! Thank you SO much for reading and sharing. My purpose with these articles (and for had been nothing more than than to help parents realize that their children can have healthy, beautiful hair that can grow without chemicals. Thank you so much for acknowledging that purpose and confirming for me that I'm on the right path. Much love and blessing to you and yours! 🙂

  7. July 21, 2014 at 8:20 am — Reply

    Awww.. Great post. I so love the video. I love your hair too baby. You're so beautiful! Very patient huh! Keep it up. Good job to your mom! 🙂

    • July 21, 2014 at 8:27 am — Reply

      My daughter said "taank yooou!" lol. I appreciate you watching! And thanks for the kind words 🙂

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  9. Angie D
    June 20, 2014 at 4:20 am — Reply

    Sooooo, that's why God gave me a boy! LOL! Otherwise, Auntie Kesha's house it is 🙂

    THis was a really cute tutorial. I really liked it from the kids perspective. Two thumbs up!

    • June 20, 2014 at 6:51 am — Reply

      LOL! Yes ma'am. You got lucky on that one – cause I'm not even gonna lie, taking care of her hair AND my hair is a LOT. Thanks for the love on the video. 🙂

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